Last week I saw a post on here where a woman was talking about hiring a private eye to investigate her daughters boyfriend. Somebody mentioned the link http://background-records.net/ as a good place to find info online. Well I checked out the site and was bored so I started entering names of people I know. That is when I discovered that my friends fiance was convicted of assualt in 2001. I am sure she doesn't know about this. I have to tell her because I fear for her safety but I don't know how to approach the subject without her hating me. We have been friends since the 3rd grade and this news is going to devestate her.
Any insight on how to handle this situation would be appreciated. Thank you.
2006-11-11 09:06:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow, you posted this question FIVE times in 1 minute, you really ARE obsessed.
I bet she'll be just as surprised to know you're running background checks on her man as she will to know his background.
2006-11-11 09:25:12 · answer #1 · answered by xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should mind your own business. If he wants to tell her, that's up to him. Sometimes people change. 2001 was a long time ago and you should let the past remain in the past. Also, you don't know the circumstances behind the conviction. If you really feel the need, talk to him and let him know that you know.
2006-11-11 09:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister was with a guy and his ex came and beat up my sister so he stopped her by holding his ex down and he was charged for assault.
What i am saying is it does not always mean he meant to do these things today some woman when they don't get their way claim things that are not true. Even i was charged for assault on my ex and i was arrested and later she finally came out after her mom got it out of her that i never hit her and it was dropped.
All i have to add after looking at the site is YOU HAVE TO PAY FOR IT are you sure you don't like this guy and are wanting to cause trouble who would randomly pay to look up records. There is more to this!
2006-11-11 09:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because her fiance has a assault charge doesn't mean anything. Yes, it is wrong to hit someone, but perhaps he was defending himself or perhaps he saw someone getting hurt and felt the need to rescue them. Perhaps your friend already knows about his criminal past and wishes not to discuss it with anyone because it is a personal thing.
2006-11-11 09:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're making way too lots of this! merely in view which you're marrying somebody does not recommend they could desire to be attentive to each element of your existence till now you met him. Your checklist has been expunged. it is over with. it won't come lower back to hang-out you so some distance as a job or regardless of. despite the fact that, you interestingly mistrust that your sister or whomever she could desire to have instructed. it seems which you think of somebody could get mad at you quicker or later or merely blurt it out in an arguement with you some day or something. I doubt this could be devastating suggestions to every physique although. the only individual who will sense terrible approximately listening to any of that's you. Your to be husband knows who you're in any actual sense of that. it may not shake him. Your sense of guilt is what's hectic you. in case you'll be able to desire to unburden your self by making use of dumping this on him, effective do it. the difficulty is, it is not significant. it is merely your individual manure or luggage that doesn't rely to every physique else. do not tell him out of a few thought you have which you'll be able to desire to sparkling the air with him considering's stupid. The crime does not outline who you're yet you are attempting very not undemanding to make it is something that defines you. you're saying you're a offender? that's a snigger. in case you may not recover from this on your individual then bypass see a therapist. so which you may even ask this question exhibits it became into an adventure that keeps to be working you. you'll be able to desire to stop beating your self up over something which you probably did eons in the past. Drop it or tell him, yet stop beating your self up.
2016-10-17 03:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really not your place to tell your friend. Obviously you care about her well being and I completely understand your position. But your not getting his side of the story. If you really need to clear your mind, talk to him just like you told us.
2006-11-11 09:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her the web site and then just for fun put in names again. Put in his name and let her make her own conclusion. You do not want your friendship to end so do it gently.
2006-11-11 09:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can tell her about the site and somehow get her to look up her fiance's name herself. or break it to her gently, as a friend.
2006-11-11 09:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by nameisie90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if she is really your friend then she will understand that you are not hating her fiance but thought she should know
2006-11-11 09:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by sugercoolcows 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell ur friend cuz ur friend could be or get hurt
2006-11-11 09:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by jaijay34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋