A QUESTION "When u feel that u r not kind of person ppl like to be friend"?

Question

yup i m not depressed or maybe yes i am. tell me when u feel that nobody likes u and u r a loser.i m not talking about in sense of relationships. what should i do to get out of this feeling. dont say that i need to contact any doctor as i hate to go to doctors.

Answer 1

"people like me, Like me"
This means, people the same as you, like you.
Change you, or if you are very individual, seek other places to find like minds not the run of the mill places, average people find like souls.
You can change, or you can find like minds, its up to you.
There is certainly nothing wrong with you.
Im sure all of the worlds great minds had few mates.

Answer 2

Forget doctors or shrinks, first think about what interests you & pursue friends who are interested in the same thing whatever it might be.

A few examples are the Trekkies/game enthusiasts/collecters etc they find acceptance within a large group of people who share the same interest, they travel all over the world to go to exhibtions, meet up with folks, trade stuff etc. Personally I am not into any of the above but am a great believer in live & let live - people who sneer & criticise probably have no friends !!!

Whatever your interest is the internet has made any hobby/interest more accesible - do a search for forums on your chosen interest, if you don't have a hobby think what you would like to be able to do - most people are very kind to 'newbies' in a specialist forum (unlike more general places such as Yahoo answers where some people are just mean & abusive for no good reason)

Chin up mate, plenty of nice people out there in this world, you just have to find them !!

Answer 3

Probably a lot of people would tell you to go to the doctor because it's a safe answer, but to be honest - I think everyone feels this way sometimes, EVERYONE. You could be th most "popular" person, but I would be willing to bet that, at least at one point, you were humiliated or looked over or made to feel unimportant...it's a part of life.

I would think the only thing you really can do is either (1) enjoy your time alone...boring, but this can allow you to figure out things you like...it will give you the opprtunity to read about new things and dosciver the real you. Your other option is to surround yourself with the people you know love you, like your family or that one friend that has always been around.

It's really hard to feel isolated, I know because I have been experiencing it for months (since we moved to a new state, i have had no one really to hang out with except my husband), but the best thing I know I have done is to work on my relationship with my husband and spend time with my son. I have started to research things on the internet that I had an interst in; and I do things a lot by myself...I am starting to learn there is a lot more to me than I thought...

One thing is for certain, getting down on yourself will only depress you and depressing people have even more troubole meeting people. If you let yourself enjoy your own company, maybe go out to eat by yourself, go to a coffee shop by yourself, you may just find that opprtunities will find you.

Answer 4

How could u b a loser?,if u hv sense to understand ur problm.u know 80% people of this world don't know what they like and wht they dislike.they jst only follow the trail and run behind trends.so if u'll start doing things wht people like,u'll lost all ur energy but get nothing.
you have two ways to solve ur prblm;
1)it seems easier.find out the trends and go after it,as most of the people do.it 's jst like running after a butterfly.at the end u'll remain confuse forever.
2)the other way seems a little difficult but it's the best.find out a peacefull place,it can b ur room,sit alone ,just forget about the people and all other prblms.then think abut the person who love u most(like ur mother),close ur eyes and take some long breaths peacefully till u feel ur mind calm.then start thinking abut urslf and criticise urslf.being honest ,justify ur good & bad habits,good & bad feelings.then promise urself to remove all ur bad habits and thoughts one by one.now u'll feel urslf filled with lot's of positive energy.now u don't need any suggestions,do whtevr u hv decided.don't distract by comments or complements.definetly people'll b behind u.(try this at the time of sun-rising).
don't forget ,this world is behind the person who can criticise and justify himslf honestly.keep trusting upon God.

Answer 5

Doctors cannot solve any ones emotional problems. Only the individual with such negative feelings as yours can. We need to fit into these moulds of expectations of society on a daily basis. That can be strenuous on anyone. All you need to do is look at yourself in a more positive manner and your general attitude will induce others to react more positively toward you. People have a tendency to stay away from gloom and doom, they'd much rather keep the company of those who are more approachable and positive. You just need to believe in yourself as an individual and all will be well with your world.

Answer 6

I didn't have to go to the doctor when I was feeling this way, but I've talked to someone about my concerns, personal issues, or sad feelings. I had paid this person to counsel me some months ago; since I usually see him at school, I tried to stop by at his office a few times to talk with him for free.

Of course, I can't rely on him all the time.

Answer 7

Pull yourself up by the boot straps and move on. If someone doesn't like you then that is their loss and anothers gain. Listen to some positive reinforcing music, that always uplifts the spirits and don't be disturbed by what others think. Who cares.. Some people just have to much time dwelling on how to hurt people or judge them. Trust me you dont want them as a friend anyway.

Answer 8

Everybody is good at something and interested in something. It may well be that the people around you are not interested in the things you like. If that is the case, use the internet to find people interested in the same things as you (poetry, photography, karate, PC games, aircraft, roses or WHATEVER) and chat to them.

In my own hobby (military flight simulators) I have chatted to the same people for years and met up with them, stayed with them, they've stayed with me etc. I now have friends all over the world.

What do you enjoy?

Answer 9

I think that you need to ask God to help you. Without God you are a zero, but with Him you are ten. The sense of worthiness appears only when you have close relationship with God, so check them now!

Answer 10

Most adults feel like this-
Most fake their true feelings

And most make out that they have a greater life than they really have.