I Have This Friend Who Likes To Make You Feel Guilty..?

Question

Does a friend have the right to make you feel guilty that they have to live in there car. Because she is already starting to lose my trust with me cause she owes me money and how do i tell that i don't want to come over to my parents house even tho i'm 30 years old and i rent from them she doesn't like to respect my views on things or anything what should i do i just hate talking to her on the phone i figure that i will text sometime in the mid morning that i will not be home when she gets off at work tommorrow at 4p.m. so she could make me feel guilty for her stay the night and have my parents feel sorry for here and she is a real bug a boo for real and no joke.

I thought she changed during the seevn years after she got married she gotten married in 1999 she is just showing her true colors now after seven months

I have sat down with her and told her how i felt it goes threw one ear and out the other she doesn't even listen. And she owes me money on top of it and she had the never to tell me to get a life that i don't have one cause my life revoled around my neices and nephews and she is jelouse that i have that and she doesn't have that at all.

I have helped her before i'm getting tired of it she already took advantage of my help she doesn't know how to stop asking and she doesn't like to listen to rules at all she has do it her self i know it's sounds real mean i'm done begin her door mat.

Answer 1

talk to her and tell her how she makes you feel, if shes a good friend she will understand, or point it out when she does it, so that she will know that you're not making it up, give her examples of when she does it. it is always better to tell someone how you feel, then to sit, and suffer with their abuse or mistreatment

Answer 2

I like the phrase, "Pack your bags... we're going on a guilt trip".

You must be firm. It is good to help someone who needs it, but don't let them take advantage. If she is really in trouble when she comes get out the phone book and use the internet and find programs to help the homeless get back on their feet. Write them all down, and next time she asks take her to one, or at least suggest one to her, every time she asks. Help her get the free help that is offered there, which she desperately needs. Make it clear you cannot provide it, but you know who can. Hopefully she will realize freeloading isn't a permanent fix for her problems. Many people who have mental problems "fall through the cracks" in our social welfare programs because they cannot do the paperwork that the rules require, or they cannot live with, or live by those rules. One very big rule is a person cannot collect any benefits if they don't have a permanent address! This makes it impossible for homeless people to get the help they need to get back on their feet. Some helpless and homeless people don't even know they would qualify for help if they got a physical or mental evaluation and a Dr. certified they weren't able to take care of themselves. If she's really a friend, don't dread this chance to try ONE LAST TIME to help her get help to get back on her feet.

Good Luck and God be with both of you.

Calico.Kitty

Answer 3

Sorry but you need to tell her she needs to find new friends.
Friends do need help but if she on you like that ditch her tell her to leave you alone and forget about the money she can keep it go away. Don't pick up your phone. Change your answering machine and say I've made a few changes in my life so if I don't call you back your one of them. That works! Good luck!

Answer 4

If you feel this way about her...why did you choose her for a friend, and choose to keep her as a friend

Answer 5

If you can not stand to be around her then stop trying to be her friend.

Answer 6

She sounds toxic. get rid of her.