Im in college now, but I have a few friends from high school that were really close to me for 3 years straight and we do talk to once in awhile. Sometimes they act cold and distant almost as though they dont want to talk to me .. and other times they are as friendly as can be only when i tell them how much I miss them--they never say it first? There is one person in particular that I really do not get along with from high school and whenever we do talk they bring he/she up and how much time they spend together. These were people that I trusted whole-heartedly and suddenly they are acting very different why is this? why do people change so much after highschool and should I still consider these people close friends?
2006-11-11 14:01:35 · 8 answers · asked by lolo s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have made college friends but I keep my distance from alot of people because I dont see a point.. they will leave eventually just like my high school friends did?
2006-11-11 14:23:33 · update #1
girl, thats what happens, i only have one friend from high school that i would call close friend, but i still talk to a lot of them, tell them how they make you feel and if they still act the same , then you need to move on, don't hold on to the past, and im a psychology major, this is one thing i learn, people don't change, the way they act now is how they always were, something happen and it brought it out of them, just confront them, you're not in high school anymore, so be upfront
2006-11-11 14:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is out there it is a bi-polar world today. i know what your saying and it has me back tracking' all the time wondering how could i have judge people this wrong. any way most have manipulation in mind somewhere along the way cause i was enjoy the fun of it and then i was embarrassing by the colder changes that time brings. it may be that you were truly more happy with them than they were, i get out of this stuff my making them look like big shots and reducing the en equalities that might be present. the bases of this friendship has to be that you know each others faults and still love them, some where this is the core material or our friends are somebody Else's feeling now.
2006-11-11 22:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about what's happening to you. this is something that I can't understand to this day! I don't know if your three "friends" have started hanging around this person you don't get along with and have decided they like her better than you or what. I know that happens sometimes, or maybe they're close with her now, and have decided to bring up her name in front of you to see if you will say something bad about her, in order for them to have something to run back and tell her, so they can all try and start some drama. or maybe they're bringing up her name in front of you to let you know that they don't really want to be friends and they just don't have the courtesy to tell you the truth. or they may have started hanging around with this person, and she told them that you'd said bad things about them to her. who knows!
you could go on forever trying to figure out what the problem is, but I can tell you one thing for sure, the problem doesn't lie with you. you've done nothing but try to what you've always done with them, be friends! the problem is not you, it's them. they've changed. I wouldn't consider these people close friends at all. I would consider them acquaintances, and treat them as such. If you see them in a store or on the street, just say hi, and keep walking. don't stop to try and get them to talk to you, and even though you miss them, don't tell them that, it sounds like they're just feeding off of that, and it makes them feel important. don't let them do this to you anymore. If they really care about you, they will let you know. If the truth be known, they're probably jealous of you!!! I know that you're hurt and confused by their behavior, but the best thing for you to do is make some new friends. you deserve better that these so-called-friends.
I wish you the very best.
2006-11-11 22:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me when I went away for school. 4 of us girls were best friends and did everything together. Once I went away to school they stopped talking to me and when they did it was ackward, like we weren't even friends anymore. I loved them to death and wasn't going to just forget our friendship. We have been best friends for 10 years, besides that year in college. All I can say is that if they are your true friends they will be there in the end. I couldn't understand how my best friends (who helped me through burying my parents) would desert me. I am only thankful we are friends again. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out for you!
2006-11-11 22:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by blondieblue98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You moved on,they didn't. You are an outsider now.They only come around (emotionally)when speaking of old times.Maybe this person you don't like is " MORE FUN" so they don't care what you think. Or maybe your just seeing to much into it because you miss being there.Iregardless you need to move on. Make new friends.The true old ones will come around.
2006-11-11 22:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by mrimprovize59@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your all moving on, and now you do not have as much in common. It may be these people feel uncomfortable because they realize that you have grown apart. They dont want to hang around because not much to say, but do not want to hurt your feelings.
2006-11-11 22:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about your college friends??? These high school friends maybe feel they are being left behind....People just do change they mature...brain develops interests expand.......Relax
2006-11-11 22:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Deb M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dunno. and make some college friends.
2006-11-11 22:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by john 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋