If you knew this girl, but you arent really friends and you come to find out that her husband is going to strip clubs and then taking strippers back to hotels with his friends to party and to do whatever else, would you tell her? What if he was sleeping with them without protection and she ended up getting something from him, would you feel that it wasyour fault because you never said anything?
2006-11-11 13:55:46 · 33 answers · asked by Jasmine829 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would get some pictures and tell her. Pictures are proof, she might be too blinded by love to take your word and you said you two weren't friends anyway. Or you could just drop off the pics anonymously at her house or work.
2006-11-11 13:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On no account tell. It's not your business and you won't be thanked for it. She should be able to tell if there is something not quite right in her marriage and if she doesn't then she is happy with it and won't a) believe you or b) like you for bringing her into the real world.
If she contracts something nasty as a result of his dalliances, yes you will feel awful... but thems the breaks, either way you are going to feel bad and it will be worse if you lose a friend because everyone shoots the messenger.
I had to go thru a similar experience where I knew stuff and said nothing for fear of upsetting a friend and worse still losing a friend. Eventually she twigged something wasn't right and they are now divorced but I was not the instigator and feel good about that. She too caught a few relatively minor STDs and I guess thats how she eventually came to the conclusion that something was amiss.
It's a tough call but I still think its better to say nothing. That's not to say that I didn't struggle long and hard with what I thought I should do and I was also very angry that I was in such a situation but eventually I was glad that I kept it to myself.
Like they say, the person it happens to is always the last to know.
2006-11-11 14:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by margo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He may be having unprotected sex & she should know about it. I would chicken out though in that I wouldn't want her to know my name but only because she's not a close friend. I'd send her a letter giving the names of the clubs and hotels he uses so she can check it out herself.
2006-11-11 14:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called communication. He is not communicating. You are actually helping him find a better place.
Also, if you have the information and do nothing with it, it hurts you and her. You need to tell her.
All (3) people may not like you after this is done, but it will move everyone's realtionship forward. It needs to be done. You'll have to decide if you are a strong enough person to do this and how you want to do it.
2006-11-11 14:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if the man in question isn't getting any at home!? Does he or not use protection?Is the wifey doing it with the mailman in his back while he's at work!? I personally would keep my nose out of this! I trust life with these things...God will protect the innocents if there are any!?
2006-11-11 14:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sherluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn straight you should tell...ask yourself if you were in her shoes wouldn't you want to know for emotional and health reasons? I doubt that most strippers have sexually exclusive relationships.
She could get STD's or HIV from her husband, and some can be transmitted even if a condom was used.
2006-11-11 14:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO i would not feel like it was my fault or my responsibility to tell
but i probably would tell even if it were in the form of an anonymous call or note.
2006-11-11 14:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by dydy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his fault for not telling her.
And are u postively sure thats what happen?
if you are you should tell her even though you arent really friends and if she doesnt believe give her some proof.
And tell her you care even thought your not friends.
2006-11-11 13:58:46 · answer #8 · answered by Thrills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell Her you have a duty to help your friend know that her husband is doing this so she can do something about it for herself she will be very greatful for this information.
2006-11-11 14:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you really know someone or are friends with them, I think you should definately tell. Do they have children? Think about that. Also, he could bring something home to her and what if there is no cure? Wouldn't you feel bad if she/he became ill?
Definately tell...I WOULD!
2006-11-11 14:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋