my husband likes to look at other women and porn online what should i do?

Question

my husabnd forgets to delete the history after he uses the computer.so when i look i always see porn.he says he didnt look under it but its in the history.or when we go to the store hell look at every pretty girl its making me feel bad about myself what should i do?

Answer 1

well you shouldn't be married in the firt place.
he is a scumb of earth

Answer 2

Wonder how long you 2 have been married, your ages.. (am guessing less than l0 years, you are like mid 20-s.. Am I close?) Men just go through this sort of thing around then. I'm concerned you feel bad about yourself. (Wonder what would happen if you set it up .. find some friend to go along with it.. so you could like really come ON to some fellah .. see how HOW likes it?) I don't know if this is a teriffic idea, but it's the only one I can come up with. Men seem to like to turn it on for other women, but then when the shoe is on the other foot they freak! I'm 53/F and I've seen it before. I don't mind (or don't think you should) the porn thing as much as his eyeballing chicks. If I were you, I'd 'cop an attitude' (that' dshow him!) YOU are the one that's he's "got".. is married to.. YOU are the best damned woman out there~! Think that! (Why be miserable and think anything else.. am I right here?) Make yourself happy for a change! Screw him.. if he wants to look at other women, he's a damn idiot! (That's what you damn sure should think, honey.. wink-) lol

Answer 3

Men like to look at porn. It's a fact. Some women like to look at porn. It's a fact. Maybe he feels like he has to hide it because he knows you're going to react negatively. Have you ever actually checked it out yourself? You might be surprised...you might like it too! Relax, lighten up and go have a look for yourself. If you find it's not your thing, then be honest and open about it with him. Talk to him and tell him that it hurts your feelings and makes you feel bad. If he's considerate and thoughtful, then the two of you should be able to talk about it and come to a compromise that will satisfy both of you. Good luck!!

Answer 4

Rent a porn video and you and him sit down and watch together. You will get the idea on why he does it and maybe you guys will found out some new positions.
This is not abnormal and I am sure that there have been guys that you looked at, more than likely when your husband was not around.
I like the saying "You can look at the menu as long as you don't sample the entree."

Answer 5

I know he's your husband, so it's not that simple, but he is cheating on you. I'm not sure if you're religious, but it's clear in the bible that that kind of lust for another woman is cheating.

If you can get past that, that is the first step. The next step is just as hard...your husband not only has to admit he's doing it, he has to admit it is wrong and he has to stop.

If you let him know you know he's doing it because it's in the history, he will just cover his tracks better next time. If you just tell him you know and not HOW you know, he will never admit it. If he does, he's on a good track, but he's already lying and my experience shows me he will continue to do so as long as he gets away with it.

If you want to check for other things, put a keylogger on his computer. I have considered doing this with my husband (he has been "bad"), but I haven't yet so I can't recommend one, but I know they're out there. There are a lot of them and they will record everywhere he's been and even let you know what he's typed to who and what his password is wherever he goes.

This may give you the ammunition you need to make a sound decision.

No matter what, though, him looking at porn is completely unacceptable and no married woman should be put second like that.

Answer 6

Take pictures of your self and give them to him. If that's what he likes make your self the perfect porno girl for him.

Personally, I'd rather look at my wife naked in person or in a photo any day. I can actually touch her or look at a photo and know I can act on what I'm looking at.

Make movies together. I'll bet the Internet porn will stop showing up in Internet history. Media Players history may have a bunch of your movies popping up in it's history instead.

Answer 7

Obviously you dont like this right? If not then I think you should approach him in a mature way and challenge his actions. Hopefully you will get an educated response. Then comes to the question is he satisfied. Are you satisfied? I dont know the answer but I do know that communication is the key to everything. You may not like what he is doing but through talking you will know why he does it. The truth hurts but time heals everything. If you choose not to challenge him then he will continue this behaviour thinking that it is okay.

Answer 8

Why should your husband suffer from your lack of self esteem.
Here is a no brainer. Instead of watching him look at the girls in the store, you look around and watch the guys who are checking you out. Feels nice, no harm done.
Just because a guy looks does not mean he will cheat or thinks badly of his loved one.
If the worst thing your husband does is look at porn, consider yourself lucky as 4,000 women are murdered in the US every year at the hands of their husbands/boyfriends.

PS. If you make an issue out of it with him, I predict divorce in 3-5 years.

Answer 9

You know what you are feelings common...and every man I have ever talked to says it's normal...I have been married and my husband also surfs the porn...and believe me he looks at some creepy stuff!!
You do need to tell him not tolie to you in order to spare your feelings! That is just disrespectful to lie!!
In answer to your qustion...what to do? I'm not sure...I wish I could find the answer myself...I find comfort to know he's not out having affairs and he is at least at home alone!!! I know I don't compare with the girls he looks at or some of the disgusting things they do and it makes me feel a little shitty about myself too!
looking at girls in public places is almost border line behavior. As long as he isn't going out of his way to get their attention it sounds really harmless....none of those girls are thinking about him!!! I even have turned my head a time or two when I have seen a good lookingman and I'm usually just admiring the view!!
Good Luck!

Answer 10

i think that it is normal that your husband looks at other women and that there should be nothing wrong with that. you are his wife and you should know that you are the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. If he didnt look at other women i would start to worry about his sexuality. I have never known a straight man to not look at porn. whether it ber online, in magazines, videos. ect. it wouldnt be normal if he didnt. I do feel however that some websights should be against the rules when you are married to someone such as webcams and the such because now you are engaging in a sexual activity with someone other than your partner and that is wrong. but there is nothing wrong with looking. My husband glances at other women sometimes when we are together. If I thought she was atractive i tell him yeah shes hot. because there are some people that are better looking than yourself and you just need to know that he loves you. If she was not so attractive I say ewwe why did you insult me by looking at her? and we laugh it off. I even look at attractive men and I am madly in love with my husband and would never cheat on him. some things are just nice to look at, the sunset, babies , puppys, nice looking men, nice looking women. he still loves you I am sure.

Answer 11

Its a guy thing but if he is denying it what else is he maybe covering up?
If you are married I would tell him that it discusts you and that you do not want him to continue looking at this stuff
Personally he sounds like a pig.
One other thing how often you guys gettin it on this may a reason for his wandering to this stuff if there has been a lack of bedroom activity?