Hello, My girlfriend is 3 months pregnant and getting really really bad mood swings, It gets that bad that I have to sleep in a different bedroom - Before she fell pregnant she was fine and all effectionate - I understand its the hormones but do you have any advice on what I should do to make her less snappy and aggressive towards me, I don't want to end up with a 6" knife in my back!! allthough I dont think it will get that bad, (prays!)Thank you,
Dean
2006-11-11 12:24:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
"fell pregnant"? that is the term we use here in england and it was planned, I am not one of these guys that just get her girlfriend pregnant and then run away from the consiquence. (and no i dont aprotch her sexually, I dont feel that need now I have my baby inside of her! (our)
2006-11-11 12:31:12 · update #1
Intention of this question was to help my girlfriend not myself! I am a caring guy who loves my girlfriend to bits - Whats all the hostilaty about?! we have been together for 6 years, thats a big commitment in itself!
2006-11-11 12:37:50 · update #2
Just keep picturing what she was like before she got pregnant. Also remember you had something to do with putting her in this condition. You need to be patient and understanding as she goes thru this even when you want to run screaming into the night. Its not forever. Do things for her like give her massages to relieve her, back rubs, shoulder. For awhile everything will be about her because of what she is enduring for you, bringing your child into the world. That is something special. So keep that in mind and appreciate her and try hard to see her body is going thru changes that she isnt used to. Its very uncomfortable for her for 9 months. good luck dude.
2006-11-11 12:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Theirs nothing you can do to change how she's responding to things. A lot of the time she might not even realize how short shes getting with you. Keep showing her how you feel. My husband would do things around the house that I usually bug him about without me asking him. The less she has to do, the less stressed out she'll be. Also do spontaneous things like leaving a card on the counter or pillow telling her how much you love and appreciate her. The more supportive you are the less aggressive she'll be towards you. My husband said to just go ahead and take one for the team and give her, her space. Meaning just give up the bed, give up the TV etc. My husband let me have the bed all to myself with our first and now that I'm pregnant with our second he's starting to do the same. The more comfortable at night she is the less you have to worry about:) It will get better in a few months!
2006-11-11 13:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people who respond to these questions can be pretty rude.
That aside, I know how difficult pregnant women can be. I have a 2 children and one on the way, so I know first hand-I AM one-lol. I have never meant to be rude, or snippy. I didn't even realize I was doing it half of the time until all was said and done. Our hormones are raging- rising and falling. We feel nauseous one minute, then elated and then we cry. It really isn't personal. Just try not to fuel the fire. Ask if there is something you can do to help. A lot of time I find I act this way when I am overwhelmed or really tired and still have things to do. It does get better...just wait till the second trimester. Her sex drive might even return! Hang in there~ :)
2006-11-11 12:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry its normal. I mean of course your going to wonder what you should do, but there really is nothing. Its so hard for her to feel like that. I know she doesnt want to be like that. I am 20 weeks pregnant with my 4th baby and I can have some pretty bad mood swings too. I cant stand how it feels either. It feels horrible, and honestly( I dont know about her) but if Im in a bad mood, I want someone to make me feel better. Even if it means cautiously approaching her..lol. Some women though, just dont want to be messed with. My husband can usually get me back into a good mood again though. But I will say just try and be patient with her as much as you can. Its terribly hard to feel like that when you dont want to. She knows what she is doing, but cant help it. Good Luck!
2006-11-11 13:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your gf, I put my poor beloved through the same thing. Trust me, it isn't that she wants to be this way, its is very hard on her body and emotions right now, and I think its WONDERFUL that the two of you are expecting! Ignore the stupid remarks made, and try to support her emotionally. Worry can comsume a pregnant woman and drive her nuts, so be sure to reassure her of her ability to to this, and your love for her. I read a medical atricle when I was pregnant with my daughter that eating chocolte, not much, just a small piece, daily helped to increase the 'feel good' endorphines in mother and baby, and that these babies were happier and healthy as well. So I tried it and I not only did I feel better, but my baby was very easy going. I tried to find the reports on that study but couldn't. Best wishes to you both!
2006-11-11 12:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Playful_Pandora 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dean, your girlfriend is going through an emotional time. Hormones make it that way. There is nothing you can really do. My husband couldn't do anything right...I was so hormonal...all he had to do was breath and I was annoyed. Hopefully, once her body gets used to the hormones it will get better.
My advice is just to hang in there. When you see your beautiful baby, it will be worth it and you will be glad you stuck it out. There is nothing more beautiful than the first time you see your baby.
P.S. The second I gave birth, I was not the ugly hormone monster anymore. I was back to the women my husband fell in love with.
Good luck
2006-11-11 12:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by ssstinagail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just rude on yahoo.... maybe to help her cheer up you can do something really sweet and spontanious... or maybe shes crabby cause shes not getting sex and she feels like you dont think shes beautiful or something foot massages or her favourite flower and let her know how excited you are to creat something so wonderful with her
Pregnant woman are nuts i should know im 36 weeks and i hate the person ive become and i refuse to leave the house sometimes cause i know im just gonna be rude and impatient and snappy to my family and friends
2006-11-11 12:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by MaeStar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no help for you. sorry man. the only good thing i can tell you is it will all be over in about 6 months. till then i hate to say this, you just have to stick it out.
just think though, you will have a beautiful baby out of it in the long run.
Good Luck and Congrats.
( I will pray for you though)
2006-11-11 12:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by sixcannonballs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you just have to really show your loving caring side. Rubbing her back or feet or stomach, she will like it the more you do it! This will help to relax her a bit more, but some mood swings are expected right? I hope that helps if you listen to me and try it!!!
:) good luck! :)
2006-11-11 12:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by the_1_and_only_kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to be patient with her. There is not much you can do other than be supportive. Some women,esp, first time young mothers suffer with real bad mood swings and everybody suffers with her. Don't let it destroy your relationship though because she will be ok, you just need to stick it out with her, it will pass.
2006-11-11 12:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋