my daughter is in high school...?

Question

she is getting sexually harrassed by students, and threaten to get shot up, and plain out harrasssed in school. and the teachers adminastrators and school board isnt doing anything about it who would be the next person up to take this problem too...remember we went to the school board...they said she likes to have these problems

Answer 1

I think you're leaving something out, at best, or out right lying at worst.

The School Board's number one priority is to avoid lawsuits. Document everything, and have a lawyer send a letter on letter head. Action will ensue.

Answer 2

Tell her that she will not be the only one who is nervous about going to high school or getting on the bus. If there is some way you can find out who else is going on the bus either her own age, who will also be glad for some moral support, or someone older who can keep any eye on her, all the better. I am sure that once she has settled in at school she will find new friends and believe me it won't be long before you are telling her that she can't go out every night of the week to see her friends!!! I think that by far the best way to prepare your daughter for secondary school, if she does not have anyone going from her previous school, is if she is able to meet others who are going to that school beforehand, if that is possible. My daughter actually drifted apart all her friends from primary school and for a while was a little bit lonely but then she made a whole new set of friends. Even my son, who has never had many friends, has made new friends at secondary school. So you must reassure your daughter that she will fit in, if she is her happy self, and make new friends and enjoy it. Try not to be too protective as there is nothing worse than her school chums finding out she is a mummy's girl. Good luck, I am sure it will all work out well. x

Answer 3

There are lots of good ideas here. I would suggest a combination of several of them.

Schedule an appointment with the district superintendent, going over the head of the principal. Tell the superintendent that you will be accompanied at this meeting by your lawyer and a local journalist. Also inform him/her that you are contacting the police and intend to get a restraining order against the people who are harassing your daughter. This last thing won't actually do any good, but it will give the story a hook for the local papers--imagine headlines that read, "Local Girl Forced to Resort to Restraining Order As School Authorities Do Nothing To Help."

Most superintendents will panic and finally spring into action before any such meeting even takes place. If they don't, stick to your word--find a lawyer, find a journalist, and give them hell. These people deserve to lose their jobs.

Also, as many others have suggested, do consider private schools (or a transfer to a local public magnet school) for the sake of your daughter's sanity and safety. Many private schools now offer financial aid for families who would normally not be able to pay tuition. The strongest schools typically boast that 30% or more of their students receive financial aid. Unfortunately, if you don't live in the Northeast these schools may be few and far between.

Fortunately the tuition of many parochial schools is much lower than one would expect, and these schools are everywhere. Lutheran parochial schools have good reputations for their high academic standards, and there are also some very good Catholic schools out there. Parochial schools may be particularly sympathetic to your daughter's situation.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Personally, I think you should take this up with your lawyer. Obviously the school isnt doing anything about it. Find out legally what you can do. In your daughters best interest it may be best if she changes schools because the students probably will find out what your family is doing by word of mouth. On the other hand it is very very common in all high schools for sexual harassment. I was getting it soo bad my freshman year that I was afraid to go to school. My mom went to the principal. His response was that I probably did something that caused this such as being heavily sexually active, I was a virgin!!!! My mom took me out of the school and I went to another school about 15 min. away. This is very unfortunate that your daughter is experiencing this. I wish you the best!!!!

Answer 5

The squeeky wheel always get greased, I would take this story to the local paper it could cause a big stir and outrage and something might get done there may be alot of other teachers and parents in the community that might help they just don't know about the problems in the schools if you get the story out you might wake up the people about whats going on.

Answer 6

Your State Representative

Answer 7

I would go back to the school board and tell them thay have "X" amount of time to sort the problem otherwise you will take it to the police. They never like that! If they dont sort it, then take it to the police. Sexual harrassment is a crime after all.

Answer 8

Get a lawyer. Somebody from the ALCU or even a law student from a nearby law school can advise you pro bono. If you have approached all the administrators through the chain of command and have no results, send a letter to the head of the school district informing them that you are taking legal action because you fear for your daughter's well-being and have had no positive action taken in her behalf by teachers and school administrators.

I hope it gets resolved soon!

Answer 9

If it isn't possible to move I would make sure that your local police knows what's going on. I would also get a small tape recorder to carry in her pocket. When they start harassing her tell her to just quietly turn it on and capture their words on tape. Then let the school board deal with this.

Answer 10

**** the school Officials, sometime they don't help at all.
If I were you I'd put her in home school, so she won't be harassed any more. I went through the same problem and
I had to pull my daughter out of school. I then registered her in
home school at 7th grade and she graduated in the 12th grade.
She had no worries from school bullies, plus she could concentrate on her school work. Her grades went from B's,C's,
D's, F's, to A's, B's, C's. We are proud of her. Plus she was
able to get a part time job at Wendy's.