circumstision?

Question

So i was just curious and wondering what others peoples views are on circumstison me and my partner are having boy and dont really know much about this.i myself have never been with someo ne who wasnt circumstised and have no idea what the other half look like.i also heard some doctors wont do it anymore
so i would love to hear from you if u had boys that were or wernt why or whynot what influenced ur desicion im so stuk on this

Answer 1

My husband and I spent a lot of time doing research on this and trying to make the right decision before our son was born. We came to the conclusion that it might be just as well to leave him uncircumcised, but we decided that we would personally rather have him circumcised. However, when he was born, the doctor refused to circumcise our son because his penis was partly attached to his scrotum. He said we'd have to wait until he was older to have it done. We didn't want to put our son through the pain at a later time, so we decided to just leave it. Then, a few months later, the doctor said that there really wasn't a problem and we could have him circumcised if we wanted but he recommended that we not do it. Not long after that, my son started getting infections. No matter how well I kept him clean, he still got infections. He would scream in pain, and I just couldn't stand it. So, I asked to doctor to circumcise him. Of course, then the doctor refused because he did not think it was necessary. Finally, when our son was 9 months old, I found a doctor to circumcise him, and I have never regretted it since. He no longer gets infections, and I no longer have to listen to him scream in pain. Also, the pain medication for the circumcision worked very well and my son never fussed at all. We were so worried about it being too painful for him, and we were so thankful that it was not a problem.

Trying to decide whether or not to have our son circumcised was such a difficult decision for us before he was born. Now that I know what it is like to care for an uncircumcised child, I know what my decision will be if I ever have another boy.

Answer 2

My father's side of the family is Jewish and even though my husband is not circ'd I always just assumed I would. Well like they say assumption is the mother of all f*ckups.

The more I thought about it the more I realized how wrong it is. There is nothing wrong with a foreskin, it is there for a reason. What right do I have to mutilate my son? Why do boys not have equal protection under the law.

Then I saw my baby boy's penis. Let me tell you I had already made up my mind but even the thought of hurting him made me sick. An infant circ'd penis is nothing like an adult penis. The foreskin is completely fused to the head of the penis, it almost looks like circ'd penis and it is soo small. I can't imagine trying to cut off something that small. And to rip it off, it is attached like a fingernail. I would rather die than hurt my son.

I also have discovered some other things:
Sex with an uncirc'd man is more pleasurable, I always thought it was just the individual, but the extra in acts like lubrication making it much more pleasurable for the woman. (Not to mention slightly bigger, and bigger is better shhhhhhhhh don't tell men, well wider anyway)

Sex for an uncirc'd man is more pleasurable. The foreskin is rich with nerve endings. Not to mention the protected head of an uncirc'd mans penis is more like the inside of your mouth. Way more sensitive than say the skin on your cheek no?

Almost all the reasons adults/older boys were previously circumcised for are not treatable with one or a combination of drugs, creams, and exercise.

A doctor has no way to predict your son's future penis size. If too much skin is taken it can cause erectile difficulties, too tight skin or cause the hairy skin from the scrotum to be pulled onto the shaft of the penis. I was with a man like that, it was gross. I didn't know at the time what caused it. Seriously a hairy penis -- blech. Also sometimes it heals unevenly and can cause the penis to bend.
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Caring for my uncirc'd boy is a breeze. Just wipe the penis with a diaper wipe, same with in the tub. It is EXACTLY like washing an arm or finger. Actually we are struggling with belly button infections, not even one problem with his penis. In fact his one really painful diaper rash barely touched his penis and his penis wasn't sore. It was the folds and creases around his legs, and on his buttocks.

You do however have to watch/talk to anyone who will be changing your son. Some people have a mania with retracting foreskins. Foreskins should never be retracted until the boy does it himself. He will not hurt himself and retract it before it is ready. Forcible retraction is the reason certain previous generations had so many problems with uncirc'd boys. It can cause permanent scarring and adhesions.

I will not argue that circumcising *may* be protective against certain STDs, such as HIV. But should you mutilate a baby rather than teach your son responsible safer sex. Circ'd or not condoms protect more than anything save abstinence.

There are videos on the Internet that will show a circumcision, you should watch them. And while some docs do use anaesthetic, most do not, and even those that do rarely use enough to completely prevent pain. Also you will not be giving painkillers for post-op pain and a raw open wound involving many nerves sitting in a diaper filled with pee and poop is going to hurt.

I have attached some links you may find interesting. And if you have any other specific questions feel free to contact me.

Babies are born perfect, they aren't furniture from Ikea there are no extra pieces enclosed.

Answer 3

Please do not mutilate your son's penis. Your son's penis will be exactly how it should be when he is born. If you do have it cut, he will lose out on sexual pleasure later on in life, and also he will be MORE prone to infection because the head of his penis will not have it's protective foreskin.
It is old-wives tale that it is hard to keep an uncut penis clean. Just talk to your doctor.
I did a LOT of research about this when I was pregnant with my son, and I decided to not circumsize him because of what I found out. Go to noharmm.org. It is a website I found and it will really tell you about the horrible thing circumsicion is. My husband is circumsized, and he wishes he wasn't.
Don't you think that you should be the one to make decisions about if your body is cut up or not? Why would you make that decision for your baby boy?

Answer 4

Circumsion done in the hospital is waaay different than a mohel does it. You don't have to be Jewish to use a mohel. I would do some research and make the best educated decision that you can. We went back and forth and after seeing the method used in the hospital. We were turned against it. Then we found a mohel that was well known. Our son did not cry and didn't have any side effects that other people claim. I support our decision to circ.

Answer 5

The AAP actually recommends AGAINST routine infant circumcision now.

There are no strong medical arguements for it. The "potential problems" that circumcision seeks to solve can be avoided by teaching good hygeine and safe sex practices.

Would you circumcise a baby girl? If not, why circumcise a boy?

I urge you to check out these links and be sure to watch the video as well.

An uncirc'd penis requires no special care.

EDITED TO ADD:

My hubby is circ'd and our son is not circ'd. Kids are SMART. Looking different than dad will NOT confuse them, as some people argue. People have different colors of hair, eyes, skin, etc. Adults have pubic hair and kids don't. Women have breasts and their daughters don't yet. Kids know not everyone looks the same. My son is almost 8 years old and as far as I know, he has never asked his dad why they look different. The kids I have heard of who did ask said, "WOW! Thanks for not letting them do that to me!"

The locker room arguement is ridiculous. The circ rate in the USA is approaching 50/50. Who do YOU think will get teased? The kid with the intact penis or the kid who LOOKED at another boy's penis?

Answer 6

A friend of mine just had a boy. She had no doubt in her mind when she found out she was having a boy, it would be circumsized. However, now that it has been done, she has different views. She had no idea that he would be strapped down and she says now she would seriously reconsider it. Thank God I had girls, but if I were to ever have a boy, I don't think I would have them circumsized. Talk to your partner and see if he has any strong views on the matter. Good luck

Answer 7

we chose not to for a few reasons. It was going to be a lot of pain for the little guy that we just couldnt inflict on him at such a young age, it was expensive and yes, most doctors do not do it anyore. There is no real reason for having it done, apart from the way it looks. We felt that it was something he could go and have done later in life if he chose to, but no real basis for us to make the decision for him. As long as you bath him every night and, as he grows older, teach him how to clean himself properly, there shouldnt be a problem. Our son is 18months old and until now, we havnt had to do much. From what we could gather from friends and family, not many people do it these days and we also thought we didnt want him to be the odd one out. Find out as much info as you can from different sources so that when you do make your decision, you are happy with it.

Answer 8

There is no medical need for this. All the hype about possible infection is just that: hype. Only a very small percent of males will ever have an infection problem. Circumcision doesn't guarantee a male won't get an infection. The complication rate of the procedure is greater than the infection rate of non-circumcised males.

Answer 9

First is it circumcision....just in case you were wondering. I have 3 boys and another on the way. We have had all 3 circumcised, as Daddy is. I think it is a better way to keep it clean and healthy, I know many men manage but I prefer circumcision. It also is a sign of the Jewish culture and as we are Christians I also like following in my spiritaul ancestors steps as a symbol of our heart before God. But there is no right or wrong here, it comes down to personal preference. We had a Dr. pediatrician, who strangely enough is a circumcision specialist as well as a Rabbi circumcise them. We also went on the 8th day, as that was the day Gad commanded Abraham...it is said the blood flow is lessened on that day, as well as the nerves. My oldest son didn't even cry! He is $150 but we don't mind it is just part of the expense that comes with boys. I personally think that is a silly reason not to do it, unless you are completely broke and it will put your family in financial danger.

Answer 10

I did not get my son circumsized.

The general rule is usually for the son to be whatever the dad is... or what the dad wishes it to be.

I didn't b/c I really didn't want to hurt him. They only use a general anesthetic cream.. and we all know thats just a load of crap... it doesnt work.

I think you should just think about the general rule and ask your husband/partner what they think..

Oh, and btw, my son is 4 now.. and has had NO problems with his 'area'. Not even cleaning problems. People that say that it is soooo dirty to not be circumsized have no clue what it really is like.