My husband is impotent ...how do other women cope with this..feel that i no longer turn him on?

Question

We have been married for 23 years and during our marriage my husband has had periods of impotencywhich have always resolved.He is 49 and I am 47. The last period he went through lasted about 3 months and he had medical tests which all came back negative. He managed to get an erection for about 3 weeks but now back to square one...no sex.
He assures me it is not me and he still finds me sexually attaractive but feel that may be he has gone off me.
Have other women been through or are going through this...do you feel the same and how do get through this

Answer 1

Viagra

Answer 2

First of all, dear lady, let me reassure you that it's not you. I have suffered with erectile dysfunction (impotence) for the last 21 years. I don't know how my wife has coped for all of this time. The chances are, your husband is telling you the truth ... that he still finds you sexually attractive. If he genuinely does suffer from erectile dysfunction, there's really nothing he can do about it by himself.

Erectile dysfunction can be brought on in a number of ways. Does your husband drink, for instance? Does he have a stressful job? Is he getting enough sleep? Does he 'do' drugs? Is he suffering from depression or anxiety states?

These are all questions that his doctor would (or should) be asking.

There are remedies for erectile dysfunction, if that's what it turns out to be, but they need to be under the supervision of a genito-urinary specialist.

I see that you've already received 'advice' on the taking of Viagra. This, however, is only one of several oral medications that can be taken. There are also injections into the side of the penis that might help; a pellet that's inserted into the urethra; vacuum therapy devices (basically a plastic tube that the penis is inserted into, and then the air extracted causing a vacuum. This causes blood to engorge the penis, and a removable elastic ring is then placed around the base of the penis to keep the penis erect. The plastic tube is then removed, allowing sex to take place.) As a last resort, there is the option of having a prosthesis ... an implant.

It may be that your husband doesn't actually produce enough testosterone. Has this been considered by his doctor?

If your husband suffers with certain chronic (long standing) conditions, such as diabetes, etc. he will be able to obtain these drugs/appliances on the NHS, without charge. I'm sure your husband's doctor would be able to give you better advice than I can.

Actually, Sawyer's response makes absolute sense. There are herbal remedies that purport to correct any deficiency that your husband my have.

I wish you both the very best of luck.

Answer 3

there are herbal supplements that may help.
Ginko Biloba
Yohimbe
Horny goat's Weed (Avena Sativa)
Pumpkin Seed
Saw Palmetto
Capsicum (Cayenne)
Zinc 100 mg daily may help, also.
These supplements help restore circulation in the extremities, as well as boosting testosterone levels naturally.
In the meantime, try giving him a long, slow, naked massage. Buy some massage lotion; a few scented candles. Play some quiet instrumental music. Start with a back rub; move to his neck; arms; hands; fingers.
Don't forget the buttocks & legs. Keep a spare towel nearby to wipe up any excess lotion.
You be nude, as well. Just get intimate without getting sexual. Then, snuggle & watch a movie or go to sleep. The physical touch is very stimulating & pleasurable without the pressure of "having to perform".
If he initiates anything; follow his lead. But let him know you are only seeking intimacy & not sex...to take his mind off any pressure he may be feeling.

Answer 4

Just be supportive. That will help him out more than you know. I'm sure it gets frustrating. Being such a nympho, I would have a tough time dealing with this situation. Something I would suggest you do for him, and yourself, go out and take some belly dancing classes. Or get the Carmen Electra Stripperobics DVD collection and learn the routines. Either one is alot of fun, good for you, and it will drive your husband wild!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's worth a try anyways. And again, just be as supportive beyond what you possibly can. No one is more frustrated than him and he will truly know how much you love him if you are a totally understanding and patient. Remember, for better, for worse. In sickness and health. Put yourself in his shoes. Good luck.

Answer 5

I soooo like your style, Natassia! ;) and I'm sure you've got your baby right there on your lap while you're giving these Muslims a run for their money, so do carry on! hehhehe I also enjoyed reading the answers. One wonders if people are really too dense to understand what you're getting at in these questions or if they are consciously or subconsciously obfuscating. Ok guys, here's the deal. Basically, the woman is being punished here for marrying a guy (likely unknowingly) that is impotent. Her first husband, the one who put her in this situation (along with Muhammad, the law-decreer) cannot save her from it. How pathetic to make a woman frantic to stick one man's penis inside of her and have him ejaculate so that she can be with the man she really wants. That is really tragically unfair. Make the man have to take the penis and ejacula- he's the one that caused the problem to begin with (along with Muhammad, the law decreer, let's not forget). Oh, but he would then be thrown from the top of a mountain for being a homosexual as per "Allah's perfect law". My bad.

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Answer 6

I can say that I know what that feels like. I am currently living with my boyfriend and sometimes he has the same problem. I dont think that he's impotent though. He can start the car, so to say, and drive it well, but...umm...he has trouble- finishing the task? I'm trying to be descret here, I hope you get what I'm saying. He says the same, that it's not me and that it is all him. I cant help but feel a bit sorry for him at times. He gets frustrated and mad at himself. I just try to be supportave. I still love him and it really doesn't bother me to much. I'm usually tired anyway and the times that all goes well are absolutley great. I just try to help him stay foucsed and keep things simple. Its is frustrating at times, but if you love the man and the doctor says all is good then what can you do but sick by him.

Answer 7

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If you go to the doctor to talk about the issue, you’re likely to get put on one or more of the popular medications used to treat the condition. While they can be effective (temporarily), these medications come with a raft of side effects, some of which are decidedly unpleasant. Even worse, these medications aren’t really a cure, they’re more like a temporary workaround.

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Answer 8

Wow, I sympathise with you. I`ve been married for 27 years and my old man is more rampant then ever! Sex starts in the mind. Does he respond to dirty mags, nookie vids or filthy talk? He knows what turns him on, ask him, be blunt. If he can`t perform full sex he has to realise you still have needs. Get him to do what you know how to do best. ( If you know what I mean) He has to show you he still loves you, and wants and needs you. Sex does change though as you get older and more used to each other. It does get "less exciting" but it should still be good. If you have a good relationship and share lots of similarities and interests you should overcome this. Many would say that sex is only the icing on the cake, but the icing tops it off.

Answer 9

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