happy babies?

Question

I am 12 weeks pregnant and can't stop looking at other peoples babies. i was out today and saw the most adorable little girl, around 6 months, gurgling and smiling and screeching with delight at her mum, who was pulling silly faces at her. I got chatting to her grandma and commented on what a happy baby she seemed to be. She was saying that she has been like that from the moment she was born, and that its not something they are born with, its how the parent responds and acts around them, and how the atmosphere is at home that makes them contented and happy babies. I have been pondering this 'nature v nurture' idea all afternoon. What do u out there think?

Answer 1

Babies know when the adults around them are stressed, and this in turn stresses the baby out. Also, stress sends bad hormones raging through your body. If you are continually stressed out and overract to the slightest of things, this has to somehow go through your baby too.

I just had my first, and he's happy and content, just like his momma and me. I got over my fears by saying to myself, "you know what, billions of people have been doing this since the dawn of time, I think I can handle it just fine."

Answer 2

My son was VERY colicky at birth for the first two months- so he would cry and cry and cry no matter what I would do to try to get him to stop.... well, after he was through the colicky stage, he was the happiest baby I've ever seen... we also get compliments all the time because he is seriously extremely happy! I think a lot of it does have to do with us... I can't stand to see my baby cry in pain, or from anything... so I do everything I can to make him giggle and laugh and be happy. My Mom was an okay Mom... and I love her so much, but she did some terrible things to me emotionally... so I've always been longing to be closer with my mom... and now that I have my own, I want him to be happier than ever. So far I've done a good job :) I do think a lot of it has to do with parents- if the parents in the home are constantly yelling at the child/and themselves, the child won't be happy. (As was in my case- but I turned my life around) But if the child has very loving parents and lot's of giggling in the home, the child will probably be happier.

Answer 3

That gramma was right.

While some children have naturally more docile temperments, all children can be content and happy simply based on the reactions of their parents, and the environment they live in.

Calm babies dont just happen, they come about from calm parents and calm houses. The more nervous and uptight you are, the more likely your baby is to have colic and be fussy.

Answer 4

I think it is partially nature partially nurture. If you are responsive to the baby when he or she needs something, make sure she is fed, clean, warm and dry and also talk and play with her she will be more inclined to be in a good mood and want to play, but if she feels scared, neglected, dirty, wet, cold and hungry then obviously she will be unhappy.

Think about it this way, when you are warm, dry, full and clean don't you feel better than when you are in desperate need of a shower, some food and someone to talk to?

Answer 5

i think that all behavior is a little bit of both nature and nurture combined.
my first baby was a very happy baby who only cried on very rare occasions. she didn't even cry when she was hungry or wet, she just squirmed or got a grouchy look.
my second baby was pissed from the minute she came out and stayed mad for the first 2 months or so. i tried everything i could think of until i finally figured out that she liked everything the opposite of what the first kid liked. once she re-trained my mothering skills, she was just as happy as the first kid.

Answer 6

It only seems to make sense that if u are happy and cheerful around a baby then they have no choice but to be happy. My baby is happy, but he has a mean look on his face. I think babies are just like every other human being and they respond to their surroundings like adults.

Answer 7

even as my son replaced into 2.5 weeks previous he had colic until eventually he replaced into 5 months previous. He replaced right into a typically crabby toddler, yet he looked as if it would snicker and smile daily, purely not all day. Then at 6 months he replaced into clinically determined with acid reflux affliction. So he had gas plenty & might want to spit up plenty. He had days the position he might want to scream in soreness (the drugs did not help) & I mean ALL day. i might want to drop him off on the sitters to flow to school & 10 hours later he replaced into crying even as i might want to get him.That lasted until eventually he replaced into about 9 months. Now he will be a three hundred and sixty 5 days in a week & he's in a good number of cases in a very good mood. He babbles plenty & smiles & laughs. He does whine more effective than i might want to like, do not get me incorrect, yet i wager i'm used to his moods! His dad is a moody one, so i imagine our son has gotten the moody gene. Our son has continually been a tremendous toddler in public. he's continually in a very good mood, smiling, giggling, waving at people by the save. He loves the lighting fixtures, followers, people observing. So even as the moodiness strikes up, we flow someplace! He does smile, snigger, and snicker prevalent, purely not all day. I say that is the nature! & i desire all childrens are satisfied little ones!

Answer 8

some babies are happy babbies some are not example twins one cooed and was content the other however was a winney babie they both had the same loving enviroment

Answer 9

Children learn what they see and hear, they can believe it or not know when Mommy is stressed, and the more stressed Mommy is the more unhappy they are. So stay happy and you will reap what you sow, congrats on your little angel.