Him and I have been together now 7 years and our first few years together were just wonderful. Now over the last few years sex that used to be frequent hardly exists anymore. When I ask him why all I get is "sex is overrated." and I end up beating myself up when I try and he just tells me "I dunno why you are trying I don't want to have sex," and goes back to playing video games on the PC. All I am thinking is that he is not attracted to me anymore and some times I can't help but cry. And when we do have sex it is like once every month and a half and he makes it sound like its a job or chore....Help please :*(
2006-11-11 12:52:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is just pure selfishness on his part. He's depriving you of a basic human need, it's a form of abuse. He's gonna have you so sexually frustrated he's gonna push you into the arms of another man.
2006-11-11 12:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn off the computer...accidently make it go on the fritz. When they are more into something other than you, the other thing needs to go. Its so hard to be put down like that but rise above it! im sure you could get it anywhere and let him know that!!! If he doesnt want you let him think some one else is persuing the chance! a little jealousy goes a long way. Not saying have an affair...that will only make things worse, but let him think there might be the chance that you are. And if he is having an affair take the loser for EVERYTHING!!!!!
2006-11-11 21:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by htmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet,
I was married for 12 years, and like you the first few were great in all respects. Then the sex backed off only to get even less later. Everything else was ok so i stayed. i somewht regret that decison cause it was worse to loose 12 years than it woul of been to sto the pain at 6.
I made a lsit of the reasons to stay on one page and those to leave on another and realized the those to leave out weighed the ones to stay
2006-11-11 21:02:29 · answer #3 · answered by jim m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's addicted to video games. Ever think of cutting his ISP? Maybe he has that seven (7) year itch. If sex is so over-rated then why is it the number one item searched on the web. Are you doing anything to entice him? If you need more sex and he isn't willing to accommedate you needs, I'm sure someone else will. Play safe though, too many STD and other nasty things out there these days.
2006-11-11 21:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
7 years with the same guy and not married? What is all that about? This guy is obviously getting what he wants out of the deal. Time to move on and find a serious guy that wants to make a life together.
2006-11-11 21:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok its not your fault at all, he may have problems in holding an erection and if so he needs to see a doctor, sit him down on the couch, cuddle him and ask him why he doesn't want much sex anymore, if he says no comment tell him that its ok to tell you he has a problem in bed, its common now days and then if he says that go with him to a doc......if its not that then maybe wear some nice short skirt or something along those lines yeah..........tell him also that its ok for him to cry to you about any possable problem that he may have..other than sitting him down, asking him or wearing something more reveiling there isn't much more advice we can give you unfortunetly but if you have any other issues please feel free to send us an emal
Mitch and Laura
2006-11-11 23:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both men and women go through times that they may lose interest, unfortunately it is usually because they are hiding something. I am 16 years your elder and still have a strong sexual appetite. When my ex started messing around she shied away from our sexual relationship that was once burning with desire. I wish you luck in finding your answer. Put him on the spot.
2006-11-11 21:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by T-Bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your man could be out running the streets but he's home playing
video games as long as you don't want anything your lights are on you have food to eat then you're good.Always remember this a
mans home is his castle and that's where the queen lives.so don't make sex an issue get it how you live
2006-11-11 21:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by D lightfully Blessed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Ok, it sounds like you two really need to have a heart to heart. Maybe wait til a time that you are alone with no distractions (tv, video games) andtell him how much this hurts you. Get him to hold you. Really get his attention. Get him to share his own feelings. I hope you two can work this out.
2006-11-11 21:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by cmariemarshall 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he on meds? How old? What is making him not be in the mood? It's not YOU! Stop blaming yourself, and try to find the REAL reason. If it continues, he needs to see a doctor. If he is of normal health, and not on meds, this is unusual. Good Luck!
2006-11-11 20:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋