He has pushed me against the door (broke one of my rib), pick me up and thrown me outside the house, grab me violently and the last time he threw himself on top of me and twisted my ankle in front of the children. He is usually very sorry afterwards and I love him, and my children, too much to leave him. Still I want him to realise that this behaviour is unacceptable. What can I do?
2006-11-11 09:32:03 · 23 answers · asked by roseline t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
easy ,leave him and dont go back till he gets help get a restraing order if you have too,
or you could just wait till he kills you, either way...........
2006-11-11 09:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by jokerswild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well girl friend, you better get your barrings together,
i have been where you are rite now. first of all this is no kind of life not even an animal to live.
you want him to know his behavior is unacceptable.
well, you have one of the two decisions you can make.
1. stay, and the only thing you have to look forward to day after day is an *** kicken from the ol "man when ever he has a bad day, or worse yet he kills you or one of the kids, or maybe all of the above. don't you watch the talk shows. and listen to people that tell you this is not rite.
or
2. you can think about your kids and higher your standers in life.
get out, do your self and the kids a faver. there is so much more in life.
go to counceling because you will have a lot of self esteam, and fall short of what you and the kids deserve. you all desevre to be happy and be yourself. and i you will feel lonely, and sad at first, but when you go on with your live, and get things settle. you will find a comfort zone in life and be able to enjoy things in life, and just think! NO MORE HURRTING LIKE THIS!
the life that you are making your children live is what is totaly unacceptable. how dare he think this is ok. he don't deserve to be loved by you or the kids, you are just a punching bag to him.
i will pray for you to get the straigth and courage to get out. find someplace safe to go. if he comes for you have a plan.
if you move out the best thing to do is move were you are in a secured building.
best to stay with friends or family the ones he would never think you would go to as long as they support you and the good decisions you make.
2006-11-11 10:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by tabatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need counseling. He because he has anger issues and you because your allowing him to beat on you. Of course he's sorry and I am sure he promises to never do it again, but it will happen over and over. Usually the beatings will escalate happening more frequently, later there is a large possibility he will start on the children. Stop the madness now. You've three choices here, get counseling, leave him or continue what you've been doing and screw up the kids. Children immulate their parents behavior. Your behavior is teaching the kids it's okay to be with someone who is violent and uses his hands to hit rather than hold. Your little girls will be women one day, do you want them to be brutalized as well by a partner. Only you have the power to change the future for your children. Good luck.
2006-11-11 09:48:04 · answer #3 · answered by crkristy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, most of the time a man that physically abuses his spouse needs something dramatic like coming home from work and finding you and the kids gone to make him realize that the behavior is unacceptable. My suggestion would be to leave as soon as you can. If you can, get a small bag of basic things you and the kids need and leave as soon as you can. If you can't get a bag together then leave right now. call 800) 799-SAFE and they can tell you where a domestic violence shelter is. Do not go back home until he not only agrees to go to counseling, but goes at least twice.
Yes, it seems cruel to uproot your girls like that, but it would be even more cruel to leave them motherless because you didn't take any action.
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. My prayers are definitely with you and your family. Your actions in this area will do more to save your marriage and heal your family than your staying there and hoping he changes.
Please, please, please call 800) 799-SAFE and get to a safe place.
2006-11-11 09:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The next time your husband is asleep or at work or out of town, you need to grab your children, get some money, and get out of that house, and do not go back. Drive to the nearest police station or hospital emergency room. They will direct you to a shelter or other safe location where you can live with your children, until you can start life again on your own, without your husband.
You should not show love for any person who abuses you. It will be tough to start out on your own, but for the sake of your children and yourself, you must do it.
I wish you the best.
2006-11-11 09:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you are able to properly be suffering emotionaly and a powerful guy will stand by potential of you. Your husband is vulnerable and there for, the ultimate element to do is bypass to WOMANS help, you will detect a sort at your GP or scientific institution. they'd take care of you and placed you up in conserving accomidation which you will take for you and your unborn baby. he gets worse and he would injury you so undesirable that it endangers you and your baby. you do no longer desire to get to that component and lose your baby and left with the guilt which you had of project to bypass away and shop a existence!! very own adventure residing with an abusive companion, they're going to seem or act a wee whilst like they're sorry regardless of the undeniable fact that it does no longer final. do no longer attempt to reason with him or make him substitute bypass away!! you would be depressing and no baby could strengthen up in a violent residing house carry, what occasion would you be exhibiting that youngster that it somewhat is okay to hit or publish with it!! whilst the youngster is born an new point of stress starts off through contemporary issue!! EDIT The womans help may additionally help with prosecution him, which I propose you're able to do as he could proceed his habit added considering you have left the pathetic excuse of a guy!! Its approximately administration and he will have not anybody to take his temper out on!! you are able to sense tempted together with his sorry s and making up yet don't be fooled. I have been given a broken nostril and crushed some circumstances then it grew to become to psychological abuse that's only as undesirable then administration!! he's no longer the guy you as quickly as knew, he's a stranger a violent guy that would desire to be punished!! Deserve a existence as a lonely guy and merits to lose what he has thrown away!! He finished that each and everyone by potential of himself!!
2016-12-10 07:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move get a reatraining order to remove him from the house or leave yourself. Then if you think it is worth it, insist on counselling. Do not leave your children in a violent environment. Unless there is immediate intervention, it will get worse and more dangerous for you and the kids.
2006-11-11 09:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by Stuff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time it happens, call the police and make a
complaint. Protection from Abuse orders can
be obtained for him to stay away from you and your children. If you don't, you or your children
may all end up dead. Whether you want to go
through this alone with him is on you, but the
children should'nt be subject to this violence.
If it was me, his things would be sitting in a trash
can on fire.
2006-11-11 09:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well that cant be right because it seems he is abusing you. the next time he does that you got to tell him that you are thinking about divorcing him because of his harmful behavior. If you allow him to do such things and doint stand up to him, he might very well do something harmful to your children in the same way!! even though you love him so much, just think about what you are going through and how your children think of their dad that way. you have to atleast have divorcing in your mind just in case you may very well know/decide that it is the best choice for your family! Stand up to him and go for it!
2006-11-11 09:40:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a mom first. Protecting them comes before anything else in the world. They didn't ask to be born that was your choice now that they are in this world you owe them a safe and happy life. And by the way you deserve the same... You are worth something girl and so are your children.
2006-11-11 09:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by momma 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get out now before you get hurt really bad or worse. If you continue to stay with him he'll probably start beating your daughters too. Call the Police and tell them you need a safe place to go. Don't wait. You deserve better than this!
2006-11-11 09:35:13 · answer #11 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋