he use to be real sweet until he got on drugs.but he has changed his life and been clean for five months.
2006-11-11 10:05:18 · 38 answers · asked by karenwilliams_1970 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you took one too many blows to the head...it's affected your decision-making skills...I recommend an intervention!!
2006-11-11 10:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. I want to believe people do change, and the fact he has gotten off drugs and changed his life for 5 months would definitely indicate he is heading in the right direction. I would give it at least a year of being "clean" before marrying him. Seek pre-marital counseling, the classes are beneficial as they can coach you through things that could cause issues in the future. I would also ask him to take some anger management classes, to insure he knows how to release his anger/frustration, without hitting you. I wish you the best.
2006-11-11 10:11:28 · answer #2 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the choice to do anything for yourself but if this perso is abusive then you may be putting yourself in harms way if he were to go back to his old ways I would say no do not marry this person if you are interested in him date or even live together to see if he really has changed. You should never rely on what someone says there actions over time will paint a better picture that you can then decide if this is a good decision. Lastly this is a choice you need to make for yourself no one can tell you what to do. God Bless and may you come to a decision that will
be best for you and this guy.
2006-11-11 10:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Okay so he's cleaned up a bit but has he checked his violent streak? I mean there are reasons behind a person getting hooked on drugs and yes they can rehabilitate, but there is no logical reason for a man beating on a woman! Thats a deep and more dark psychosis. Let him go Darling, as hard as it may seem now, you will be better off dealing with some one new.
2006-11-11 10:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thast good he has quite his bad habits. But 5 months is not long enough to determine if he will stay clean. I HIGHLY recommend that you wait until over a couple years to make sure he stays off them and treats you like you should be treated. ONce you get into an abusive marriage it is hard to get away. I would also recommend councelling if he has not had it and it wouldnt hurt if you went too, to make sure you are both ready to move into a marriage and nothing else will happen. Good Luck!
2006-11-11 10:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by kevin T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that it is crazy. I would say to give him a year before you make any big decisions. I was in the exact same position as you. I waited because his drug rehab counselor told us that the first year was the hardest and that it was the time when someone would most likely have a relapse. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-11-11 10:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Psych Major 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not nearly enough time for you to consider marrying him.NOT even close to changing his ways.Been there,done that.Yes it is crazy and a bit stupid if you think he has changed in 5 short months.He may be free from drugs for 5 months(maybe)but his thinking is still the same,as you will see.If you haven't seen it already.
2006-11-11 13:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously since your still with him it means that no matter how someone responds to your question that you are going to stick with this loser. Five months is nothing compared to the rest of your life. If you think that this man is all you deserve than marry him. If you have respect for yourself and you want to find a man who will respect you also....dump the druggie
2006-11-11 10:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by snomelt 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, crazy. It's only been 5 months. You need to take some time and be sure that he's really going to stay clean.
2006-11-11 10:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tigerlillie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really need to think long and hard about that! I believe people can change and regret things in the past. 5 months is a good start, but it's not long enough to base that big of a decision on. You need to take it really slow and see how genuine he really is!!!
2006-11-11 10:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id wait longer than 5 months.... Its good that hes clean. Once an addict always an addict... let him get at least a year under his belt, and then talk about marriage. I wouldnt be in any rush to make a legal commitment.
2006-11-11 10:09:24 · answer #11 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋