i'm 7.5 months prego, my boyfriend is bored with his life and likes to "make it more interesting" by doing meth sometimes. although he usually does it every 4-6 weeks, as my due date approaches, he seems to be doing it every weekend. the entire time i've known him, he's done this but i am getting worried because i don't want to have him in the delivery room if he's out of his mind! that might sound mean, but i just know that he'd probably not be any help to relaxing me if he was there and messed up? has anyone had this issue and really, will he stop once the baby gets here? if he doesn't i've already told him, i won't leave the baby alone with him. any advice? experiences? please, share!
2006-11-11 06:49:46 · 22 answers · asked by green eyed sole 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't think that you're stupid, otherwise, you wouldn't be asking this question. I do think that you need to re-evaluate your priorities, though. Plain and simple, here is the fact:
You're going to be raising this child alone. You may not know it now, but it's going to happen. Your boyfriend is CLEARLY not ready to be a father. He may wake up someday and decide that he's ready to grow up, but I wouldn't count on it.
Two, you're inviting CPS to come in and take your baby away if they get wind of ANY illegal drug use by EITHER parent. The only way that you can avoid having that happen is by walking away now. You can tell him that it's your family or the meth, but that he cannot have both.
Meth is HIGHLY addictive, regardless of what your boyfriend may say. If you think that it's going to get better once the baby is born, you're quite probably sadly mistaken. Once your boyfriend starts seeing all of the sleepless nights and how tired you are trying to keep house and caring for a newborn, he may be more likely to do more as opposed to less.
I would consider leaving, hon. I really would. Illegal drug use is no shadow for a child to compete against.
2006-11-11 07:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more meth he does, the more addicted he will become. You never know what a meth-head will do. You and your baby are not safe around him when he's high. He won't stop because he's probably already addicted. I'm sure he thinks "I wanna have some fun before the baby gets here", but like I said, he's playing with fire. Every time he does meth, he will want more, sooner. He is taking away money that should be set aside for your baby. Do you really want to be around a guy who can't even take care of himself, let alone a girlfriend and new baby? If you care about your child, you need to leave. As hard as it would be, it's going to be easier to do it now, rather than when you have a little baby to take care of. You will realize that he won't change unless he wants to. If his baby isn't enough motivation for him, then he obviously doesn't care enough to stop. I wish you luck in this situation. Your baby needs to come first, as well as yourself. What if you have this baby, and the police find out about his drug use? You can go to jail just for knowing about it! Don't take that risk. Please! My prayers will be with you, and I hope you can get up the courage to leave him. He needs treatment as soon as possible. If he doesn't get help, do not let him see your child until he does make the choice to get help.
2006-11-11 09:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot make excuses for someones drug problem no matter how much you may love them. You have always condoned his drug use and now you think he will quit when the baby is born...not going to happen. I wouldn't leave my child with him either- then again you are going to be living in the same house I assume. Do you not think there is any risk to your child. You're child could be removed from the home because of drugs if anyone ever found out or reported it. Do you want your baby raised in a foster home or by a drug addict? You need to get out of that situation and concentrate on caring for yourself and your baby. There is no reasonable person who is going to tell you to stay with a drug abuser and make excuses as to why it's okay. Move on with your life for you child's sake.
2006-11-11 07:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him until he get himself help. Meth is a very dangerous and addictive drug. You can't have him doing that in your home while you're pregnant and after the baby is born. The side effects for meth are horrible for people that are exposed to it. The side effects are even worse for children.
2006-11-11 07:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are smart to ask these questions so be smart about the answers which sounds to me like you already know what they should be, he has a drug problem which wont go away, unless he recieves help right now, hopefully your baby is okay, because drugs do affect sperm as well as if you were doing it. Not to mention you could have your baby taken from you if he is high in the delivery room good luck get some help with him
2006-11-11 06:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by walmartshopper 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dont feel bad that you dont want him there is he is going to messed up. I wouldnt want him there either. I would make it clear that he needs to stop or he isn't going to have much to do with his child. I mean that's just not safe to have him around when he is going to be doing drugs like that. Try to see if he'll go to rehab and stop all togther or something. Hope he realizes the mistake he is making and stops good luck
2006-11-11 09:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like if he is on drugs he's not very good guy in the first place. I would give him an choice to choose the baby and you or drugs. There are plenty of other things less expense to do with his time than do drugs.
2006-11-11 06:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by chickie 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you planned to have a baby with an irresponsible man and now your stuck. he is addicted so will he stop? who knows most likely not with out help. no way should you leave a baby with him he's proven he's untrustable. sounds like your going to have to do this on your own cause he's not going to suddenly stop because there is a baby if he's not stopped while you are pregnant. sorry but good luck.
2006-11-11 06:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I'm hearing this?? call social services someone please, I can't bear to see another life ruined before its begun because of its parents... there are far too many in this world already. I BEG u, if u have ANY love for this unborn child, please put it up for adoption as soon as it leaves the womb. Trust me, it will have a better chance in life if u do. U ain't gonna leave this man, are u honey, so this is the only thing u can do. Don't give your child this life give him a better one!
2006-11-11 07:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your really should worry about this it could be harmful for the abby and for you. Go to the counsel or something and tell him that if he doesn't stop that you will leave him.
Please be careful for both you and the baby.
2006-11-11 06:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by pinkprincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋