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Do You Think When A Girl Get's Pregnant, And The Father Is Willing To Be There For The Baby And The Mother That They Should Get Married And Get Out On Their Own..?¿ Even If The Father Is Of Age, And The Mother Is A Juvenile..?¿

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Answer 1

Tough question. You could get married (and probably should at some point) however, marriage is not necessarily the right answer if you are a minor. Statistics for divorce are definitely NOT in your favor.

You have to realize marriage (and a baby) bring an extreme amount of responsibility. Besides taking care of the child, there is laundry for the 3 of you, house cleaning (you don't want the baby crawling around in dirt), preparing meals, and dishes afterwards (not everyone has an automatic dishwasher), being a nurse to the sick in the household (including yourself), maintaining financial stability (hard when you first get married without going into debt. . . which you do NOT want to do as it is the #1 cause of divorce. . . better to live with used furniture and used items and clothes than debt), and working to keep your relationship intact with your husband (not to mention sex after working with the baby and in the house all day. . . and maybe with an outside job). Then there is day care IF you do work outside the home (expensive), and all the new baby clothes, furniture, diapers, etc.

Marriage can be the straw that breaks the camel's back OR if you have an EXTREMELY good understanding man and EXTREMELY good understanding parents you MIGHT make a marriage of it.

It is your decision. If you do decide to get married, get GOOD premarriage counseling, GREAT parenting classes, and set up a budget with a trusted financial advisor (your parents, a mentor, or trusted family friend that KNOWS finances) and stict with it.

It IS possible to create a strong marriage out of a mistake (you weren't planning on the baby, were you?) but it IS difficult.

One other thing. . .everything is better with God in the middle of it. If you guys do not go to church and if you two do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. . . I'd recommend it. More marriages survive in Christianity than in the world.

Think about it. Good luck and God bless

Answer 2

I think that other factors play into getting married, are they in love? was the baby wanted, or a surprize? Will the mother be able to handle a baby on her own, does she have any experieince? Does the father have experieince, and a good finacial setting? Thinking about what is good for everyone in that situation is important, not just marriage for a baby, some people really are better off apart than together. If they both want it, and feel ready, then I see no problem with it. Even if they stay with family until they are comfortable, doing what is best for everyone involved won't be easy, and no one has a perfect answer

Answer 3

No. If the father is "of age" and the mother is a juvenile, the father has already taken advantage of the mother.
In a situation, like this, both need to go to parenting and counciling classes. They both need to understand what the future of raising a child will be and through these classes, they will learn all the aspects of maturity.

Answer 4

At the end of the day it's no ones business, but if the mother is too young to get married then obviously she was too young to have intercourse(tut-tut). Marriage is a unity of two peoples love for each other and should not be forced due to pregnancy. If the couple feel that they can make a go of it - then why not!

Although i strongly believe that sex should come after marriage...

Answer 5

My son and daughter in law had a baby 2 months after they turned 17. Her parents made them follow house rules. My son could see the baby everyday but only for a few hours. It worked out my son worked and went to school both full time. they both grad. in honors, they married one month after they got out of school. My grandson is 13 and they are still together and doing fine. Both went to college. I think if they had married and moved out right away they may have been overwhelmed and not as successful as they are. Both have great jobs and have a happy life.My grandson is doing great. I am grateful her parents were as supportive as they were without them I think the kids would have had a very hard struggle

Answer 6

no . . having a baby is not a reason to get married . . he can support his baby and the mother without being married to her . . . but if you decide that you want to be together that way, I would suggest getting an apartment first and making sure that you two can get along and can "make it" living together . . and if things go well and you still feel the same way about each other, THEN get married . . .

Answer 7

no I dont think getting married because of a baby is a good idea. I mean is good if hes there for the baby beacuse the baby is going to need him, but you shouldnt rush into things you are not sure of. It takes a lot for a marriage to work. If its meant to be eventually ya will get married. You dont want to rush into things that later on might not work out.
Am pregnant also and love my baby daddy but i dont think we are ready for such a big commitment. he mentioned getting married but i kno is only bc of the baby. As long as he is there for me and my baby, and if our love is strong enough eventually marriage is going to happen.

Answer 8

If i was the father and willing to take care of the baby i wouldnt marry the girl ill just help her with the kid and date another girl.

Answer 9

No, marriage because of a baby is not right it will end in divorce usually because the girl hasn't "Grown" up completely yet and when she does she will realize she isn't happy.

Answer 10

You shouldn't just get married because of the baby. It isn't fair for you or the baby.