worry too much?

Question

I am often told by people that I think too much, analyze too much, worry too much, etc. I really get tired of hearing that. I have found that most people that tell me that; don't think enough and the problems they have in their life are self inflicted due to not thinking!
My over analyzing has helped me to make some wise decisions. Most of my mistakes have been from NOT THINKING and analyzing the pros and cons enough! I am single and tired of being alone but all the men I get to know end up saying I overanalyze too much and this seems to be a barrier. I feel that if it's the right person for me, they will admire and accept my "over analyzing". Am I wrong to think that?

Answer 1

I married a woman like you. She loves to analyze everyone and everything. And she does worry too much, but I think I'm helping her overcome that. Our personalities compliment each other because I'm the carefree one. She has shown me that analyzing can be helpful. (She analyzed a situation while we were in Walmart one day and we ended up nabbing a shoplifter!) She's always making 'connections' that I would never think deep enough to make. These 'connections can sometimes lead to worry, but I think she is learning how to control this character trait in herself so that it doesn't go that far. She's finding a healthy balance. I think one reason she over-analyzes sometimes is because she's afraid that a situation might go out of her control. I tell her "You're fooling yourself to think you control anything...God controls it all." Jesus advised us not to worry about tomorrow and to just let it take care of itself. I think that is excellent advice. My wife is an excellent chess player because of her ability to analyze. We love playing together. So, my advice to you is: Cherish the traits that you have, but learn to balance them and don't let them rule everything you do. You just have to learn when to turn them on and off. You will find a guy that will admire you for your ability to analyze one day. But many guys might not be comfortable with you if they feel like they are under a microscope. No one likes that. We are not perfect human beings and you may make people uncomfortible if it seems to them that you are ready to pounce on their imperfections. If you don't play chess, I recommend that you learn! It would probably give you an outlet for your analyzing energy to run its course without making people feel uncomfortible. It's a great game, and it can be very sexy with a partner! My wife is extremely sexy when she plays! The only other advice I would give you is that you pray to God about it. He can help anyone work through anything! Good luck!

Answer 2

I have a tendency to over-analyze, as well. I do not think you are wrong to think that. You may just meet your match--perhaps a man who works in the insurance business and considers every situation and outcome for a living. Good luck to you, I see no reason why the two of you can't be happy (although it will certainly drive any children you have absolutely nuts, and their teenage years will give you lots to worry about).

Nonetheless, here's some food for thought:
Have you ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? We, as humans, love to be right. So sometimes we create drama in our lives so we can say, "I knew that would happen!"
"If you put off everything until you are sure, you'll get nothing done." -Norman Vincent Peal
"Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life?" (Luke 12:22-26)

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Ok, breathe, now take a deep breath.

1. Make a list of the attributes of people you admire...and list what attributes...are like theirs.

2. Make a list of what you hate, yes what's bugging you, and who has hurt you.

3. When you're finished with what's bugging you, tear it up and throw it away.

4. Take back control of your life....and don't think the rest of the world doesn't make mistakes....Have you seen the election results lately....tons of people were thrown out of their jobs because they public said......stop making too many mistakes...that we consider ....major mistakes...so now they have to look for new jobs.

5. Exercise by taking walks at least 5 minutes at a time...and walk up and down steps ---3to5 minues at a time, at least once a day....this will get out your pent up anxiety.

6. Now, smile...and smile each time you pass a mirror, yes a big smile because you are taking back control of your life.

Remember - we all make mistakes...you're not wrong...you're just not challenged enough....so start answering some of the people at this site....and really answer from your heart....then you won't focus so much on YOU, and you will become a real benefit to the society......
Ok, then....now get started...where's that big smile!

Answer 5

The men who made these comments remind me of one of my first boyfriends. It was at the time of the Cuban missile crisis and we all thought that the world was about to be plunged into nuclear war. When I expressed my fears to him his reply was 'Don't worry your pretty little head about it!'
Maybe your menfriends, like him I suspect, don't want to discuss serious issues with you, so try to get out of it. Perhaps they feel less well informed than you, or simply don't want to think about the issue - that can be easier, can't it - like sticking your head in the sand? Now, years later, when I wrestle with life's problems, I wish someone would say it to me again!