Any suggestions on how I tell the father I am pregnant?

Question

I just found out I am pregnant after a slip up with an ex. Me and this ex never seperated on bad terms and have remained friends we talk all the time and he comes to see at work a lot. He recently came over to my house to visit and the mishap happened he didn't pull out knowing that i am not on any birth control and no protection was used. I asked him in a text message what does he want me to do if i find out i am pregnant his reply was "that is bullshit "(my name)" I told you to get a morning after pill. And yes he did but after going to go get one and learning the side affects and coming to the conclusion that i personally can not do that to an unborn child and live with myself I did not take any. I need to tell him but am scared of his reaction what should i do?

Answer 1

Judging by his answer, he obviously doesn't want the child, all he wanted was the fun. If you're worried that he might have a violent reaction, don't tell him face to face. Explain it in an e-mail or by phone.
It's your right to want to keep the child and it's you who will go through pregnancy and birth. He has no right of demanding that you have an abortion (which, after all, is what the morning after pill does too). And you don't necessarily need him to raise the child, there are a lot of single mothers out there who do just fine.

Answer 2

You are just going to have to tell him. He most likely will not be happy at first. Birth control and the morning after pill basically have the same side effects. Does not let you create a child. Yes if one was to be forming it makes sure it doesn't have the chance to. That now is besides the point. You have to tell him but I would suggest you may want to be in public if you think that way he may not cause a scene or just be prepared for him to be a bit upset.

Answer 3

First off, the morning after pill CAN interfere with the development of an already conceived child by preventing implantation. This is abortifacient in the eyes of some people (including me) but not others. It can also prevent you from ovulating, but that is not the ONLY way it works. So I personally think you did the right thing :)

If you are genuinely scared of him, then have a good friend or close family member with you when you tell him.

Answer 4

Well....you have to tell him. I know it won't be easy but he does deserve to know. He may be a complete jerk about it, but you will just have to deal with it. The morning after pill should really not be used as a regular method of birth control. Unfortunatley, pregnancy is the inevitable result of unprotected sex and he should have thought about that before he even took it out of his pants!
You may end up raising this child on your own, but you are entitiled to child support. Regardless of the relationship you have with the father...your baby deserves that money. Be sure to establish it as soon as you have the baby. It will be his choice if he wants to be a part of the baby's life, but regardless, he will still have to pay.
It really sucks to go through this alone and I hope that you at least have some family support. Also, his parents needs to know as well. This will be thier grandchild and they have rights too.
Have you been to the doctor yet? How far along are you?
I wish you the very best of luck...just be honest with him and continue to stay strong for you and for your baby!

Answer 5

I can't stand how guys just assume it's so easy for us to just undo the damage they cause. The morning after pill, isn't birth control. I'm upset that he would ask you do do that, just so he could c** in you and not have to take responsibility afterwards! He will just have to pay for this baby. You had the right to take the pill or not. It's half his problem. He should've known the risks. Call him up, and just be honest. After all, you guys aren't "together" anyway. What choice does he have. As soon as the baby is born, you can go to the court and set up child support. Hope this helps, and congrats on your baby!

Answer 6

If you wan to keep the baby, then call him and tell him or heck...if the sex is good, invite him over for some more and as soon as it is over would be a great time, he will be relaxed.
If you dont need or want his help then wait until the baby is born, that way he cannot do anything to jeapordise your pregnancy.. Men can be crazy and there must be some reason you are not together anymore...but you did sleep with him. Is he worth bring a child into the word with???? Good luck

Answer 7

hi .
first i want to ask you how come you seperated in the first place. it sounds like you to are not finish emotionel with eachother. second question about if you should ask the father that you are pregnant, well i think you should tell him that becouse better if he found out unless he is a violent man ? then i would think very carefully.

hope everything turn out finde with you and the ex.
dorte

Answer 8

You should of taken the morning after pill ~ it is like birth contol - And when you take it there is no effects to the unborn child because at that time there is no child~

U need to tell him that your pregnant and its his~ But chances are by the sound of things he dosn't want to be part of it~ And that's his choice~ your going to have to do it alone...

Good luck -

Answer 9

He is selfish prick and you are not too bright for still putting out for him.
Abort or raise the child.
Go see a judge and make sure you get child support for the next 18 years.

Answer 10

I would just tell him and let him know that you thought he should know but you are going to have the baby even if it's without him. This way you give him the choice to be involved or not so he can't say you didn't give him a choice and this way it is on him to tell his family.