Is this a good sign?Girls advice pls.Serious answers only pls...?

Question

If your close female friend says that she doesn't want a relationship,the main reason being that she is scared of
losing the friendship\risking it.

Wud she ever change her mind??Or should I just accept this.

Why wudn't a potential relationship work???

Is the difference that big???Especially as we're practically a couple already-minus the physical side.

I've not spoken to her for 6 days now,she's txt my mate asking if he knows what's up with me.

Does this mean she's missing me?Will she txt again asking how I am?Why won't she ask me?

We are attracted to each other-we once contemplated a 1 night stand,but decided not to.

When she said 'it wudn't feel right' mean anything?

Answer 1

I'm a girl, and i'm totally in the same situation. I feel like if we are more than friends, and things don't work out, than we will loose our good friendship. I'd rather live without a relationship with him, and still be good friends, than neither friends or more. I don't know if that makes since. I relationship might work between you two, but I know what she means when she says she's scared. She likes you so much that she doesn't want to risk loosing your friendship if a relationship doesn't work out. It's usually the case that after a guy and girl are good friends, and they decide to date, and if it doesn't work out, than they just can't make it work as friends, especially if they were involved physically. It's just too akward. Let me know if this helped any. As for her texting your mate, ummm, yea it sounds like she cares, but just doesn't know how to let u know.

Answer 2

She is your friend so of course she is missing you. I think that you need to text her. If you like her and the two of you are practically a couple, then I think that you need to talk to her and sort things out.

Invite her over to dinner and tell her how you feel, tell her that you like her as more than a friend and you would hate to ruin your friendship as well, but you would at least like to give it a go, because you think that you two would be good together because you are friends. See what she says and if she is still says that she is scared tell her that you are too and that you are willing to take it slowly. If after all this she still says no, then you will just have to keep it on a friendship level. Either way you need to contact her, because at this moment in time she is probably thinking that she has upset you in some way

Answer 3

Your friend is thinking that by going out with you, she's risking your friendship. What she's thinking is that sometimes if you two get a little too physical or personal, and then you break up, then your life might not be the same because you've done it together. If my best guy friend asked me out, that's what I'd be concerned about. I wouldn't want to be his friend anymore thinking about what we did together. Unless she really likes you and doesn't care about this, I don't think she'll change her mind. And, personally, I think that texting to say everything is really wrong. If she really loves you, or is really your friend, she will talk to you face-to-face. If she keeps texting you things, she might not want to take your friendship to another level.

Answer 4

She cares for you a lot and doesn't want to risk anything spoiling your friendship. but does she like you like that? Ask her - otherwise your friendship will be damaged. if she insists she only wants you as a friend, then leave it and move on. if she does - convince her you won't hurt her. I had a relationship with a close friend, in the end, we discovered we should have stayed friends - and we are - 2 yrs later. call her tonight and ask her to meet up
! and good luck!

Answer 5

its because she doesnt want to risk your friendship, if you did get in to a relationship and a couple of months later found out that as a couple you didnt get on think of how uncomfortable your friendship would be.............in fact just think would you ever be able to be friends with her again???
she sounds scared give her more time to think about it....you dont need to accept her answer yet but dont try and push her for an answer straight away. You should be happy that she values your friendship as something she doesnt want to lose.
I hope it dsoes work out for you, why dont you just txt her to say hi and not mention anything relationship wise.
give her time............

Answer 6

She prob looks at you the same way as she looks at her female friends. Friendship can last a life time but a relationship changes everything and you could lose her forever.

she prob thinks shes done something to upset you thats why she asked your friend its what us girls do.

you have to accept her decision

Answer 7

How to say this...From what you say, it sounds like you two love each other as friends. Although you're attracted to each other, it's understandable that she'd be scared to take your relationship to the next level. Take things slowly; don't pressure her. Show her that you really care for her. Text her and tell her you miss her.

Answer 8

people that have been friends for a while dont like to get together in a serious relationship because they dont want to ruin the friendship because it would be weird if one of you still had feelings for the other one after you broke up...then your friendship would never be the same.

but then again she is worried about you because you are like her best friend and she wants to know how you are and what is up with you...just probably like you want to know what is up with her.

so my advice would be to call her or text her and ask her whats up or do you want to hang out with a group of people...because it is still going to be difficult to hang out with each other one on one until you realize that she only wants to be friends.

Answer 9

Hi
I would say that she is interested but doesn't want to get hurt!! Have you been a bit of a rat with your other girlfriends? and has she seen this??
I would sit down with her and have a serious chat with her and tell her how you really feel, if she says she needs time GIVE HER IT, because as they say you don't know what youv'e got until it's gone!! If she wants you she'll get intouch.
GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

if you friend doesn't want to crush on a lad then accept it. she could get over it n go out with him late. im in the same situation as ur m8 but only u as a friend can only support her in her judgement