I had a friend for about a year but a few weeks ago we kiss and he wanted something else but I couldn't do it, so he stop talking to me he said that I mislead him to believe that we were gonna do more than just kiss. I'm not mad at him but kissing and having sex are two different things. For some reason I sad at this whole mess but in the back of my head I'm thinking 'was he really my friend or was he just pretending??'
2006-11-11 06:37:59 · 6 answers · asked by ♪♥bored♣♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If he stopped talking to you ,after knowing you for a over a year, just because you would not have sex with them when he wanted to, then chances are he was just pretending to use your words.
There is the small possibility that he actually did misread you and the signals he was getting or was just a bit more eager than you were , that does happen, and he is taking your rebuff personal. Being the fallible human he is, being the male that he is, he may feel that you do not think he is good looking enough or sexy enough etc. to go as far as sex so he is simply acting mean or distance as a protection mechanism. You completely , have the right to say when and to say no. You can simply look at this as an opportunity to set some boundaries, and communicate with him about your actual feelings and expectations. The two of you simply had different expectations up to that point, so the maturity of both you will either allow you to discuss those expectations for the future and understand the boundaries each of you would like or there never was a true mutual friendship. Give him some time and see if you two can have that conversation, if not it is over and be happy you had the strength to stand by your resolve.
2006-11-11 06:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just wanted sex. I say abandon the sex-hungry jack***! I remember about 24 years ago, my mom told me she had about 5 boyfriends (Not all at the same time), And all hey waned was sex. Don't be like my mom and go out with just popular guys or whatever. Find a guy hat you feel like you want to spend your life with; look past looks and look into the soul. I almost fell victem to he same fate, except with a few key defferences. 1st grade; i'm a guy; I never had a date before; it was a unpopular-popular thing; she didn't like me at all. then in 6th, I found the girl i wanted to be with. My point you may ask? Find someone that likes u 4 u, and make sure u like him 4 him.
2006-11-11 15:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question in your last sentence. You already know the answer..You did the right thing - I'm sorry for your loss - but life goes on - move on with it - you'll be fine.... Stick to your guns and you'll have a great life..........
2006-11-11 14:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by pikeruss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitly need to talk to him...thats the only way to stop yourself from you thinking about it and jumping to conclusions and or stressing yourself out..give him a little time a day or 2 n then talk to him ...dont worry good luck
2006-11-11 14:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are walking on eggshells with this person! go rreeaall ssllooww!
2006-11-11 14:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by cadaholic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hez a jerk i think you need to talk to him.
2006-11-11 14:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by A sOlDiEr In ThE wAr Of LoVe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋