What the heck is going on with me?

Question

I really think I am just in the "Growing up" process cuz I'm only 13 but I've like done anal stimulation before and I want to do it again, but then I think NO ITS GAY and I'm just constantly worrying and feeling guilty probably cuz it really is wrong.

But I've had problems with anxiety and eye contact. Its just a mess. I just really don't want to be like this. Hopefully I am bi-curious, because I never wanna be gay. I'm not w eird, you just don't know me. I wonder if anybody else is going through this. By looking at me, you'd never be able to tell, but im just worried.

I've spent so much time browsing through yahoo answers. If I worry anymore about oritentation, how i am in other peoples eyes, I'm going to hurt myself mentally.

Oh, and please no BAD comments. Thats the last thing I need right now.

Well as far as the anal thing, Its like im only "gay thinking" when im sexually hyper but then the gay goes away and I'm liek oh my God what did i just do AHHHH

Well I guess I just don't have anything else to think about. I don't get out much because of anxiety, so I don't have that many friends. Its ashame cuz im such a cool dude

Answer 1

OH MY GOODNESS yo i do the same thing! about the "what did i just do " effect! and ask god why this happens yo we have a lot in common stay with me on this yahoo thing please i wanna get to know you!

Answer 2

You are awfully young to be so concerned... but then, I guess I was worried when I was your age. You may or may not be gay but the anal stimulation is not the only reason to be gay.

There is a PHYSICAL reason that guys enjoy anal sex... it's called the prostate. Having your prostate massaged can be EXTREMELY ENJOYABLE!!

Unfortunately, for most straight men, they never get to enjoy this feeling, because they are usually too homophobic to realize that anus play can be enjoyable.

So, cut yourself some slack, and applaud yourself for having the balls to state what you enjoy.

Now, if you want other guys to pleausure you anally, you may be gay. However, there are other ways... gals can help their guys out with strap ons, fingers, toys, dildos, etc.

Do a google search on "Male G Spot" or "Prostate Massage" for more details, including health-related articles. These articles may refer to "prostate milking" which is similar to massage.

And a guy has NEVER had an orgasm until he's had one while his prostate is being massaged. He won't even have to have any stimulation around his penis for that to happen.

Make sure your anus is clean and your bowels are empty and Try it! If done properly, he is definitely in for a TREAT!

Please note that most links below are adult-only.

Answer 3

Well, being as you're 13 it's hard to discuss this without fear of telling you stuff that (at least in society's view) you're not supposed to be ready for.

But it sounds like you're struggling with social pressure against an activity that you enjoy, so I'll give the basics: being gay means you're physically attracted primarily to men (presuming you're a guy yourself.) If you're a guy, and you're not 'turned on' by other guys, then you're definately not gay. And whether or not you enjoy certain other things that people associate with gay men doesn't affect that at all.

Answer 4

Hi, well citygirl2 read my mind that's everything i wanted to say to you,she is right you are at a curious stage in your life don't put any labels on yourself, please wait until you are older to start a sexual relationship,i know most teens don't understand what that means until they themselves are older,then it clicks,but no matter what always protect yourself,cause if you have sex with someone,you are also having sex with every partner they have had sex with ,in a sexually transmitted disease kind of way,does that make sense,i hope so..and thank you for being so honest and clear with your question so it could be answered properly,many people get wrong or crappy answers because we don't have all the facts,i think you are a smart young man and will do your best to make the proper decision for yourself..and just a little love to everyone who answered his question with love in your heart,and sick of seeing smart--- answers to some of these kids who really need some answers..Bye Deb

Answer 5

You're a bit young to be sexually active anyway, but just so you know anal stimulation is not strictly a gay thing.

There is positively nothing wrong with being gay, and it's not something you can turn into, or look like. I know from experience that growing up can be tough, let alone if you're gay/bi or think you might be.

If you can, talk with your dad or older brother or uncle or something, or talk with a counselor. It is ok to be scared, but it really helps to have someone to talk to.

Answer 6

If you have already experienced anal stimulation and fighting the feelings, then you probably are a gay in the closet who does not want to admit it because it is wrong..Just be careful and protect yourself

Answer 7

You are just being curious. Your growing up and wondering what that is. Just learning what feels good for you. Doesnt mean that your gay. I know men who like anal stimulation, and they are no where near gay.

Answer 8

It's OK to experiment with what turns you on.
You don't need to worry about whether you're gay or not - if you meet someone you're attracted to physically, you'll know then.
You're just a normal, horny teenager, so don't worry.

Answer 9

Dude you are 13, you have yrs ahead of you to think about things like this. you are going thru puberty just enjoy yourself for now

Answer 10

GO GET HELP!!!!!ASAP! therapist, phycologist, etc.....