what would you do?
2006-11-11 10:20:24 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him. There is something going on in his head that you don't understand. All of it sounds like immaturity and he may not be content with his life and your marriage.
Men are grumpy for two reasons in my experience. One is they are just tired. Tired because they've been working non stop and they are trying to keep up with the bills and be the supporter they are supposed to be. Or two - they are unhappy. They are sticking around because they said they would or they don't want to be the bad guy that ends the realtionshiop so they are pushing you away.
In either of these two scenarios, you need to talk to your husband. Find out if he's unhappy in your marriage or just becoming exhausted. Find out if he thinks he's taking on too much. Let him know these things are bothering you. See what you can do to help.
2006-11-11 12:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i don't know which question came first, but i have just answered another one of your questions. My answer to this one would be - you need to separate from him!! ...i know right now, to you, it seems impossible - i have looked at your past questions - listen...this is not going to change ok...it just won't, you can look at your family unit through those rose tinted glasses as hard as you like, the outcome won't ever change...At some point you will have had enough, that point will be when you can no longer think rationally. You have a baby and responsibility, yes..but you can change it, it can be better. It is tiring and hard work with a young child, a baby. Together with walking on egg shells with your husband, trying to get a good nights sleep to re charge is difficult and lack of sleep makes it even harder. If you're asking me what i'd do...well, I'm sorry, i would separate. Maybe there are good times in between, really good times and maybe you have a whole future planned together, it's a future that at the moment you won't have, trust me, it's a future that is based on what you always hope it will be, not what it is or will ever be.I apologise if my opinion offends anyone...it is only that, an opinion, after all. Good luck, you know the answer yourself, but no one can take the first step for you, only support you after if you do.
2006-11-11 14:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all...if he's kicking you...he needs to be put in check...make it very clear that you will not stand for any abuse including being kicked in the leg!!!
Second of all, if he's smoking pot and is still grumpy...maybe he is trying to self medicate...you know maybe he is clinically depressed or maybe has a chemical imbalance or something like that! People have this huge misconception that depression or chemical imbalance will cause you to be sad and dysfunctional but often people don't even realize they are off...they think it's normal because it's how they normally feel!
I would bring it up to him...ask him to find a way to correct it and if he can't follow through....kiss his *ss goodbye!
2006-11-11 11:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
abuse should never be tolerated, and if he is angry and grumpy most of the time, he has someting going on in his thought system, how he percieves things. he needs therapy. the pot smoking is because he can't handle something, and would rather get high than work on it, just basicaly who he is and his character. i would ask him to go to therapy, and if he refused i would see that he had no interest in changing for the better, and i would make plans to divorce him. u deserve so much more from life, and sometimes we get into these marriages with someone we never should have married.
2006-11-11 10:31:46 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get therapy or it would be over. Smoking pot, ok that is one thing but kicking you? That is abusive, no one should be abused. Angry and grumpy - maybe he is depressed. All areas would be addressed in therapy. Then I would ask to do marriage counseling, to make sure you are on the same page.
2006-11-11 10:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Carey L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he's an idiot for smoking pot he is killing brain cell's and the fact that he smokes pot shows he was in short supply to begin with so he needs what few are left. I would also kick him in the nut's if he kicked my leg and he would see what real pain is.Then I would dare him to **** with me again.
2006-11-11 10:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by SR 76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real prize-winner - an angry grumpy pothead who likes to kick women!
Ask him if he's willing to quit smoking weed, go to counseling and will agree to never ever ever ever ever hit, kick or otherwise abuse you again
If he doesn't agree to all of that - DUMP HIM - life is too short to waste it married to a loser
2006-11-11 10:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy for us to say cause we have no emotions involved but kick him out of course.....
Or if you still love him give him an ultimatum, give the pot up which is making him have big lows or leave
good luck life is too short to live it unhappy
2006-11-11 10:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
With your good leg,give a swift kick in the "orchestras" & while he's recovering,pack a bag & go to find yourself a decent guy that will treat you right.
2006-11-11 10:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by davis.rick@btinternet.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out till he cleans up his act, if he wont then divorce him. He is bringing you down with his selfishness. I was married to one like that once for 20 years! I divorced him and have got my life together wince and remarried to a great guy!
2006-11-11 10:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋