At a restaurant: do you say please and thank you to the server or waiter/waitress?

Question

I do but when I do the server looks shocked and sometimes says they almost never hear please or thank you.

If you don't say either, I'm curious why not?

Thanks to everyone who answered. I gave everyone a thumbs up for answering but I can't choose a "best answer" because they're all good.
I'm going to leave it up to you all to vote :)

btw yes I do say please and thank you to everyone - it's how I was raised - to show respect, including to people in "service" professions.

Answer 1

All right I'll play devil's advocate. No I don't because they're doing their job. Do people say please and thank you to you for doing your job. I don't think so. Then why would you say it to them? Just wanted to stir the pot a little.



BTW I say it all the time.

Answer 2

Absolutely. I say it to the waitress/waiter, the doorman, the taxi driver, etc. It's politeness. And I'd love to see more of it in our society.

Answer 3

Yes I do say it because I feel like it wouldnt be poliete to not say anything at all. They probary look shock because that doesnt happen that much.

Answer 4

I always do! Not only for waiters/waitresses but to every1.. I hate people who dont use these kind words!

Answer 5

Yes, of course I do. Seems like the right thing to do.

Answer 6

Yes, I always say please and thank you to my server and waiter/waitress because it is good manners and apart of southern hospitality.

Answer 7

Yes I do all the time.

Answer 8

ABSOLUTELY, WAITERS AND WAITRESSES DO A HARD JOB AND DONG GET PAID NEARLY WHAT THEY DESERVE.

THEY RARELY GET THE RESPECT FROMTHE CUSTOMERS THAT THAY DESERVE EITHER.

KUDOS TO THE WAITERS AND WAITRESSES OUT THERE!

Answer 9

Yes I always say thank you.

Answer 10

i do and sometimes old ladies looked really surprised and say, it's good to know that youngins still have a sense of manners.