Im not popular at school. Last year i had plenty of friends. They dont talk to me anymore. Ive tried sitting w/ them & talking but they ignore me. Ive done NOTHING to them & i cant help but think ill never have friends again. Theyre friends w/ the popular girls & they hate me too. I dont know what to do but im breaking down. I started crying at school a while back. My year sucks cuz 2 of my best friends moved away before the year started back. I hate it. If i was absent for a day no one would know. I try talking to people but they hate me cuz the popular people do. Everyone values the popular peoples opinions. It hurts. Any advice would help..plz. THANK YOU SO MUCH!
2006-11-11 06:24:47 · 16 answers · asked by Abby 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For the person that said maybe Im stuck on myself: How stuck on myself could i be when no one really likes me? Thank you for that answer but being stuck on me is the last thing i could ever be. By the way,this next comment is to the 1st person that answered: Ive done nothing to make them mad so thats highly unlikely.
2006-11-11 06:34:50 · update #1
ask them why they don't talk to you anymore
and stop trying so hard to be their friends they're not worth your time or tears if they're not even going to talk to you
loosing friends does suck but it's all a part of growing up
2006-11-11 06:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are so down because of this mishap, you are such an insecure gal. What's with popularity? Be yourself! Why do you need to be surrounded by a bunch of bootlickers? Don't resent that former friends ignore you because you will feel worse.
Evaluate yourself in a totally impartial way. Are you the "I, me and myself" sort of girl? You know, self-centered person? Check your breath, underarm or other body odors? There could be something your classmates dislike. Try being strong and ask someone to be sincere with you. If you can take it, you can try correcting or changing what you can.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 06:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by latinoldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw the popular people. What makes them so important? You're probably lucky you don't hang out with them. To them you're just a disposable person, someone to make them look or feel better. I'm the same way. I have a small circle of close friends. I don't trust the "popular" people at my school. They're all sheep. Remember to be yourself and you'll find friends, you just have to know where to look. Good luck!!
2006-11-11 06:33:09 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens to me sometimes to (breakdowns because of friends)
i dont have a problem quite extreme as yours, but because i go to a huge school and only know a couple people, i feel so left out because the few people i know seem to know everybody
i would go to these girls and ask flat out "what did i do to you"
they might act like they have no clue what u mean or they might tell u
it seems ur school has a bit of a clique problem which i never experienced cuz i go to an arts school, but maybe just dont try to hard for your friends to open up to you, just lay back a little bit, give them some room and when they're ready they'll open up
2006-11-11 06:29:27 · answer #4 · answered by dramateen23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your school is totally judgemental, and that really stinks. If they don't like you because the popular people don't, then they were never true friends anyways, so why bother? Find some new friends, and if you can't, then you should try talking some sense into those so called "friends" of yours. Good luck!! Hope things go better for you. :]]
2006-11-11 06:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by ACTiNGisLiFE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing last year. I know what it is like to feel like you dont have any friends. call one of your friends tell them how you feel and if they still dont talk to you, than they are not real friends. dont try so hard to impress the popular people you need to hang out with people that treat you like a friend. and if there is one of the popular people that you feel that you can talk to then invite them over and talk about it to them. be yourself. they will evenutually learn to accept you for who you are. think about people that you can be friends with for life because after college and high school than it doesnt matter if you are popular or not.
if you ever need someone to talk to i will be your friend
muchos love
kelsey!!
kthaskinsus@yahoo.com
2006-11-11 06:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by A sOlDiEr In ThE wAr Of LoVe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 03:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably stopped hanging out with you because they've changed... during middle school and high school (supposedly the BEST years of your life) everyone is changing. You can be best friends with a person one week, and a week later they act totally different. They could be jealous, for some strange reason girls are vicious during our teen years, we eventually grow out of though, well I think, most of us do.
2006-11-11 06:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by dramadivagurl_08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Susan. Ask one of them. If they say you are stuck on yourself ask for an example. This happened to me once & I was amazed by the answer which was based on one thing someone said about me. I told her what really happened, she believed me & everyone began speaking to me again. But it was quite a traumatic experience. I'm 60 now & whenever I hear this person's name I think about it. Lucky for me her name is Charlene & I don't hear it often.
2006-11-11 06:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its common to have that happen. I went through the same thing. if they are that way to you.....stop trying to gain their attention back. as much as it hurts, move on....make other friends.
you need not put yourself threw all that pain.
another thing you could do is assess what you talk about. are you stuck on yourself? try talking about something other than what you have talked about.
you will find your balance again...hang in there school is not always a fun time.
2006-11-11 06:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by Marg N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋