How do you cope with the possibility of being infertile?

Question

Been trying for over 1 year
For the past few months been seeking medical fertility treatments to no avail
only 27 with no health related problems

Yes, I've tried Clomid, injectables, hcg shots to induce ovulations, prometrium, insemination, the list goes on. It's day 28 for me and still no period and I do have tenderness, fatigue, and frequent urination but not sure if that's because of the treatments.

Answer 1

Hi, please ignore the comments about stress and all that hoo ha. I am currently undergoing Invitrofertilization. I had a valid medical problem that prevented me from getting pregnant on my own. People always said the same thing to me, in God's time and it'll happen when you relax, that is Bologney!!! If you have been trying for more than 1 yr and you are healthy, then you need to see a fertility specialist and find out what's going on. I have blocked tubes so no matter how much i relaxed or "destressed" I was ,pregnancy would not have been able to be achieved on my own. You may need some medical assistance. I would say get to a Fertility Specialist ASAP and then you and your doctor work on what needs to be done to get you pregnant.

Answer 2

I started with infertility when I was 25 and I'm now 33, I feel apart at the news was confirmed that my chances of having a baby may only stay a dream. I got into the infertility so far and just stopped. I couldn't bear another day of being poked, prodded and medication jabbed down my throat. Now with a little age on me a my life has gone in a different direction, I am willing to try again. Coping with idea of never having a child was one of the hardest things I've had to do. I went through the why me and why can't I, I live everyday of feeling like less than a woman, however I found that as time passed that everything happens for a reason. Don't ever give up on your dream, (I just had to take a break from mine)it's okay to say enough for now and try later. Don't beat yourself up everyday and remember everything happens for a reason. I hope you find a little comfort in this note...while I cannot take away the ache you feel and that I know so well, try not to get discouraged. Best of lucks and lots of dreams come true to you.

Answer 3

I would say that having only tried for a year, you should take it easy. It will happen when the time is right for you. Stress can inhibit ovulation and going through fetility treatment can put a dreadful strain on your relationship with your spouse. It can be all consuming and when it finally does happen, a couple can find that the only thing they have had in common in the run up to getting pregnant is the effort and stress of making it happen.
Make sure you find time to appreciate each other as the people you fell in love with initially.
You don't say whether your doctors have confirmed you are less likely to concieve due to not ovulating, low sperm count or any other reason.
In my case, after an ectopic pregnancy, I stopped ovulating completely, I was only 24 at the time, I am now 30. I cope with it by being grateful for the one daughter that I have (had her at 17), and regularly look after my 8 month old niece.
Though it does get easier with time, sometimes when I see mothers with their babies, it is still painful for me 6 years on, however, I know that if it ever got to the point where I needed something more, there are options available to me, like fostering or even adoption.
Unless your doctors have said otherwise, I really don't think you should worry too much about the prospect at this point in time.
I hope this helps.
Good luck.

Answer 4

I feel your anguish of infertility. For me the problem in not getting pregnant but staying pregnant.

It's been very hard to deal with all of the emotions of wanting to be prenant, and watching my friends and relatives go thru their pregnancies with out a hitch. I sometimes feel like I am a medical freak show and that the doctor will never be able to help me.

But, I've also been blessed with some amazing friends who have gone thru their own journey of infertiltiy. They have also chosen to adopt their children. Of course this was not just an over night choice, it was made thru thought, study, prayer, and so on. As I've seen them and listened to their experiences and as they have helped me I've come to realize that even though my body is broken, there are many children out in the world that need homes, and love.

Of course I'd love to be able to have my own child, but that looks like an ever fading thing for me. I still struggle with it, but I know there are options open.

Good luck with your treatments and I wish you all the best.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You start thinking about adoption. You may be one of the lucky people out there who was meant to bring joy, love, and hope to a motherless child. I don't mean you should stop trying to conceive, it took me 3 years. I just think that some people weren't meant to give birth, they were meant to help the world in a greater, and more important way.

Answer 7

Well, my husband and I are dealing with that. I guess I go on the fact that somewhere out there my baby will be waiting for me. You and your child will get to choose eachother. The love you will bring that child will be just as special as if you had carried it because, you picked them.

Answer 8

RELAXS, YOU CAN BE TOO STRESS FOR ONE THING.HAVE YOU BEEN ON THE PILL OR ANY KIND OF BIRTH-CONTROL. THIS WOULD CAUSE A DELAY IN YOUR GETTING PREGNANT
AT THIS TIME. YOUR DOCTOR SHOULD BE ABLE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING. IF HE CAN'T GET ANOTHER DOCTOR.

Answer 9

Have you taken clomid or any other fertility medications?

Answer 10

Adopt?