I can not stress enough,the ongoing pain that I live with every day of my life since this horrifying obstacle hit me in the face.my husband and I work the same night jobs.A known gay black man was hanging close to my H. And this became frequent and they began to walk off into the dark side of the drop and spoke quietly.I saw,while my husband was holding our grandson in his lap,the GBM was pretending to be reaching out to tickle our GS but was reaching behind him and brushing his hand against my H shirt.I brought it to my H attention and he said I was seeing things.Each night when we left the GBM would walk off.I did'nt like what I was seeing.GBM showed up in our front yard one day my H rushed out the door to GBM I'm furious how he knew where we lived and why did he go out to him.Don't know he says.Jumping ahead a friend told me that he has seen them snuggled together in the front of our crew cab truck,I soon saw it for myself and this going on for months.My H says that nothing happend
2006-11-11 10:52:10 · 16 answers · asked by jam b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe they were cold?
Your husband is gay, and maybe at this point in his life, with society changing the way it has, he feels more comfortable slowly tiptoeing out of the closet.
You see it all of the time, men married with kids and sometimes grandkids, but they're gay. Everyone seems to know it but the family members, so it's terribly embarassing.
You need to get a divorce now. It's not your fault, but you kind of need to rip that bandaid off to get rid of the pain as quickly as possible.
2006-11-11 11:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this may be a very hard thing to deal with, and I would never wish this apon my worst enemy, but I really think you should get out while you can. If he has been snuggled up to your hubby in your truck, then he probably has been in your bed. If he knows where you live and you didn't tell him, then apparently your hubby did...then he rushes out the door to see him..Tells you that you are seeing things...That should have been a red flag there! My dad was cheating on my mom and he used to tell her the same thing..Ahh its nothing, you are just seeing things..Please do it for yourself and leave...Don't hang onto something that is not there.
Best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-11 18:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you so concerend about your H being a friend with a GBM, are you RHW(racist heterosexual woman).
well usually this is what happens to RHW, the H invites the GBM to his home and they will get drunk and the RHW gets drunk too, then the H and the RHW and the GBM will all have a 3ST (3-some together)
GBM+H+RHW = 3ST
got the math?
2006-11-11 19:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your husband has had a life change, possibly a change that has been covertly hidden for sometime now. Honey, he is gay and you need to find a real man and let both of you get on with your own lives....happily!
2006-11-11 19:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by madnessmouth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don`t know what to do? Look at what you wrote. Your husband is interested in another man. I don`t think you have much choice unless you and your husband are into threesomes. I certainly wouldn`t be having sex with him either if he still wants too. Might contact HIV/AIDS
2006-11-11 19:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel badly for you ... but do you really need anyone to draw you a map?
Your husband is gay.
Decide if you want to stay or leave and act accordingly.
2006-11-11 19:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the truth, and now it is about moving on for you.
Respect yourself.
The truth doesnt need to be made public, nor do you need to pretend nothing is happening.
2006-11-11 19:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW REALLY CRAZY ARE YOU YOU SEEM TO BE WORRIED ABOUT THE WRONG THING ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT HIM BEING GAY OR THE FACT THAT THAT IT'S WITH A BLACK MAN,IT REALLY WOULDN'T MATTER IF IT WERE BLACK OR WHITE. YOUR MAN LIKES MEN YOU NEED TO FACE IT. IF IT WERE A WHITE MAN YOU SOUND LIKE THAT WOULD BE OKAY.YOU REALLY NEED TO GET IT TOGETHER..................
2006-11-11 19:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by STORMIROSEBUD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you really believe him when he says nothing happened?please girl,open your eyes and tell your husband to get out the closet.
2006-11-11 19:35:35 · answer #9 · answered by super girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, your husband is BI and you know it. Either deal with it or leave.
2006-11-11 18:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋