Ok to get pregnant?

Question

My Husband and I are newlyweds, and have been married for about 3 months. We've been together for almost two years. He is 21 and I am 19. I am on birth control pills, but think that I may be pregnant already. However, if I'm not pregnant, my husband thinks I should stop my birth control pills, because I've been told by my gyno that it can take up to a year after stopping birth control pills to get pregnant.

I am in college, and my husband works. We feel that we make enough money to provide for a child, and have already thought about things like child care, which I can receive for free through my college. I understand that we are both young, however we are both very mature and stable. I also know that some people, including myself think it is important to enjoy life as a married couple, which we definitely are. But, we still think that we are ready.

Both of us really want a child, but I still feel a little nervous about it. Some advice?

Answer 1

Hey chick,
It is definetly possible to get pregnant whilst on the pill because it happened to me when I was 16, granted I used to miss the odd one or two but even so it is possible so worth finding out.
As for when the right time to have a child is I think you have already answered your question if you've talked about it with your partner and you are both in agreement then go for it.
It usually takes 3-6 months for your body to get back to normal after the pill, i would recommend 3 months on condoms before trying (if your not already pregnant!) to make sure your body is ready.
Also buying an ovulation kit could help you to pinpoint when you are ovulating next, so once your periods are back to normal that could help you to conceive.
Hope this helps.
Good luck xx

Answer 2

You should finish college first. I just had a baby and it's a lot of work and responsibility. Every 2 hrs, we have to feed him and change his diaper. You'll be waking up every 1-2 hrs in the middle of the night, just to calm him down. Besides that, my husband and I take turns taking care of the baby so we can do some errands. After the baby was born, we had to take him to see a pediatrician. The most important thing to have is health insurance. It'll cost you over $25,000 just to give birth to this baby. You won't be able to study when you're takng care of the baby, especially when he's crying all the time. If you are financially stable, then it's okay to start thinking about having a baby. Besides buying baby necessities every month, you need to open a savings account for college tuition and buy life insurance to make sure that the baby is well taken care of after both of you decease. If you haven't bought a house yet, it'll take you a couple years to save the down payment when you have the baby. We already spent a couple thousand dollars on baby products. Our baby was just born 3 weeks ago.

Answer 3

You're 19 and in college? I'd wait until you are older. I had a child at 18 and I wish I was able to enjoy my early twenties and then have my first around 23-24. I was mature enough but I missed out on so much!

You can get pregnant if you miss only one pill, so there could be no length of time. It's different for every woman though.

Answer 4

Its ok to be nervous. Use condoms right now until you find out if its pregnancy or not. Then talk to your husband about waiting 6 months, then trying. It will give you more time to adjust to the idea and you can both put some money back. Just because it can take a year doesn't mean it will. It would be awful if you got preggy really fast and were that much more scared because it happened so soon. So use the 6 months to get ok with the idea, then start trying.

Answer 5

My advice--first of all, find out if you are indeed pregnant. If not, get the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler--you can pick up a used copy pretty cheap from ebay. Read the book and go off the pill. Use condoms for a couple of months until you understand your cycles and then just simply follow the books rules--you won't get pregnant until you're ready. When you both decide you are ready then you will already have the advantage of understanding your cycles and how to get pregnant.

Answer 6

I would advise that you should get a baby when you are done with college. I know how things are when both you and your husband wants a child, but getting a child right now while your in college can distract you from your school work. It won't be necessarily school first anymore, but baby first. Then when you actually finish taking care of your baby, you have your school work to finish. So, getting a baby right now wouldn't be such a good idea. If you still want to get a baby it's your choice. This is just my opinion.

Answer 7

You are very young, especially by todays standards to start a family. I was told by doc the same thing, can take up to a year or so after stopping the pill, well, after being on it for three years i forget them when we went away for a long weekend and guess what?....you guessed it...nine months later. Take some more time and think about it because it really could happen immediately, I have had other friends who the same thing has happened to so it is not just me. Three months of marriage is not a lot of time to get yourselves "settled In" let alone one more, take you time a bit, once they are here, as sweet as they are, they are here for good. good luck, you sound like nice people.

Answer 8

The decision is yours of course. From personal experience I would wait about 1 yr after marriage to get pg. I wound up pg after only 2 months of being married and didn't have time to adjust to each other before we had to adjust to being parents.

I agree with the last person though if your going to get pg stop the pill and use other protection until your cycles get leveled out. Another good charting site if Fertilityfriend.com. It's free or you can get a VIP membership and access to the message boards and more features. I used it when I got pg with my 15month dd.
Good luck, hope things work out whatever you decide

Answer 9

I think it is best to just be a married couple for awhile. Enjoy each other and the freedom you have now without a child. Plus, it would be hard to study with a baby.

Answer 10

Blood assessments are able to telling while you're pregnant 6-8 days when you ovulate. this suggests that in case you had intercourse around 14 days after your final era began (so in case you had intercourse in the path of your cycle) then that's waiting to tell, yet once you had intercourse at yet another element on your cycle (nearer to the time of your era leaving or coming) then it would desire to not be waiting to tell as at as quickly as. even though, even no depend if that's detrimental that's too early to tell so in case you ask them to objective & it comes back detrimental then do not anticipate which you're actually not, you should nonetheless try around the time of your next -envisioned- menstrual era. (a house try could be precise by ability of then) appropriate of success! & Be risk-free!