I've been feeling really depressed..not wanting to clean house, etc. since husband asked to date others- how ?

Question

How can I get my energy back? If you look at the previous question I just asked (my husband wants to date others and let me date others but not get separated legally) I told him NO WAY. Yet I have since lost psychic energy for doing much of anything. I feel drained. How can I get my energy back?

Answer 1

i don't want to offend you or hurt your feelings anymore than your hubby all ready has . but he is obviously not happy with just being with you . he wants other woman in his life for a reason and most likely its for sex. and you knowing this is only going to make you more depressed and unhappy . if i where you i would ask him for a divorce no way would i stay with a man who needed other woman . but that's just me i am not the sharing kind when it comes to the man i love. i wish you luck .

Answer 2

I am not a proponent of divorce - but you need to move on! He is wanting to have his cake and eat it, too. I have felt the same way as you - in a bad marriage, my husband didn't want a divorce, but he didn't want to start behaving like a married man, either. I couldn't sleep, couldn't function, quit doing the things I loved, was not a good friend/sister/daughter, etc. Everyday activities were a struggle.

When I finally left with our daughter - I felt like the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders. I felt so much better both physically and mentally. People I knew only marginally would comment about how well I was looking, more color in my face, less tired, etc. That spoke volumes to me. (Of course this was a very difficult time and I was very sad, angry, etc., but compared to they way I HAD been feeling, it was a huge improvement.) I waited for six months before filing for divorce, but by then I knew it was the right thing for me to do and had the energy to cope with it and facing the future.

Probably just getting your own space away from him would do you a lot of good and then you can make serious, big decisions. I wish you the best of luck, and I am so sorry you are having to go through this.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Why does he wanna see other people? Why did he marry you just to see other people? That makes no sense. Tell him no that's not k and if he can't accept that then you guys should go to marriage counseling and see if the marriage is worth saving. If not do the Brittany Spears thing and get smart and get rid of him. It's also a possibility that even if you don't agree with seeing other people he might just end up doing it behind your back. As far as getting your energy I would go seek counseling for yourself if you feel there is no other way to beat your depression.

Answer 5

Leave him because he is an ***. Who does that? Tell him your better then that and are not going to be a side line while he is out having fun. You have no energy because he hurt you pick yourself up, pack your bags and find someone else. He will likely cheat on you or has someone in mind to say something like that. Show him you will not put up with this you are treated how you let others treat you. Take care

Answer 6

This sounds like a really tough situation. Everyone views marriage as something different,but to me marriage is a vow to be with each other and each other only. If he wants to be with someone else than you should take a step back and evaluate the relationship.Maybe marriage isn't the right choice for the two of you.Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

Dear Sweet, You can regain your energy by doing what your husband asked. What he wants is a real hung stud to f**k you. You need to go out and find one and start enjoying yourself. Take control and tell your husband that you are going to start going out and find a big black stud to give what you need. You do that and you will be filled with energy.

Answer 8

If he is wanting to see other people, then you guys need to get divorced or try to work through. If he is thinking this way, then he obviously doesn't love you. I say dump him, but if there are kids invloved it probably won't be that easy. Don't cheat on your husbancd, even though he wants to see other people. Wait until after it's documented and legal. Good Luck
God Bless and be Safe:)

Answer 9

well tell you husband that his comments made you feel that the marriage was over and that has made you depressed. tell him that anyone who suggest such a thing, has already approved of the act in their own minds. and it says that their is something that is lacking in the relationship he already has. Ask him what you did to deserve to be treated like this. you need answers in order to get your life back on track. until you do you will not be able to lead a productive and active life

Answer 10

Date other people like he does. Don't let him take your self esteem away from you. If you cant bring yourself to date get out of the relationship but plan ahead so you won't just be out there without a leg to stand on.