why do guys get turned on by lesbians which is not the same for the opposite way round?

Answer 1

we were actually talking about it in a-level psychology.
its the same about women dressing like guys but guys cant dress like women
if you think back, women being able to wear trousers, work and vote was seen as empowerment - moving up, because they were doing 'manly' things. but if guys wore skirts or did the housework while the wife worked, it is frowned upon because they are acting 'womanly' which means moving down the hierarchy.
so if women did the 'manly' thing of being attracted to other women, its a yay!
but if a man did the 'womenly' thing of being attracted to a guy it is a 'boo!'
do u get it? i tried to explain it as much as i can. i hope i can do a lot better in my exam lol.

Answer 2

The answer to this question, lies within all natural mammal behaviour. (mokeys,elk best example since i am basing my entire argument on evolution). Where only the alpha male gets to mate with the females, he is the strongest and most aggressive and will have sex with all the females in the hareem until he is challenged, it is only natural that he should try and bed as many women as possible. Wheras the weaker species the woman needs protection from the alpha, and know she can be protected by him alone and has no need for other men at anyone time, since it is impossible to carry more than 1 child to any one partner at any time. (NB All sex is natural based on your bodys urges, even though sex is enjoyable without necessary for birth, remember you are human though you have understanding compared to animals though) It is therefore more the fact that there is more than 1 woman really than the actual act of them being together, even though it does look good . LOL

Answer 3

Forester, I applaud you! Here's a second lesbian agreeing with every word she said!

And, quick edit to add here: the thought of watching two gay men having sex together? Sure; I like comedy.

Really: it's CUTE that they think men's bodies look better. It's truly CUTE that they think that. Well, I suppose someone's got to do the dirty work in this world ;)

I wish I had five bucks for every time a man has asked me out, I've told him I'm gay, and he immediately pipes up, "Well can you join me and my girlfriend/wife/sex drone/whatever for a threesome?"

But let's not forget this one: the guy comes on to you. You tell him no thanks, you're gay. He pouts and wilts. He continues to stand there. Then he looks at you wistfully and says, "You're a lesbian? Can't be. You're too good looking to be a lesbian." (I love that one.) Then he says he can change you if you just give him the chance. You turn him down. He tries again and tells you how big his dick is. (Wow, what an enticement... when penises are the most disgusting-looking object on earth. "Why yes! I want that scary ugliness even bigger!") You turn him down again and say you're leaving, thanks. He starts calling you vicious names and harasses you down the street.

Threesome between self, male, and his female drone = worst scenario a lesbian can possibly imagine. Gives me the willies just THINKING about it. Can we move on to next subject, please?

Answer 4

If I had a dollar for every time a guy asked me out, then upon hearing that I'm a lesbian, asked if he could join my wife and I, we could be comfortably retired by now.

Guys get turned on not by actual lesbians, but by the image they have in their minds of what lesbians "should be like."

This image is sold to them by the pornography industry. The image of the lesbian in porn is almost always the straight male's ideal female body types, portrayed not by actual lesbians, but by straight women who are "gay for pay."

And of course, there are plenty of porn storylines where the "lesbian" is "seduced" back into "being straight" by the irresistably hot guy.

Unfortunately, since this is the only contact/experience most straight guys have with lesbians, they think this is what lesbians in the real world are like.

Men, if you are reading this, realize that these are movies made BY men FOR men, using male-driven ideas to sell you a product for money. They have no bearing at all on reality.

Enjoy your fantasy videos if you must, but remember, they are just that: fantasies.

You will NEVER EVER be asked if you would like to watch or join in on a roll in the hay with two real-world lesbians.

Speaking as one such lesbian, I can tell you that the idea appeals to me about as much as the idea of two gay guys inviting you home with them would appeal to you.

Answer 5

It may have help if you had prefaced the word "guys" with straight. Having said that I think men or males is preferable to guys - too american!
As a gay man I most definately am not turned on by straight women or lesbians in any sexual act or nakedness.

Answer 6

I have pondered this very question for decades. Being visual, we love seeing a woman's body. Seeing more than one woman's body is desirable gravy.

The thought of seeing two women together seems to reach a part of the inside where I believe that if I were with one of those women, to enjoy her feel and her touch, then she would accept my being with another woman at the same time.

I could be with both and we could enjoy all three of us at once.

I wonder if it could ever work, though, beyond a chance and brief encounter. It takes a bit of effort just to keep up with one woman for the long haul.

Answer 7

A guys "lesbian fantasy" is a flaw because the fantasy is derived from wanting to join in - which he wouldn't be able to do unless the two girls are bisexual and happen to feel attracted to the guy as well. Hence, its not a lesbian fantasy but a bisexual one.

Answer 8

Ladies will always be sexy in the eyes of men, whoever they are doing with...

1.as the boys would always say, they are still females.

2. they may be hard on the outside...but soft in the inside

3. they learn how to satisfy women more

4. Possibility to join if a girl would give permission.

5. Women looks very sensual. Doesnt look obscene too.

Answer 9

That's a good question. Everybody always talks about seeing two women go at it. But you never hear anyone wanting to see two men. Double standard?

Answer 10

I think a lot of hetrosexual men fantasise about being female-practising Transvestites and transexual represent a mere minority who carry this fantasy to its extreme.

Hence I'm guessing when men fantasize about lesbians they are imagining themselves in the role of one of them.