I have this guy best friend who I met the 2nd Semester of my Freshman year of High School. Ever since the day I met him, something clicked and as the months went on, the more I feelings for him developed. He has a girlfriend who told him to stop being friends with me and even came up to me and told me to stay away. I am so in love with him but I want him to be happy and have the best so for about a month I didn't talk to him or anything. He came up to me a few times and asked me why I wasn't talking to him but instead of answering him, I looked at him with painful eyes and walked away. His girlfriend is now supposedly pregnant. The worst part about all of this is that he has been playing with my feelings since Freshman year. I am now a Junior. He has always known how I felt about him and I even told him a few weeks ago that I am in love with him. He told me that he liked me more than a friend and for many days, he came over to hang out and one day I finally got up the nerve to kiss him
2006-11-11 05:42:12 · 16 answers · asked by ILoveSimplePlan23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know how you feel go act on how ur feeling so what if he got the girl pregnant you love and should be with him not that other girl
2006-11-11 05:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by criss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away and move on. Get a new best friend and forget about love for now. You are too young. You're focusing on the wrong thing. Study hard and graduate hi school - isn't that hard enough?
If he wanted to be w/you as a "love interest", he would. End of discussion. The proof is in the pudding no matter what he says - talk is cheap.
It's the oldest game in book, he's trying to keep you as a backup b/c he knows how much you love him. Probably feeds his ego.
The reason you are being led along like this is b/c you haven't lived long enough to detect the signs of deception.
If you're stressing out at this young age, and if you continue in this path into your 20's, you will probably never "get it" and continue in this same pattern into your womanhood.
Relationships are too complicated for young people who don't even pay their own bills yet. Just focus on graduating, college, career, etc. You'll be a much better person for it in the long run.
Men will come and go, forever, I promise. Let him go and you'll find another when the time is right. The main thing is you don't want to have to beg someone to be w/you or pay attention to you. They should come to you, equally w/your enthusiasm. When this happens, and it WILL, you're going to forget all about this guy. If a person doesn't meet your level of enthusiasm, they're not for you.
Why do you want someone that's unattainable? Must be your upbringing. Half of the attraction to another person is that THEY WANT YOU TOO!! If they don't, why lower yourself to think and obsess about them? that's crazy!
Get over him and stay away from his girlfriend, this could save your life.
2006-11-11 14:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by NYradicalone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be nice but i have to tell the truth.1st if he has been playing with your feeling and u knew that then you put your self in that position.you shouldn't wear your feelings on your sleeves when he has a girl friend.I'm afraid you may be to late.they now have a baby on the way.you shouldn't get in the way of that.its now goingg to be a family and your goin to get hurt.be big about it ,i had to do this before .you already told him about how you felt OK now he knows.seat back and be his friend through thick and thin with your feeling only based on best friends,don't do it in a selfish way wanting something in return.if he has the feeling for you that you think it will all fall together.but remember that woman will always be there now with a child can you handle that?don't let him come to you when sex slacks up from the other woman cause he will if he knows he can get it.so don't put your self out there.and don'
t kiss him again.
2006-11-11 14:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by lizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS SOUNDS LIKE TRUE LUV.
Did you know that the best relationships spring from being friends first. U have to get to know a person before you put your all and all into someone. U got the advantages over his girlfriend. It seems to me that you know all there is to know about this guy as long as you to have been friends. U and him have been playn wit each others feelings. Why y'all won't just get together. The real question is how y'all gone get rid of the girlfriend. As 4 that hatin a** girlfriend of his, let her know how u feel about him and he feels about u, because frankly I hate those kind of b******. She only wants u to stay aways cause she know u got his heart. Tell her is ova 4 her cause u n da picture now.
2006-11-11 14:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweeet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. The girl is pregnant. The guy wants to have you the as a puppy. It is like you are a security blanket that he can came back whatever he feels like. You deserve someone better. This guy does not want to be serious with you. Try to keep the friendship and leave him alone with his problems
2006-11-15 12:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that girl is still with him and has his baby....WHAT THE HELL DID YOU KISS HIM FOR!!!!!!!? ARE YOU INSANE? You just caused major chaos in his life and yours. Wait til after you graduate from High School to mess around with boys, unless you want to end up pregnant like his girlfriend. What are you thinking? Don't let your feeling towards him take control over you. Love makes us do the craziest things that we shouldn't do. You have to fight your feelings and help yourself win the battle. Get over him! You have to focus on your studies so you can graduate and get the hell outta High School. Stop thinking about "love" or what you think "love" is. Stop stressing yourself over him. When you hit the age over 18, is when you have time to be with a guy. Start a relationship with someone after you set up your future after High School. Trust me. I know what I'm talking about. You want to make your life as simple as possible. Stop complicating them. STAY AWAY FROM HIM. When he asks you why you're not talking to him, just tell him that you know he has a girlfriend and a baby (he has a family of his own), for crying out loud! He's a bad example for you, too. Don't waste your time & energy with him. Fight against your feelings towards him. Think of the bad stuff about him so you won't want him anymore. Ignore the good things about him so you can stay away from him. Please save yourself from destruction, girl.
2006-11-11 14:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love (and are not obsessed) someone, then just let them go. If nature has decided that the person belongs in your life, then no matter what, s/he will always return to you. If the person does not return, s/he was never destined to be yours. Nevertheless, your love still stays intact in your heart and the person whom you love is also happy in his/her way, wherever s/he is.
2006-11-11 14:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by moksha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off thats great that he told you he likes you more then friends, but you shouldn't have waited cause now he has a responsibility in his life he can't walk away from, not unless his current gf is lying about being pregnant. good luck
2006-11-11 13:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation narrated is beyond practicality of life but mere halucination and hence deserve no specific answer, since no specific question is there!
2006-11-12 23:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good eveninggggggggg Indiaaaaaaaaaa..... best friends always heart u but it is in the limit if u think its ok pls keep continue and heart again and again because u don't have ur anything as i understand, otherwise keep away from him and find ur feelings and self respect in other who can understand u .
2006-11-13 07:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by aadrish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋