why are women expected to do so much more than men, in a relationship?

Question

Does anyone else ever question womens roles in the family today? Why are women expected to have a full time job, bring home income, do at least 90% of the housework and be the primary parent in child raising??????? Women are told they are not OK unless they do it all.............WHY??????? Women had a more equatable deal in the old days, if you ask me. Men are not expected to do it all............. You almost always hear about some woman who has a full time job and does everything else in the home BUT, you almost never hear of a man doing 90% of the housework and his full time job.

I think women were much better off with the way things were in the past. Womens lib was not a win win situation. Women are being abused even more in my opinion..........What do you think?

Answer 1

I guess this applies in some marriages but certainly not in mines. My husband and I both have jobs and both work full time. I expect him to share at least half of the household chores with me ( and he does). Same goes for when we have kids.

I would think that marriage is an equal partnership. And I stress the word "equal".

Answer 2

I never carried a sign fighting for equal rights for women. I have never felt the need to because I have always felt equal. I think the situation you are talking about is simply because the woman has allowed that to happen. Maybe these are things you should find out before you marry someone.....ask him what his expectations are of you. If you feel equal, then you expect a man to do just as equally. I have never done most of the housework, I have never been expected to do more than my partner and that is just because my partner knew from the start what I was like.

Womens Rights are great in writing, but unless you apply it to your own life then they will only ever be words. I know of quite a few relationships where everything is equal, no you dont hear of the men doing 90% of the housework while having a full time job...he does 50% and his wife does 50%. As for raising children, compromises need to be made simply because the cost of living these days usually need both parents working and I think 90 percent of the time the women choose to be the main care-giver to young children. Maybe if we gave our men more responsibility they would do more. Maybe if we stopped doing what you are talkiing about, men would consider the relationship equal. Maybe if we trusted our men more, e.g. believed they were really our equals, then what you are talking about probably would not exist. It only exists because we allow it.

Answer 3

Well in reality women more often than not EXPECT too much - truth be told! AND what we want, hope for, desire etc is sometimes unrealistic and seldom the same thing the MAN wants - and we aren't even talking children & money! I've NEVER entered a relationship thinking about children or money! I want honesty, communication, affection, attention, recognition, loyalty, trust, humor, fun, common interests, TALK TO ME, share with me, show me sensitivity, emotion, human-less. Show me that I MATTER more than the TV or the blasted computer or the MAIL delivery or newspaper everyday! NOTICE how I look, what I wear, appreciate what I do for you, be grateful for what I do... be a gentleman, open my doors, walk hand in hand with me, be romantic... LOTS and LOTS of things are far more important and of lasting value in a relationship then MONEY. ONCE you are married of course and HAVE CHILDREN then they become the focus - because they are needy and helpless.... but without or before children - MAKE HER the focus and that's what most women really want most I think!

Answer 4

This is why I hate feminists. I am a woman, but I am not all for that. I mean, think about it. The feminist movement gave us equal working rights and bla bla bla, but really, what it did was REQUIRE us to work. I mean, most families can not make it nowadays unless both parents work full time. Everything is so expensive!!!

If those darned women didn't demand women to get equal pay, then we would still be able to do all of our "chores.

Now, we're just stuck in this transitional phase which requires us to do those traditional chores...cooking, cleaning, taking care of the child(ren) AND work full time bringing in a substantial income (don't forget about fitting in your pilates).

There is not enough time in the day to do all the things a woman is expected to do, yet we are still expected to do so becasue our mothers did it and our husbands mothers did it (FORGET THE FACT THEY WITHER DIDN'T WORK OR ONLY WORKED PART TIME).

It will probably be easier for the next generation, housework will be split up more equitably, but for now, we are just screwed in to making this same argument to our husbands everyday.

Answer 5

I absolutely agree with you. Up until about 1 year ago I had done the same thing Worked full time cooked cleaned payed the bills took care of 2 kids ran errands play dates soccer practices, basketball practices and everything else under the sun until one day it just got to be too much and I got tired of hearing my husband complain about the littlest things...so I quit I stopped doing everything except going to work I put him in the position where he had to work and do everything I had done for way too long, he did it for about a week and a half till he came to me and said Hun I don't know how you do it its a nut house. I laughed. But then we sat down went over our finances and came to the conclusion it would be less stress on me to stop working that way I could do the rest of the stuff and still have time for me.

Answer 6

If you are in that kind of a marriage, you need to tell your husband that you are going to quit working if he is not going to meet you on a 50 50 basis. My wife is a stay at home mom so she does all of the things that you mentioned, but she doesn't work outside the home. If she was working, I would be sharing the above duties with her 50 50. Women are not to be slaves in a marriage!

Answer 7

Who told you these things Babe?

Have you ever noticed the soulders of a man? There broad, broader than ours for a reason, God intended for them to bare more of the respnsibility. You are going by what current culture thinks, and it's by far so wrong it's not even funny.

Answer 8

I don't know what's going in your relationship, but in my marriage.... life is just fine. My husband has his share of responsibilities and I have my share. We are a team and I'm so happy I was blessed with a great man, that believes in teamwork.

Good Luck My Dear.

Answer 9

What country do you live in?

Answer 10

Maybe in a Muslim Relationship