help!!!!!!! i dont know what to do. can some one help me? Please!!?

Question

my parents are always bothering me, or geting on my nervs.
my brother is always bugging me.
my friends are fiting, and they want me to pick sids, but there all my friends.
i am a 14 year old who is very much over weight.
i always feel like crying.
i could be doing better in school.
i dont know waht to do. should i go see a consler or someone who helps u with ur problems?
if u can help, please do.
thank you!!!!!

Answer 1

You need your parent's help and support to tackle this problem. They are your parents. Think about it. Why wouldn't they want the best for you? Give them a chance. What do you have to lose? Talk to your parents about what you are going through. With their help you can figure out a way to get your weight under control by exercising and eating properly. Once you get your weight under control, it should automatically help you with your self image that will help you in all other areas you think you could do better.

Answer 2

You sound very much like a typical 14 yr old who just needs a little self confidence boost to get back on the right track. What youre feeling is pretty much the same thing thousands have felt before you and made it one way or another. But since youre willing to seek professional help from wherever, go for it by all means. No one else needs to know what youre doing so dont tell them if you dont want to. In the mean time just start doing things to build your confidence in yourself up and before you know it youre on top of the world. Just start small and work upwards. As for your weight,that just might be a real good place to start as you can always lose weight and some weight training will turn that fat into muscle and then people will start looking at you differently. You just have to put your mind to start being a better person all around. The parent thing is just something every kid goes thru especially in the teen years where no matter what you say or do is always the wrong thing to them, but someday youll see why they act the way they do. You sound like an intelligent young man who can do this with just a little help so go for it and dont look back. Best of luck to you

Answer 3

Hi, I'm a grandfather now, but I had similar problems with my son when he was growing up. You have to ask yourself why your parents are "bothering you". Are they just being protective or trying to be helpful?

Brothers, since time began, have always been a pain to their sisters, older or younger. Many times its because the brother is lonely and wants to spend time with you.

All kids fight. Usually its just growing pains. Everyone is trying to stretch their wings and to find their place in life. As long as your not the target of the fights just stay neutral . Listen to both sides, and tell them your honest opinion. Don't take sides.

Overweight? Who isn't? Try reducing your carb intake (bread, potatoes etc) Stick with meat, fish and chicken. Pickles are a great snack.

The crying is normal. Go see your school councilor about what you can do to better your grades. You will get through all of this. Don't lose faith.

Best Wishes. Granpa

Answer 4

Almost every 14 yr old feels like you about home and friends. It's a normal part of growing up. Yes, your parents are going to bother you! They are your parents and they will parent until you or they die. That's their job. Your brother bugging you, that's his job too. But as for him why don't you befriend him rather than fight him. That way he wont bug you so much. Catch more flies with honey kind of thing. Your friends...I remember all that bickering over stupid stuff or even made up stuff, just tell them point blank you are not the UN you don't need to mediate or choose a side. That they either deal with the fact that you want to stay out of it and that if they don't have something nice to say then don't say anything at all to you about it. Unless its in regard to advice about what they should do about it. As for your weight...sounds to me as if you're taking comfort in food. Making it your best friend. I think you need to spend time alone and away from the fridge. They way I deal with things that weigh heavy on my mind, is that I write letters to them never actually to give them, but to vent. Most of the time when I do this I gain deeper insight as to why I'm feeling that way, or what I need to do to fix it. If you ever wanna talk you can IM me or email sonkysst is my actual yahoo ID. Take care

Answer 5

Please seek counseling. Being 14 is hard enough, being overweight and 14 is harder. The fact that you always feel like crying and that everyone gets on your nerves very well could be a sign of depression, anxiety, etc...It's really hard to be a teenager, i remember. Again counseling w/ a neutral party can really help. Start w/ your guidance counselor, or better yet tell your parents some of what your feeling and ask them to make an appointment for you. Good luck!

Answer 6

Hi Hun. I am a nurse and it sounds like you are suffering from some depression. Being overweight at your age is very hard and stress full. Other kid's can make your life miserable. I think everything is getting on your nerves because you are really sensitive right now. You need someone to talk to. Tell your parents that you HAVE to speak to someone because you are depressed. Make them take you seriously okay! When you are depressed your whole life is affected. You can email me if you'd like and I'd be happy to talk to you about how to get started okay. Let's hold that chin up and get some help, the rest will fall into place. Good Luck Hun!! Email me if you need something.

Answer 7

Ohhh sweetie I know what your going through. First if your weight is bothering u then do something about it.You come first. Talk to your parents about your brother in a calm tone and they should listen. Stay out of your friends conflicts or it will end up to where u will be the one that is the bad guy. I've seen it happen. Stay neutral when it comes to your friends fighting.Plus the answer to seeing a counselor is yes...Talking aways can help...Good luck hon.

Answer 8

First Brothers are always going to bother you, I know because I have two brothers myself. And your parents are probably just concerned about you, maybe if you can talk to them they will be able to help, you will be suprised. A true friend would not ask you to take sides you are right by staying nutural. As for school just try your best thats all you can do and don't worry about your weight I bet you are a beautiful person inside. So just relax and enjoy yourself, everything will fall into place soon. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Yes you need someone to talk to that can help
you to answer these questions. Maybe a school
counseler would be a good place to start.You are
at the age that you need some help with these
problems. I hope this will be of some help.