i had slapped my fiance in the face, he turned around and punched me in the face
2006-11-11 13:11:57 · 15 answers · asked by wanda h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The two of you should definitely stay away from each other. Shame on the both of you. Keep your distance from each other. You should not have slapped him, and he should not have puched you in the face. Engaged??? The two of you should not even be in the same zip code, much less married!
2006-11-11 13:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a healthy relationship and it doesn't sound like either one of you are ready for a permanent relationship. You both sound like you have anger management and communication issues. At the least you both need someone on one counseling and if that helps you could consider couples counseling. Can you imagine being in a marriage that is so volatile? I counsel men and women to get out while the getting is good at the first sign of physical abuse and you're considering marriage with a guy who punched you! The writing on the wall couldn't be bigger or clearer. Run, don't walk to the nearest exit and get yourself together before getting into another committed relationship. There are deeper issues here if you two are fighting this bad already and you're still considering marriage. Two questions: why would you even consider going with someone who punched you in the face? And why would he consider marrying someone who hits him?
2006-11-11 21:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is a marriage made for disaster.
Are you both living together?
It is hard to let go, but you both need to assess your relationship and get help now, because if this is to continue, this is what your marriage will be like.
What made you so out of control that you hit him? I am NOT saying that what you did gave him permission to do anything, but hitting anyone should never be an option, especially the one you claim to love.
You need to get a handle on your anger, and learn to walk away if need be. He is responsible for his own actions and if he can hit you that easily without thought, perhaps getting out of this toxic relationship sooner rather than later is needed.
Only you can decide what is best for you, but getting yourself healthy and gaining a better perspective on things is the most loving thing you could do for yourself... talk to a professional regardless.
2006-11-11 21:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luckily for you he is JUST your fiance and NOT your husband. He has put you in your place but is that how you want to be put? You need to seriously ask yourself if this is ok, because down the line it WILL happen again. Look in your heart and heal the little girl in you, you do NOT deserve to be treated this way, NEVER! See why you have chosen such a person who "loves" you but treats you like dirt. You deserve better, for you life and your future. Good luck
2006-11-11 21:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure u should have hit him but don't know what he did to make u. No man or boy should hit a girl so leave him and find a real man or boy, no good an or boy would hit a girl
2006-11-11 21:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never should have slapped him and he never should have punched you afterward. You introduced violence into a relationship and it will NEVER be the same. CALL OFF THE WEDDING!!! I know from experience.
2006-11-11 21:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I think it is time to leave this guy! First he disrespects your child and now he is hitting on you! If you wanted you could turn him in to the police. It probably isn't worth that! I think it is time to move on in you life and find someone you can trust and cares for you and your child! Its a bad situation and you need out NOW!!!
2006-11-13 17:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by nextelcp48 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to that jerk kikster becuz I'm about to kick his ***! Just stay calm, You need to leave him becuz if he knows you will forgive him when he hits you hes not gonna stop hitting you he is going to think he can over power you! You need to leave from where ever you are and go somewhere safe and calm where you can think somewhere where he wouldn't know where to find you! Everything is gonna be okay!
2006-11-11 21:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that you shouldn't have hit him. That is besides the point, run don't walk away from him. If he can just hit you out of anger, what can he do when he is really upset. Leave now.
2006-11-11 21:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Err. Break up and never see each other again. Obviously you two don't know how to behave around each other.
2006-11-11 21:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋