When he sees that I get upset over his non-stop talking about her, he won't talk about her at all. Then we go out to dinner and he has a drink or two and the schoolboy crush becomes evident once again as he becomes very talkative. I think if he has the opportunity to have an affair with her, he will. At this point, I believe it is all him -- not her. She has a serious boyfriend. I'm convinced nothing is going on at the moment. He's home every evening, weekend; no mysterious phone calls, etc. What is the best way to handle this situation? It happened once before with another woman; I did nothing. This time, though, I'm upset and I don't want to keep it all inside. Thanks!!
2006-11-11 14:18:10 · 15 answers · asked by misskitty25_25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think probably the only thing you can do is tell him exactly how you feel. There is no point saying anything about it if he has been drinking though, I'm sure we all know how pointless that is. It is probably just an ego thing for him but l would tell him you are going to speak to her about it. I am sure that will settle him and he will be so embarrased , that should be the end of that. As much as it annoys you though if it is all innocent l am sure you have nothing to worry about. He probably knows he doesn't have a chance in hell of ever getting her and that makes him more interested. Just tell him you will no longer stand for his nonsence and if it continues you plan on looking for someone who will love you for who you are, you don't need his crap. Good luck.
2006-11-11 15:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your one tough cookie!!
I, personally, couldn't take it.
Do you need to be spiceing up your romance? If it was great, he wouldn't be infatuatede with her, would he?
Too bad you couldn't get the serious boyfriend to put a scare into him! lol Bet he'd be a bit put off by that.
Does he just see your upset, or are you telling him you are? I'd be doing some talking!!
If he's got this fasination, let him fantasize in his own head, you don't have to hear about it.
IF hubby did the hireing, make him get a new secretary, or better yet, you do the hireing................I'm thinking the new kind of secretary.......the one's with tight buns, chest and bisips to die for! LOL Good Luck
2006-11-11 14:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, he has a crush on her. You should quietly, without getting upset, tell him how you feel about the situation, and explain to him that he is married, and the behaviour is inappropriate and makes you very uncomfortable. Ask him to role play for a minute, and put himself in your place, thought and feeling-wise. That's a very powerful tool for making a person realize what they are doing to them looks like.
2006-11-11 14:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by Jack 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight with him. Tell him "honey, do you know that you are having a crush on your secretary? You better check yourself . You are acting like a fool. Would you like it if I keep rambling on about a guy friend? Snap out of it or I will divorce you"
2006-11-12 03:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is obviously infatuated with her, but he can be infatuated and not have an affair. Still, it must make you feel like less of a mate. Maybe you should tell him how it makes you feel.
2006-11-11 14:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by dirtyrubberduck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seem to me you are jealous of your husband secretary.but it good she has a boyfriend.and it seem to me you dont have much of a life if you are going to worrying about your husband secretary if he does have a affair with her there nothing you can do about it.in less he tell you about it.so i think you are worrying over nothing.so i suggest you need to go and put your mind on other things.or talk to your husband secretary and let her know what on your mind??.good luck
2006-11-11 14:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well leave him make him realize what he is losing make him work for it than after he was worked Hard at getting you back come back with love and passion cause you need to start the courtship again that you had in the beginning light that fire baby
2006-11-11 14:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by David R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he realizes how often he brings her up.
Tell him you know he has a crush on her but he needs to keep a handle on it because it's not good for your relationship, it hurts you, and it may cause a problem on his job.
2006-11-11 14:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should start an imaginary crush on somebody and throw it in his face constantly. he might get the hint, or you could just tell him straight out how hurtful it is to you. if he's any kind of husband he will forget about her immediately.
2006-11-11 14:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by whatup 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both should sign up for some sort of counseling for him to get his mind straight and so you arn't keeping it all inside.
2006-11-11 14:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by JA+JH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋