Should I tell my sister that I saw her wife with a man? (that is not a typo) They have not been married long and they seemed so happy but last week I saw her at a club with a man. (She didn't see me.) They were definitely TOGETHER!
I feel so awful. I don't want to hurt my sister. They have no children but they were talking about having some soon.
What would anyone else do---tell or not?
2006-11-11 10:54:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes you should tell your sister about the man you seen her wife with. She has the right to know what is going on no matter what. She may get mad at you but in the long run she will thank you for letting her know what is going on.
2006-11-11 10:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the situation was between a man and a woman, i would say hold off on breaking the news until you got both sides of the story. But because it's your sister, and she's married to another woman, the sooner you tell her the better.
It's one thing for a partner to experiment while single, but marriage is totally different. Same-sex marriage involves a level of intimacy that get shrouded in doubt when a member of the opposite sex is involved. The normal rules no longer apply.
Hate to break it to you, but the sooner you spill the beans, the sooner your sister can find a new life partner, and all can be well.
Wish you luck!
2006-11-11 10:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want your sister to tell you? or just let you be in the dark? Better yet, talk to your sister's wife about what you saw. What you saw could have been very innocent. Simply by saying..."Hey I seen you at the club were you with friends?"
2006-11-11 11:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by navyprincess3476 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get more information first. First, you need to have a firmer understanding of your sister's relationship. It may be open to that. A lot of married men who are straight will let their wives do whatever they want with another woman because it turns them on. Although the situation is different, the dynamic may be the same.
Second, it really depends on the relationship you have with your sister, and how she feels about your relationship. It may ruin your relationship to bring this to her attention the wrong way.
Finally, the best way to handle that situation is to get pictures. If you have about $1000, you can get a private investigator to get pictures. It sounds like a lot of money, but if you hae a solid relationship with your sister, the money shouldn't be an issue. That way you'll have a better understanding of the whole picture.
2006-11-11 11:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your sister, but keep in mind that when or if you do, she will look at you as the bad guy because you are the bearer of bad news...For all you know, maybe the wife was supposed to be hitting on this guy...Either way, you should tell your sister. She has a right to know.
2006-11-11 10:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should pull your sisters partner aside and ask her about the incident. There could be so many reasons and it is a possibility your sister knows already. Address the situation but proceed with caution this could blow up on you.
2006-11-11 10:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're able to on no account have a good relationship mutually with your sister back, even with the undeniable fact that that is greater significant that she understand who she has married (with any luck earlier she has any toddlers). have faith me, if he slept with you, he has slept with different adult males (and in all possibility women human beings) and is risking her existence with the help of exposing her to STD's no matter how careful he's. that is not approximately you to any extent further. that is approximately your sister's destiny and her deserving a good existence with an significant different dedicated to in basic terms her. you will finally come out of the closet besides. in case you incredibly love your sister, regardless of if it potential dropping her, you will do the suitable suited factor.
2016-11-23 16:12:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say nothing to her because she would not believe it. However you could let her wife (your sis-in-law) know that you saw her with a man at the club, and see if she offers an explanation
2006-11-11 10:57:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I made the mistake of telling my sister. It ended up ugly. She believed her husband and not me. We did not speak for over a year. Do what you want but I will never make the same mistake again.
2006-11-11 17:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your sister's spouse is trying get a man to help both her and your sister to reproduce?
Anyway, it's none of your business, it's the business between your sister and her spouse.
2006-11-11 11:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋