DIVORCE THE SOB , and find someone who appreciates you , you deserve that much dont be afraid of your future you will be better off without him , and when you divorce him mke him pay as much child support and alamony as you can GET A GOOD LAWYER , you and your children deserve better than this emotional abuse ,and see if the sob takes that back
2006-11-11 06:09:35
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answered by ? 4
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Please there is nothing wrong with you. Its nice to have a friend to support you, and leaving him would be the best decision. He needs to realize his own actions, but he won't realize it unless something happens. I know some people might advise getting counseling for the husband, but thats kind of hard when a husband can be so controllive and powerful in a household who can't admit his own wrongs.
You probably feel too comfortable there at the same time this problem... hope that made sense. You need to establish independence. An income, a place, and for the kids establish a monthly child support from the father.
You can do it, it seems hard, but it will pay.
2006-11-11 05:55:00
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answered by EasyCheezyLemonPeachy 2
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Wow. Walk !!! Take those kids with you. What is important to know is that you tell noone that you are leaving and call the local womens shelter for transport if you so need. If you let him know you are leaving he will hurt you and possibly those kids physically. And I agree physically you can get over. Is not always the case. You are the mother of those kids and charged with that responsibility! Know that you arent the only one in danger. Just do it! Qiuetly. You will be ok and meet other women like you in situations far worse. Picture this. Can you see yourself a woman in prison down the line because you decided to wait and have to defend yourself in a situation as such. You would lose your life and your kids would lose their mom. Sad to say it does happen often. Now go.Good luck!
2006-11-11 06:09:39
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answered by bountyhunter101 7
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I have been married for 20 years and have never had that kind of abuse.
Please, please, please for the safety of your kids, you need to find a way to leave. Is he abusing the kids? It will probably end up that way.
Absolutely DO NOT TELL HIM YOU WANT TO LEAVE. That will only make it rougher on you.
Do you know of any shelters, or a pastor of a church or a good friend that could help?
He wants to control you and not want you to have a life at all without him. He's making you feel like you can't make it by yourself.
You are a grown woman and yes it will be hard to leave but there is help out there.
2006-11-11 06:07:30
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answered by kitt_kattkitt 3
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GET OUT of there why are you feeling guilty? He is the one with the mental issues and he really does not care about you. You are there for his pleasure to torture and treat badly/ So here is the thought of the day for you do you really want your kids to grow up in this situation? Do you want your kids to grow up and think this type of behavior is right? Do you want your kids to treat other people like their father does? This really is not all about you any more it is about the kids and what they are going through and what they are seeing. You need to just get up and go as far away as possible from the situation, really get out then get you and the kids some help so that they can understand that this behavior is NOT okay. This man wants to be miserable let him be miserable on his own.
2006-11-11 06:01:17
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answered by melissa052572 3
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So sorry..
You are correct about not enduring this abuse any longer.
Have you told him that you have had enough of his abuse
and that you are going to divorce him if does not get help and
stop it ?.....That is not a requirement if you can't do it....
Just file for divorce, take the house etc. and get child support
and alimony if possible based on spousal abuse..
I know it is a tough time buy you need to start thinking about finding a good mature man who will care for you & family...
With all due respect....Are you still an attractive woman ??
You may need to start getting yourself back into shape prior
to starting your search for a new man to marry...
Don't wait too long to do this....The older you get, the more
difficult it will be to get a prime marriage candidate...
"Prime" means a mature stable caring man with good assets , job, future, house, credit , cars, money, insurance, etc. etc.
2006-11-11 06:12:41
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answered by Anonymous
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you need to leave him before it gets any worse. To be in any abusive relationship is not good. You deserve much better than that not someone that makes you feel like you don't amount to anything but by being there when he needs you. Its a really hard situation as you don't want to let go but sometimes letting go is for the better. He may never change and that's not fair to you at all you need someone who will respect you and your feelings.
2006-11-11 06:10:05
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answered by cutegirl 2
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Every time he is sweet past abuse he/you are bonding. that bond gets harder to break each time ugly/nice happens. Seek a shelter and get out so you can recover. Often women stay so long recovery from the abuse takes a very long time. One thing about abused women, after they leave they find almost anything easy/possible when compared to coping with the abuse. They tend to be very resourceful.
2006-11-11 06:04:06
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answered by longroad 5
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locate your nearest battered womens shelter, take your kids and GO! he will only get worse, and you do not have to live life like this. women leave abusive husbands everyday, and they live wonderful lives afterwards. God will give you the strength you need to walk right out that door, and if you're not a christian, then look at your children. because even if they don't see what is happening, they know, and they blame themselves. they will continue the cycle, by either being an abuser, or being the abused. don't do this to your children. just GO.
2006-11-11 05:58:05
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answered by User Name 5
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I went through the same thing but without the kids.It was very hard but you really need to think of the effects it will have on your kids including their future relationships with you and future mates. If your kids see that you let their father treat you that way, then they MAY feel they can treat you badly also in the future. Also, their future relationships may suffer by treating others badly. If you don't have the strength to do it for you, do it for your kids!
2006-11-11 05:57:30
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answered by huckypeep2 5
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