Ok so I have a close friend of mine that has totally changed, she has a boyfriend now and he's not a good guy (at all!). and I dont know we just never talk anymore. But whenever we're at school she makes it seem like everything is ok.. How can I let her know how I feel about her boyfriend and our realationship??
2006-11-11 14:18:17 · 22 answers · asked by Mighty4theLord 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she has changed, I would make a list of things that have changeda bout her. Make sure it's her that has changed.. not not that you're simply jealous of this guy or that you just don't like this guy.
If you just don't like the guy.. there's not much you can do about it. Ask her what she thinks of him.. if she says she really likes him except for this or that.. it's possible she sees the negative already. If she doesn't see what you see.. I'd just leave it alone. Be there for her when it falls through. If she spends less time with you, just spend less time with her. Not much else you can do.
Just remember., spend your time in positive thoughts. Not negative. Negative time spent is usually a waste.
2006-11-11 14:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by game buddee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her. Let her know how you feel straight up. Let her know that you care for her.
If she doesn't care about what you've got to say, then back up and give her some space to think it all out. Eventually she will either wind up hurt and will get out of the relationship or she will realize ahead of time that the guy she's with is no good. Hopefully she will listen to a good friend (which is you) and she'll get out of that relationship.
Keep in mind that ppl who have completely changed need a lil time to turn their life around again.
2006-11-11 22:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should talk to your friend and tell her that you miss the relationship you used to have before her bf came into the picture. Don't dog on him unless he has done something that warrants it. If you have information that she needs to hear, tell her but just remember that you wouldn't want her to dog on your bf. If you absolutely must talk about her bf, tell her that you need to talk to her about him and that you won't dog him out ever again (and mean it) and then express all your concerns and move on. She obviously cares about this guy so she has turned a blind eye on the "bad" things he's doing. If what he's doing can/will hurt her, she needs to know and she needs a good friend that has her best interests at heart to let her know.
2006-11-11 22:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her ONCE how you feel and let her know you'll be there for her -- and then let the ball be in her court. Chances are she's going to blow you off, but then her relationship is going to go badly and she'll know you're a true friend. Just be there for her when you get the call in the middle of the night. That's the mark of a true friends...the ones who stick with you through thick or thin. Just take her out for drinks soon and tell her your concerns.... then let it be.
2006-11-11 22:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just going to say your jealous but if you think you can knock some sense into her head go for it until then be her close friend like always. It's going to be different because she has to joggle both of you and I know you know when people first meet they spend all there giving time together but sooner or later you have some time with her be patient just (speaking) typing from experience. Good Luck!
2006-11-11 22:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Goose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and start a conversation and then calmly fall into talking about boyfriends.but if you are a good friend you'll tell her whats best for her& how ever it ends up o well. Atleast you wont wake up feeling guilty.
2006-11-11 22:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do not listen to advice about relationships. So don't offer your thoughts unless she asks. If you want her for a friend, just be a good friend and be there when the bad times hit for her.
2006-11-11 22:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if there's no abuse. You shouldn't get involve into their relationship. If she ask for your opinion then speak your mind but if not never try to involve yourself into this. Involving yourself into her relationship may cause you more problems with her. How old are you guys?? And What do you mean by totally change.
2006-11-11 22:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by IvetteM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be letting her make her mistakes. How would you feel if someone came up to you and said you're bf was a loser? You'd be p*issed off.
You just need to be there for her and support her when she needs you. Thats what friends are really for.
2006-11-11 22:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same way of my friend she found out the hard way just last month and i told her about that right now i'm haveing a problem with right now as we speak.
2006-11-11 22:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by lilmnhockeyfan2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋