yet, he is no longer intereseted in sex, only when he wants it very seldom, i came to bed naked last night and rubbed all over him and he did nothing but, say he was tired and rollover, i know that i can satisfy myself, but i want him, we've spiced it up before, but he doesn't even seem interested. I am only 26 years old, hes 29 help!
2006-11-11 05:44:56 · 14 answers · asked by sick of fakes.. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he also gets mouthy, like says are you p'ed off that i wouldnt give you any, it really hurts my feelings.
2006-11-11 05:51:14 · update #1
OMG! Some of these answers are horrible! No wonder our divorce rate is so high!
Maybe he hates his job. Or maybe his self esteem is low. Maybe the poor guy really IS just tired! Any of these things can cause his drive to go down.
I'm not saying that it is out of the question that he is cheating or that he has just lost interest, but don't just jump to conclusions before getting more from his side. You don't know what is going on in his head....don't assume the worst.
2006-11-11 05:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by BossMama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You husband is not a good friend to you. He can't even trust anything you say. No matter what you do, in his eyes, you will always be the bad one and everything he does, he'll say he's innocent and not at fault one bit. What's the point being in such a relationship? If you want to try marriage counseling, then please do so. But if it doesn't work, then you'll either have to accept that things will always be this way, with you the bad guy and him the good guy, and that you'll always be begging him for one thing or another for him to treat you like a good person, and you'll have to try to be happy in this type of life OR you'll have to move on and try to find happiness with someone who actually likes you and thinks you're a good person and is a good friend to you.
2016-03-19 06:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Crazy Catlady perhaps there is something bothering him at present that he is either afraid or ashamed to share with you. It certainly doesn't sound like the seven year itch so I would be concerned that he is overcome by something else in his life, as it is not that natural for a man his age to lose his sex drive. Discuss it with your husband and let him know that you are there for him, in all areas and that you would like to help him even if just by listening. If that is not the root of the problem then you and he may be in some assistance from a professional sex or relationship counselor. Whatever is the cause I do hope that you both are able to discover what it is and are able to overcome this obstacle.
2006-11-11 05:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that...I have been married for 10 years, and I can't imagine how you are feeling. He sounds like he has something he is holding back from you. Something he doesn't want to talk about...whether it be someone else in his life, or work bothering him. Stress does weird things to us...try to get out of him what is bothering him, that may open up the door for you.
Good luck, hang in there...things will work out!!
2006-11-11 05:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he find you sexy and attractive? Have you let your self go for 7 years? Is he sitting on a computer playing games? etc...
Get in his head and figure out what is going on. What is he thinking right now? It's called intimacy. If one or both of you lose it, your marriage will fail.
2006-11-11 05:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by HonestGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he on any medication that would cause him to act this way? research and find out if any meds he's taking could be affecting his libido. has he recently gained weight? if so he could be self consious, or feeling sluggish and tired. has his health seemed to take a downward motion? if so he could have a condition developing, such as thyroid, erectile disfunctions or sleep disorders. there are so many possiblilities, one could also be an instance of an affair but you'll have to be the judge of that, please talk to him, go to a sex therapist, counsler or physician... don't just jump to conclusions. good luck!
2006-11-11 05:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by User Name 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check out this web page:
http://www.garychapman.org/
Dr. Gary Chapman talks about the 5 love lang. it's obvious both of you have diffrent ways to express love... you guys should get his cd or book and read it together or do it by your self and figure out what you do that makes him feel loved, when he feels loved by you, the whole sex thing will come on its own....just look thru Dr. Chapman's web, i'm sure you'll learn a thing or two how to get him more interested in you and sex.... good luck!
2006-11-11 06:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what I have been married for 15 yrs I am 37 the wife is 34..she work 44 hrs....we got a dog breeding business.. and 2 kids with 4-h with dog shows. and I also got hurt at work..I hit my head on a 300 pound steel shaft at work.. and you knew I still wanted my wife...I was not to tired...
We still try to make time for each other and make love twice a week...young as he is sounds like he has somthing else on his mind...
2006-11-11 06:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with him and talk about this issue. He may not be noticing that this is a problem. Please talk to him about it when you see he has a free moment. Talk to him with love and not in a complaining tone. It's important that he know how you feel about this.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 05:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by deejay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that he's not cheating on you. If I were you I'd do some investigating.
2006-11-11 05:53:57 · answer #10 · answered by Veronique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋