age and now want to be boyfriend/girlfriend. I am not sure how to handle this, I think he is too young to date, I can't stop him from seeing her at school. From what i know of her, she seams to be a nice girl. What do other parents think of age limits on dating? Are there other kids my sons age dating? Am I being to over bering as my son says? I did not date until 16...
What are some good guide lines?
2006-11-11 10:02:07 · 23 answers · asked by Mommy Dearest 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you see that he really likes this girl and she seems nice then you should let him date don't think he's too young. that was the age I started dating. give him a shot on it.
2006-11-11 10:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Next On Line!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, but an 8th grade teacher, so I deal with 14 year olds every day. I would stick to the "can't date until 16" thing, but would allow your son to go out with friends in groups. What I have found is that their age, a lot of the boyfriend/girlfriend thing is more of a status symbol and something to say as they go around school, they'll call eachother on the phone and whatnot. Caution your son not to take it much further and he may roll his eyes, but at 14, he'll get over it.
2006-11-11 18:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get them to define "dating" - it doesn't mean the same thing to 14 year olds as it does to us grownups. At least that's what my 13 year old is telling me. My daughter explained it's an "exclusivity" thing rather than the 2 of them going out somewhere alone. I'm not even sure it involves any physical activity or not.
I would not let the kids go on a "date" like older teens and adults do, but they could certainly hang out together with chaperones or in a group setting (although a group of kids isn't exactly a recipie for restraint, if you know what I mean)
2006-11-11 18:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by voxwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I remember this one! I have 2 sons - 16 and 14. 16 yr old v. mature (I had no problem with him dating at 14). 2nd one is 14 and started dating at 13. I hated that! I went with the flow and found they weren't 'doing' anything. In fact, when they split up my son told me they hadn't even kissed (relief!).
If you get all heavy with him you may be planting seeds in his head. Allow him to experience this relationship but maybe now is also a good time to sit down and have good chats about all sorts of stuff - in a wholesome, mummsie, non-threatening way! Make friends with him so that he will come to you with problems. My 16 yr old and I have fantastic chats into the night. I keep a respectful distance but am always there as the 'safety net' when he needs it.
You'll just get this sorted, then you'll be back on here asking how to help your son's brokenheart...it happens to them all...Best of luck!
2006-11-11 18:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by naughtler 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
14 is WAY TOO young! Boyfriend/girlfriend in that love way is the beginning of him finding a wife. Which at 14 is way too young! He needs to have fun being a kid, let him know that. You are the parent and you want the best for him. Good luck! Be a good parent, sadly there are not too many of them today.
2006-11-11 23:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by SerahSpy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is an appropriate age for DATING only. You never know these days kids are having babies at the age of 12 so I really feel it based on the relationship that the child has with the parents and its about trust. If you have a strong relationship with your son and feel he is responsible then yes thats fine, just talk to him especially about sex.
2006-11-11 18:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by dejohn m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you are going to be able to keep them apart if they are at the same school. Perhaps have your son bring this girl over so you can meet her. Forbidding him from seeing her will most likely work against you. Let him make his decisions, he's going to be experimenting as he gets older, and if he clearly likes this girl, I say let him date her. Just make sure you know what they are doing if they are going out. In terms of setting guidelines, let him go out on group dates with his other friends around.
2006-11-11 18:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by curlyq4990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids do date much younger these days. Suggest you allow some group outings like roller skating, movies, dances, etc. You, and other parents can take turns driving. Your teenager will think he's dating, but he really isn't alone with the young lady. Good luck!
2006-11-11 18:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell your son it's okay if they are "boyfriend & girlfriend" if they don't do anything adults would do. Like no touchy things but hugs are okay lol. Everyone likes hugs =). Or you can tell them they can't be boyfriend and girlfriend yet, but they can be really good friends. It depends on how much they know each other. But nowadays kids only go out with each other when they think they're "hot" or "cute" or that kind of things when they don't even know each other.
2006-11-11 18:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, find out from your son what his idea of dating is. He may just want to be able to call this girl his girlfriend, hold her hand, and maybe talk to her on the phone. I don't think it would be that serious of a relationship at that age. Tell him that if he chooses to go out on any dates, that an adult must also go along.
2006-11-11 18:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋