Why shouldn't a girl be afraid to catch AIDS by a bi man who has had unprotected sex with other men?

Question

Since having sex with bi or gay men puts you in a higher risk catagory according to all the medical insitutions worldwide,
why shouldn't they be untrusting of them?

Answer 1

A girl should not be afraid of catching AIDS or HIV from a bi man who has unprotected sex with other men (or women) if he has tested negative in two separate tests taken at least six months apart and he is completely monogamous. Otherwise, she is taking unnecessary risks.

Answer 2

There are two different aspects to your question:

1) Why shouldn't a girl be afraid to catch AIDS by a bi man who has had unprotected sex with other men?

No reason. She should be very afraid. She should be afraid of catching AIDS from anyone (bisexual man, straight man, bisexual woman, lesbian) who has had unprotected sex with anyone (man or woman).

2) Since having sex with bi or gay men puts you in a higher risk caegory according to all the medical institutions worldwide, why shouldn't they be untrusting of them?

I don't like the word 'untrusting'. Bisexual men don't deserve distrust- they deserve the exact same treatment as any potential sexual partner, which is an expectation of full disclosure of sexual history, diseases, and possibility of transmission.

That's all. Don't make it out that bisexual men are the carriers of AIDS from the gay to straight community, just use protection, be discriminating with your partners, and take care.

Answer 3

AIDs is everybodys disease. So is prohibition to talk about it. Unfortunately we need to talk about it and we all have to protect outselves. There are gays who dont protect themselves and straight people who should protect themselves more. We all need to work together and respect each other.

I am gay and I go with gay and bisexual men. I always use protection but anybody can have AIDs whether gay or straight. Theres a three month incubation period before the AIDS virus becomes noticable in the bloodstream.

Unfortunately due to prohibition I cant really answer this in an open forum, regardless of the fact it is a totally valid question. For that, i have given it a thumbs up.

Answer 4

As a gay man and nurse, I do not think it anyway homophobic or ignorant to state that the risk of catching HIV/AID's is higher through engaging in anal intercourse (especially been the anoreceptive partner). It is thought that about 10% of men have had sex with another man - a "MSM" (these people include gays, bisexuals and nominally straight people who happen to have sex with men in a variety of circumstances) - but about 50% of HIV diagnosis are in this group, showing that gays are much more at risk. This is generally to do with the vascular (good bloody supply) of the rectum and its delicate nature. This does not mean that men are not "supposed" to have sex with each other but that gays have to be careful, again especially the receptive partner in anal sex. Politically correct or not the bisexual man discussed by the question poster will have higher risk for contracting HIV especially due to unprotected sex. Though I do think that if she IS ONLY trusting of people that state they are straight, then I believe she is naive and that safer sex is important for all sexually active persons. Its about taking resposnbilty for your own health and insisiting on use of condoms (the pill is NOT safe sex! no babies but lots of STDS!).

Answer 5

Well, if a women is having sex with anyone she should be taking precautions to protect herself from the AIDS virus. Especially, if they both have not been tested and are not in monogamous relationship. And having sex with someone who also has sex with men puts one in a high risk category. So, if this is the case and they are not concerned. This would lead me to think they are either un educated about the facts or have some feelings of being invincible. Good luck and God bless

Answer 6

True, statistically it is a higher risk category. But lower risk doesn't mean no risk, so the only guys you can be completely safe with are the virgins - guys who have *never* had sex.

But as for trust... a man who is honest about his past is at least somewhat more trustworthy than one who lies about it or won't talk about it. As much as you might be worried about catching AIDS from a bi man, you should be more worried about the guy who doesn't tell you anything.

Answer 7

LOL. To goldwing. Exactly how do you think str8 people were diagnosed with HIV in the 1st place. By having an encounter with someone who was either bi, did drugs (needles), blood transfusion, or from someone who had encounters with the above types of people.

Regardless of who they were with before they met you, protection should always be at the top of your list because no one is ever gonna look out for you or care about you as much as you care about yourself. Safety starts with one's self. If you aren't gonna play safe then don't expect others to either. It's all fun and games unitl someone finds out they have AIDS and then say one of the top 10 most used phrases in the world "How could this have happened?"

You are NEVER going to know if your partner has ever had protected/unprotected sex even if you ask them. Your best bet would to be prepared at all times and if you are going to get into a relationship then doing a simple AIDS or other fatal STD test will be simple. It's not insulting to ask your partner to get STD tested and anyone who does find it that way is someone you don't need to be with beacuse that (in my opinion) shows they have something to hide or are afraid of what might be found out. This is a no-brainer and YOU should really be cafeful who you are sleeping with.

Answer 8

Aids will end your life or cost a huge fortune to keep you alive...money that could feed the starving.
Having un-protected sex out side of marriage is very dangerous, selfish and stupid.
But then having sex outside marriage is basically what has caused the aids pandemic anyway. So that selfishness has caused untold suffering the world over.
The question you need to ask is am I part of the solution to aids or part of the problem?

Answer 9

What was the context? Was the bi guy in a monogamous relationship with a HIV- partner?

Either way, if he is HIV- then she cannot possibly catch HIV from him. Just because he is Bi and has, in the past, engaged in risky behaviour does not mean he is therefore HIV+.

Also, be carefull with your language, AIDS and HIV are two very different things, it is impossible to catch AIDS. It appears to me that you do not truely understand the concepts involved and are thus showing a degree of biphobia.

Answer 10

Wow, this HIV virus must be really intelligent in that it can differentiate between a heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual. Could this virus be intelligent enough to reason with?

In actual fact, the virus merely goes where it can - whether its via a homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, whatever. You are in danger with anyone who has regular unprotected sex. Hence, if a bisexual is sensible and takes precautions, he/she will be safer than a straight person who doesn't take precautions.