How to get help when depressed?(due to divorce)?

Question

a) should I go and screw a new guy every other day?
b) don't have sex for a year
c) eat 3 donuts every morning
d) ?your opinion

Answer 1

You should slow way down and figure out your feelings, none of the things you mentioned above will do you any good.

I replied to your earlier post, to get help you have to do the same thing you are doing here...you have to ask. But you have to ask a professional, and since I believe, I will say that God did not created all counselors equal, you may have to interview a few before you find a fit.

The biggest thing is a little trick I learned on my own, its going to sound silly until you try it and then believe it.

Start out by looking in the mirror, stare at the wonderful person that is staring back at you. Know that you are important, important if for no other reason you can make at least one person smile sometime each day.

Whether is telling a joke, complimenting someone on their clothes or abilities, or helping someone in some way without expecting the help to be returned. You can make another human smile, and in doing so, you will, with practice, feel much better about yourself.

Its a first step, but it works.

Answer 2

Get a grip! First, stop and think about all this and don't be impulsive either way with A. or B. The donuts do sound good to me, I have been (and still am at times) in the same type situation. It's easy for some one to tell you what to do when they don't know how it feels. Do not rush into another serious relationship. I did that one. MISTAKE! Don't sulk and be alone alot. That seems like the thing I most wanted to do, and it was the easiest. It is totally unproductive to recovering from the divorce. If you have some good friends to hang around with and get your mind off of it, that helps. Go ahead and date if you find some one who's company you enjoy, but don't let them rush you into anything. Remember, you are in charge of that situation. If they try to rush you, slow them down. If you are still depressed, you are liable to make bad decisions about relationships right now because you are not able to focus. I know I wasn't. If you can find a good, healthy way to occupy your time (and your mind) time will pass and you'll have more capability ro heal emotionally before making any serious decisions. Hey, this is from some one who made about every mistake in the world! Hope you get to feeling better soon! (Some people will take advantage of a "crippled" state of mind. So be sure you are cautious about dating until you feel less depressed. You're not yourself right now.)

Answer 3

Are you serious? Can' t say that I agree with any of your suggestions. I think if you are having a hard time maybe counseling is the best answer for you. Jumping into a new relationship is not the wisest choice, not until you have come to terms with the divorce itself. Doesn't mean you CAN'T have sex either, just be safe and no one needs that many partners. They make some great toys now days. As far as the donuts...I think you would be tired of them before you finished the first week. How about an apple? Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

a, b, and c are not the right answers. Will cheap sex make you feel better-No. Will no sex make you feel better, maybe, but No. And if you eat 3 donuts every morning, you might gain weight and be very upset. How about a support group for divorced people?Will that help? Divorce is not the end of the world. It is a new beginning. Please be positive. Eventually you will get over and pass this. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

I'm divorced and the best advice that I can give you is to take time and worry about yourself.
Take one whole day and get your hair done do your nails, essentially do anything that would make you feel good about you.Then look youself in the eyes in the mirror and say that you are beautiful. You have to matter to yourself before you can start to except the divorce. Sleeping with all kinds of guys and eating are only going to make you feel like crap. Take time to re evaluate yourself and then start to take baby steps back into the dating world. As far as going out don't go alone or with anyone who is involved with someone. Just take time enjoy being you and think of this as a way to start over. Good Luck!

Answer 6

i buy shoes! they make me feel good, i have hundreds of pairs
don't eat the donuts they make you fat than you'll really be depressed,
sex sounds good but only if he treats you right and buys you shoes! just kidding
go out with friends or just get dressed up and take your self out..
sometimes i cry all day and than i feel better ..
barns and nobil is fun have a coffee read and check out the hotties there thats what i do..or walk in the mall tons of nice men are lonely there too,

Answer 7

Well I see this is a joke to u.There are alot of woman that are truely depressed. They try very hard to keep busy and go on with their life.Plus in time they do either find someone esle or get over their mate.

Answer 8

DONT DO A OR C NIETHER WILL HELP U THEY WILL GIVE U INSTANT GRATIFICATION AND THAT WILL LEAVE U NOWWHERE. GO TO TTHE GREAT HEALER OF ALL GO TO GOD (JESUS) HE LOVES YOU AND SAYS HE WILL NEVER LEAVE US OR FORSAKE US. TALK TO HIM HE IS THERE 24/7 ALSO TRY TALKING TO THE PASTOR AT YOUR CHURCH OR TALK TO 1 AT CALVARY CHAPEL, ITS A GREAT CHURCH. TALK TO A PSYCHOLOGIST OR A LICENCED PHYSICIAN AND THEY CAN REFER U2 SOMONE. AS FOR B THATS A CHOICE U ,MAKE DONT JUST HAVE RANDOM SEX BCUZ THAT WILL ONLY LEAVE U WITH MORE HEARTACHE AND ITS ONLY INSTANT GRASTIFICATION. TRY EXCERCISING THATS A GOOD MOOD BUSTER AND WILL MAKE U FEEL ALOT BETTER AND HEALTHIER THAN EATING 3 DOUGHNUTS DAILY. TRY WRITING IN A JOURNAL TALKING TO YOUR FAM OR FRIENDS. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY AND MAYBE VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME DO SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE ELSE U WILL B SUPRISED IT WILL MAKE U FEEL BETTER IN THE LONG RUN. LOL 2 U, MY PRAYERS R WITH U DURING THIS TIME.LOL.

Answer 9

Keep reminding yourself why you are better off without him and hang out with your girlfriends or your family. All of yuour options are self-destructive and will only hurt you more...remember, by you doing ANY of those things, you are not getting back at your ex for being a jerk.

Answer 10

None of the above..
Look at it this way, it wasnt meant to be. Be happy that you recognized that and its time to start anew. Take some time if thats what you need, spend time doing hobbies you never really got to be involved in. What doesnt kill us makes us stronger....Good luck