my great-gran died 5 month ago n i used to love singing n now i cant sing songs any more n im 14 plz plz help?

Answer 1

Well....Ive been through this phase.Matter a fact,Im still going through it.Before My grandma died 5 years ago(This past September 21,2006),I would always sing in the church choir(Well I still do but...)and I use to sing solos too.(Very good at that).But when she died,I was in awe,and now whenever the church gives me a solo to sing,I can never sing it.I mean,I could/can,But Its like theres nothing comming out.And I think im damaged like this perminately,because I can never sing solos in front of a huge amount of people.Not even like 5 people.Maybe infront of myself,infront of a mirror,but not infront of like 70-100 people.

Your probally wondering,Whats the point of this??Well what Im trying to say is that whenever a loved one in whom you were probally very close to like I was close to my grandma,Your heart still is broken from that.And you know what,If your great-gran was suffering,it was probally for your own good and his/her own good.And How you posted your question,I can tell,you dont like to see people suffer,and you wish you could just do anything to about everything for a person whos suffering.Im just like that and its totally understandable.Also,when my grandma died,I was really upset and sad,at the fact that I knew I was probally going to be mourning her death for the rest of my life(Because I grew up around her and I spent most of my life around her)and I know she wouldent want to see me mourn her death,and you know,Its just a phase,in which it may take you days,months,or maybe even years to get over.But when she died,I went out,and bought about 5 months worth of notebooks,and pencils,and just wrote poems and songs and whatever else,and that was how I used to express my anger.Here,Ive even decided to include for you to read.Ive actually encluded 3 for you.The first one is intitled "He only takes the best"

"He only takes the best"
God saw,they were their happiest and someone would not let that be.So he put his arms around you and whispered "Come to Me".With tear filled eyes,I watched you,suffer and fade away.Although I loved you deeply,I could not make you stay.A Golden heart stopped beating,Hard working hands put to rest.God broke my heart to prove to me,He only,takes the best.

The Second one is intitled "Broken Chain".

I knew little that morning that God was going to call your name.In life,I loved you dearly,In death,I did the same.It broke my heart,to lose you,you did not go alone;for part of me went with you.The day,God called you home.You left Me peaceful memories,your love is still my guide;And though I cannot see you,you are always at my side.

And the last has no title,reason being,I couldent think of one.

If tears,Could build a stairway,and memories a lane,I would walk right up to Heaven,to bring you home.No farewell words were spoken.No time to say good-bye,You were gone,before I knew it.And God only knows the reason.My heart still aches,In sadness,And secret tears still flow.What it ment to lose you,no one will ever know.You and angels around God's happy throne.If I would have known ahead of time,I would have held you close.

Answer 2

You're a poor wee soul. It's really hard to lose someone you love at your age.

But you will feel better about it sometime soon. You just have to go through the grieving process. Sometimes you feel very sad. Maybe sometimes you feel a bit angry with your great-gran for going away and leaving you? Maybe sometimes a bit guilty because you feel you could have visited her more often or been nicer to her?

Don't worry about all that. It's what everyone goes through, whether they're 14 or 24 or 54.

Is there a special song that your great-gran liked? Maybe you could sit in your room on your own and try to sing that? Don't worry if it makes you cry. We all cry when we lose someone we love.

And to try to do your best at school. I'm sure that's she would have wanted. She would have wanted you to make the very best of your life. Do it as a tribute to her.

All the best and deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Answer 3

Aah pebbles loving, your question was so sweet and I had to answer your question, you sound as if you was really close to your great gran and it's really difficult that since her death you have been unable to sing but try knowing that she is with you, I'm sure she wouldn't want you to give up a great talent and I really hope you find your way again to sing. Please get & watch the film Coyote Ugly, it's about a girl who loses her mum and gets stagefright and can't sing even though she is so fantastic and she find the courage in the end to really sing and shine and I hope that would be you, all the best pebbles loving, lots of love to you and go for it, don't give up. All my love Jackie xxx

Answer 4

Just because your suffering and have a big life change right now, i advise you listen to a new type of music theres so sos so so many types out there for you to discover that will help you get through this and find comfort because there are so many who realy do feel your loss and all the other stuff that comes with just being 14,
good luck darlin'
NEVER STOP SINGING:):):

Answer 5

chin up girl if u need help why cant u talk 2 ur parents/family? surely theyll give u the best possible advice, take care honey and everything will work out did ur gr8 nan support ur singing if yes then do it 4 her carry on her spirit in ur singing never let her memory die and always sing 4 her that way ul sing everday and also think of her everyday hope this helps u take care sweetie

Answer 6

wiat you cant sing now?!uh i don't see why im sorry your great gandmother died i never met mine so i can't really say what that feels like but i have lost 3 grandparents.oh im 14 to and i love to sing random little songs especially when i bike.so next time your doing somehting you enjoy just whistle or hum a tune or something.life is to short to waste doing stuff u dont want to so just sing cuse.....you had a bad day your taking one down you sing a sad song just to turn it around!or dance i love to dance ill dance to music and sing ppl tel me i got more dance moves then just about any one so if i cant sing the song i dance to it.and if you cant dance then look up this video ok on you tube look up evolution of dance is a great video has dances from like the 50s to 2000s its comedy so you should like it.i did i memorized it so dance sing be merry!live life to its fullest and other stuff like that well bye.
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Answer 7

Imagine your Great Grandad and God are your only audience. They both have asked for a never-ending performance of your singing because they love to hear you. Now, sing your heart out!

Answer 8

I'm sure your great grandmother loved hearing you sing and told you so many times. Just know that if you sing now, she can still hear you. You will be making her (and yourself) happy, and she will be so glad you are still doing something you love.

Answer 9

I had the same with mine... 1 year ago.. so, i understand you very well....try to think she's well in the other world and can take care of you when you're singing.. [and all the rest of the time].
death is just a word, she'll live in your heart now, forever... don't be sad, please...!

Answer 10

you can still sing. I know it is sad when you lose some one but think she is still watching you and would love to hear you sing. think of the good times you had and remember how much she cared for you.