We may disagree, but can we really fault them for opening up?
2006-11-11 13:23:38 · 25 answers · asked by Diesel Weasel 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes...
There's one very important lesson in life that i'm learning from day to day...
There is a time and place for everything.
And sometimes you need to know when to just keep your mouth shut.
Sometimes you want to tell people how you feel but... confessing just makes it complicated.
Like if i were to confess that i adore you, wouldn't that make your life complicated?
I'm not saying i do but if i did, it would make things complicated, right? Just like if you were to say you adored me, it would make things complicated for me...
So there is a time and place for everything...
However, you may be talking about something like politics and religion. And i'm quite biased with those two issues. I don't like hearing what people have to say if it's preach-based. But i like debating on the grounds of NOT being ignorant and all "holier-than-thou". I've had far too many people tell me i'm going to hell already. Not really looking forward to another. And politics... that's on a league of it's own.
In the end... don't bother me, i won't bother you.
2006-11-11 18:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by falzalnz 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My initial answer would be no. But let me tell you of an experience I had on a date this weekend.
We had met at the restaurant, for dinner, and
were sitting there eating, when a group of Black
people walked in. My date said, and I quote.
"Look at all them spooks. You can't get away from 'em"
I do not tolerate racism, and this caught me off guard.
It immediately turned into a heated conversation, and
I ended up getting up from the table and leaving.
So, to answer your question...
it would appear, that yes, I can indeed,
fault someone for sharing their feelings.
2006-11-12 01:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by persnickety1022 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO. The act of opening up fully to another person is a sign of great trust and a very vulnerable moment. Irreparable damage can be done at times like these if caution is not exercised.
2006-11-12 07:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by turtle girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope... that is their opinion... it's not right or wrong... it just is... we may disagree with it, but I doubt that we're in the place to say that it's wrong...
Also, it's hard for some folks to open up and share their emotions... I've noticed that when somebody does, they usually get closed down and feel bad for opening up in the first place... it has happened to me before...
2006-11-11 21:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by misery 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we can fault some. The ones that make the iq of a room drop 50 points every time they open their mouth's.
2006-11-11 21:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by bown 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, feelings are real. you can't fault someone for opening up, but maybe you can help them see that there are ways of dealing and expressing that won't do them more damage. if they express their feelings in an abusive way, or violent way it does no one any good, in fact may cause more problems for them and their feelings since understandably people may avoid them.
2006-11-11 21:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by falling leaves 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I object only when required to agree with them to get them to let it go. If they want to share feelings, fine, I don't mind at all listening; I just don't want to be cornered and made to agree or disagree verbally. If I disagree, I will keep it to myself, especially if I think it will hurt them for me to say so.
2006-11-11 21:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are hurtful on purpose.
maybe it's not their "fault"
'cause they've got "issues" that they still have to deal with.
but, that doesn't mean they should be allowed to continue unchecked.
if no one tells them that they can't just rage and vent at will,
they're less apt to even try
to learn self control.
(if you "control" your life, you get to be the director of your life...otherwise, you're just a passenger on a run-away train whose tracks are laid by someone else)
2006-11-11 21:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, because that is who they are..
If we expect people to except us warts and all, we should try and remain open minded and understanding of other people's view points.. on and about life within reason..
2006-11-11 21:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, we should not fault others for the way they feel.
2006-11-11 21:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by kayboff 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋