Ok. We have a 2 year old and have been living together for 2 years and been dating for 5 years. I love him and he says he loves me. I do believe he loves. I am fairly good looking and lost all my baby weight. So, what is the problem?? He says we dont have time and we have a different lifestyle now. I just dont believe it? It is making me wonder if he is thinking of an ex or wants to be with someone else... Darn! I am thinking all these "silly" things? I am going crazy or close to saying the hell with him.
2006-11-11 11:01:39 · 24 answers · asked by gemini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is screwing somebody else. Not to be rude, but you need to wake up!! Start investigating.
2006-11-11 11:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, you poor thing. I have been with my husband for 6 years and married for 2. We have a 3 year old daughter, and we go through the same things. Life does change when you have children. Things get very stressful!(Work more, do more, think about your family first) These are things you should consider, before you jump to conclusions and give up on things. You have been together for 5 years....Just hang in there! A relationship is not always about sex!!
2006-11-11 19:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those "silly" things may be closer to reality than you think. It sounds like hes not really ready to be where he is in his mind so he doesnt know what to do. With the added responsibility of a child adds extra burden on him and no matter what he says he not accepting his new responsibilities easily. Hes beginning to bog down under all the stress and is probably wondering to himself if this is all there is to life. Hes beginning to think of a life away from you with less stress and more fun time. He better realize that no matter what he does he is still and will be financially responsible for your child whether he likes it or not and whether he stays with you or not. You just have to decide whether youre better off with him or without him. Good luck
2006-11-11 19:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY DO YOU THINK YOU ARE THINKING SILLY THINGS, YOU GUYS HAD A BABY TOGETHER AND NOW YOU DON'T HAVE TIME. YOU ARE SILLY FOR TRYING TO MAKE EXCUSES FOR HIM. THERE'S NO NEED TO GO CRAZY, JUST STAND UP TO THE FACT HE IS WITH SOME OTHER YOUNG LADY. THAT'S HOW MEN DO YOU THEY LOVE YOU TO DEATH UNTIL YOU HAVE A CHILD FOR THEM, NO I SHOULD HAVE SAID A CHILD FOR YOU, BECAUSE THAT IS YOUR CHILD AND YOU ARE GOING TO FIND THAT OUT SOON. YOU HAVE BECOME USED GOODS NOW. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT THAT HE CAN'T SEE THAT YOU HAVE GIVEN HIM THE GREATEST GIFT A WOMAN CAN GIVE A REAL MAN AND THAT IS THE REAL PROBLEM, HE IS NOT MAN ENOUGH TO SEE WHAT HE HAS. HOWEVER, WHEN HE REALIZE WHAT HE HAD IT WILL BE TOO LATE. I KNOW YOU ARE NOT STUPID AND YOU ARE NOT GOING TO PUT UP WITH HIM VERY LONG. BUT DO TRY TO TALK TO HIM TO GET THE TRUTH OUT OF HIM BEFORE THINGS GET REAL BAD . GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-11 19:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he been working a lot? Sometimes it just happens. I mean, you guys have been together for a long time...it's like marriage. My husband and I have been together for 5 years now and he's the same way. I know he loves me and I know there's no one else he's physically intimate with, but the fact remains that his libido just isn't the same.
He could go weeks without doing anything, and then weeks again once it happens. I used to be really really bothered by it; I guess I am used to it noe, I know it is this way because he works so much.
Maybe that's it. Your bf is just tired and he is past the honeymoon phase of dating.
2006-11-11 19:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is you aren't married. You don't have a real commitment. That is an extreme danger to your child and, quite frankly, to yourself. Because you are "just dating", you both feel free to treat each other as unimportant. You have no marriage to put your heart and soul into. When one of you eventually gets bored, you will wander off and abandon your family.
Put another way, he is treating you like some piece of azz he is tired of rather than his wife that he has a duty to give everything he has to. That's a big problem. One you better rectify pretty damn quick.
2006-11-11 19:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that he is cheating on you I'm sorry to say I'm an average guy and it is a true fact that we think about sex approx every 4 secs while awake to a tune of over 275 times a day. So he is doing something behind your back or is scared of you getting pregnant again I would place bets on Cheating.
2006-11-11 23:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation but have been together alot longer. We go through ups and downs with the sex thing. What I have found that has worked is bribing. My man is obsessed with sports, so everytime we have sex he is allowed to watch one sports program with out me complaining.
After I initiated this I think a light bulb went off in his head. i am getting it alot more now.
2006-11-11 19:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by live4logan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was there during the birth then that could of affected his sex drive. Sadly this happens to some men. On the other hand, he may have replaced you unfortunately. You would know this better than anyone. Good luck.
2006-11-11 19:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask him. Directly.
That is the only way that you will know.
He owes child support. Love is not owed.
Don't assume, good or bad. Ask.
Ask if counselling is needed. Tell him that you desire to make love, and ask what has changed.
Love cannot be demanded. Try to seduce him (although I think that you probably have).
Ask. He does owe you an answer that is clear.
Good luck, and courage!!
2006-11-11 19:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound too good. You need to confront him and possibly seek some outside help in the relationship.
I don't neccesarily jump to the conclusion that he's cheating, it may be something deeper than just that.
2006-11-11 19:06:11 · answer #11 · answered by The Meksikan Couple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋