he shot himself in the head he did it with a small gun so he lived for four hours after.
every one said he did it becuz of his girlfriend and becuz she dumped him [no one saw it comming so we dont no]
his girlfriends mary* hast cried and isnt really isnt showing any emotion at all
is this o.k.?
were all worried?
what does this meen
2006-11-11 12:27:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Fifteen years ago my boyfriend killed himself. Although I am married now and have two children it still hurts like it was yesterday. The range of emotions when dealing with suicide is so vast. The anger and guilt are overwhelming. But the thing that gnawed away at me was- "how could he have been so desperately unhappy and I didn't know it? I saw him every day." I must warn you that sometimes you don't receive the support and sympathy that you need from the public because people think anyone that would kill themselves is a loser and you are better off without them.
I would suggest you talk to someone about your loss and encourage his girlfriend to do the same. I talked with someone (via phone) from the Survivors of Suicide organization. It is free. The people handling calls are family & friends of people who have commited suicide. They can understand your loss at the most raw level. And they will help you survive.
2006-11-11 13:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by paint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am truly sorry for your loss. Are you sure this girl isn't just trying to block it out? I had a boyfriend die when I was 16, it was kind of a suicide he overdosed. Maybe she just thinks it is all her fault and feels as though she shouldn't cry in front of all of you, maybe she feels like you all hate her. Sit down with her, and talk to her about some good times you had with your friends she will open up then. But make sure that is what you really want.
2006-11-11 20:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you and your friends. Suicide is a horrible thing to have happened. It effects everyone that was connected to the person. Your friend was obviously very troubled. It was about more than his girlfriend. He needed help to work through his struggles. His friend will probaly need help now because she is probably blaming herself. It might be good if all of your connected with this person sought some brief therapy to help you deal with the loss.
Good Luck.
2006-11-11 20:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by cbellsew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes when someone dies it is a shock to them, and they don't really know how to react to it all. And sometimes it really hasn't set in on them so they will eventually show it. Or maybe she cries alone, so she can feel secure about herself and not feel like she is being watched all the time.
2006-11-11 21:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slap that Mary girl. Mabe shel start to cry.
2006-11-11 20:35:39 · answer #5 · answered by Yaritza T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem real to her yet or she may be trying really hard not to show emotion. I'm Sorry about your friend.
2006-11-11 20:30:48 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first persons comment...i cry a lot but i try my hardest not to in public...only my close friends have seen me cry....its just the difference in how you deal with things.
2006-11-11 20:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably felt guilty some people don't show emotions at all but never now either.
2006-11-11 20:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all people grieve publically.
2006-11-11 20:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋