I just had my 10 year anniversary. I noticed that every time we go to dine out with my parents he wears his ring, but really that is the only time. So I took mine off and he finally noticed and was insulted and had an attitude. Needless to say things are not going great, but I think a ring and marriage itself should have meaning.
2006-11-11 06:31:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I assume you discuss how you feel about it. I know my Dad didn't wear his because of his job. He worked in the Steel Mills and he was a mechanic. All the machinery would crush it and could crush his finger. I know several people with finger amputations because of the ring.
Have a sit down heart-to-heart with your husband. The ring doesn't make the marriage, it is a symbol of your marriage together. Ask him why he doesn't. Tell him how you honestly feel about him not wearing it. Tell him that is how he felt when he he saw you not wearing yours.
Some men just don't like jewelry and it doesn't mean they do not love their wives or are unfaithful. It has to be discussed between both parties.
On the other hand, when I was in the military, the husbands would take their wedding rings off so others wouldn't know they were married. I wouldn't date military men. That was back in the early 90's. It is different with each man. You have to have honesty and communication and trust in every relationship to make it work, along with love and you have to have faith with God being in your relationship. Rings are symbols of your love to each other.
2006-11-11 06:40:03 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a married man and I hate to wear my ring BUT I do it anyway because it makes my wife happy. I personally feel they are cumbersome, get in the way and are uncomfortable. That's why most men don't wear jewelry I guess. Just remember that most men don't feel they need a ring to remind them that they're married. A ring is only a symbol of marriage. True marriage is in how you live it.
Here is a suggestion: Ask your husband if he feels the wedding ring is uncomfortable. If he says it is then go and by a new one for him that's very thin and not a wide band. My wife bought me a cheap new one from Wal-Mart for about $65. It's cheap, but very comfortable to wear. I don't even know I have it on. She now has the satisfaction of knowing that I always wear my ring now.
2006-11-11 06:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Within certain industries or professions it would not be a good idea to wear a ring. Even a wedding band. Like mechanics not many of them wear one because they can get caught on something or the chemicals that will get on it. Or if they work around radiology then no jewelry is worn. If they work undercover then that has to be a reason. Ask him directly why he doesn't. I have a friend that works with heavy machinery and can't wear rings, bracelets or watches including necklaces so he got a wedding band tattood on his ring finger.
2006-11-11 06:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by tygernside 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes your right i agree with u the ring is like the sign that shows ppl u are takenm..its like proof........but like my husband works in construction all day he just cant wear it, it would get so mucked up so when he comes home he waers it and when we go out and stuff..i cant be mad at him. i always wear mine and if for some bizzare reason i take it off to clean i have the line on my finger from it anyways lol. the ring and the marriage go hand in hand lol!
2006-11-11 06:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I lost my ring a couple months ago, my husband still wears his but takes his off at work (he works in a werehouse) it gives him a rash when the dirt gets under it (I've seen the rash) but I wouldn't care if he never wore it, it is a piece of metal, it is only a symbol. A ring doesn't make you faithful, and not wearing one doesn't make you unfaithful. Its about where that person is emotionally and mentally.
2006-11-11 10:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been married 14 years and I only wear mine to church and sometimes when we go out....I know the symbolization of wearing a ring, but I dont like to be indentified as being "married" especially by people who dont know me. It's none of anyone's business if I am married. I don't like to necessarily advertise it. and by the way. when I do wear it, that's when women flirt the most. so on the other hand, most men wear them to attract women....ponder that for a while....
2006-11-11 06:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes rings are very symbol is and yes marriages a meaning but what is his occupation? on some jobs any jewelry is an occupational hazard. my feelings are that you should wear your ring at all times IF it does not constitute a occupational hazard. it may be his personal preference and he does not mean to provoke you. don,t provoke him. between the lines it looks to me like you are spoiling for a domestic squabble
2006-11-11 06:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by houdini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't wear mine a lot of the time cause I am working around electronic equipment. Gold conducts very well
2006-11-11 06:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding ring is a statement to the whole world that you are married, and therefore "taken". When one takes off their ring, it says, "I'm available"......for whatever! In cases where it could be detrimental to wear one, like some work, then I can see not wearing one...at work! When you get off, put it back on...unless you're wanting to appear single.
2006-11-11 06:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The most common reasons I know --
1. At work - it can be dangerous and cost a finger or harm you
2. They don't like to be identified as a married person... for many different reasons....
2006-11-11 06:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by snape4good 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋