Please tell me how you do it and how long you have been married.
2006-11-11 05:36:21 · 14 answers · asked by B M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
married 5 years. still working on the secret but good communication is a huge part to both people being happy!
and don't get into a rut. keep doing the things you did at the beginning of your relationship and try new things too.
2006-11-11 05:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by Gingersnap 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been married for seven wonderful years. The main thing that makes our marriage happy is lots of communication. I know that most people think that is corny, but its the truth. Be completely honest about everything.
You should also know that everyone is human and that they are going to look at other people but that doesn't mean that they are going to mess around with someone else. It is just human nature.
My husband and I talk about everything and we don't keep any secrets from one another. We have an agreement that if some day we decide that we want to be with someone else, to tell the other and not try to hide it and mess around.
You also have to understand that there are going to be times when you just want to get away from one another and do something with friends or by yourself. You can't spend all your time together and not get on each others nerves.
If you have children you have to back each other up on the type of discipline that you are going to use. If the other parent tells the child no then you can't tell the child yes because the child will start playing you against each other and all that does is cause fights.
I hope this helps, good luck in your marriage.
2006-11-11 13:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by tigerluvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not sound like a long time, but I've been married for 6 years. Honesty and trust are the most important issues (to us). Everything we disagree on, we talk it out and we work out a compromise. Yelling and arguing is something we both do not tolerate. We tell each other we love each other everyday and I know he means it by the look in his eyes. I'm glad we found each other.
2006-11-11 13:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 17 years of age. I was married for 20 years when my husband died of a very long illness. It takes love,
respect, honesty and a 50/50 marriage. You need to have a
good sense of humor too, so you can laugh when things get
hard.
2006-11-11 13:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for a whole 2 years, LOL, but i'm learning these things as i go along. So far, my secret is to pick your battles. if it bothers you that your spouse always leaves her underwear in the bathroom and you want to fight about it, ask yourself if its worth it. no marriage is perfect, and if that is the worst of you problems, feel blessed! after all, your spouse could be leaving her underwear in someone elses bathroom, then you'd really have problems! see where i'm coming from? i also heard recently, if you 'trade in' your spouse because they have 1 problem that you want to get rid of, you're going to end up with one that has 5 problems! moral of the story, be happy to have what you have! and remember those long lonley nights from the single days, and be grateful you never have to do that again :o)
2006-11-11 13:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by User Name 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been married 6 years and I just follow the Golden Rule, not only for marriage but everything else. It's my religion.
2006-11-11 14:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by E_Soup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for almost 3 years. I believe alot has to do with COMMUNICATION.. in the right way, with love. And also FORGIVENESS. But mainly, I think having God first place in your lives will give you a successful marriage... following the commands from the Bible. In all honesty, that is my answer to you.
Love is hard work. It's like a plant that you have to water and care for. If not, it dies. Good luck in your marriage!
2006-11-11 13:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by deejay 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, another fellow just asked this.
I have been married to my wonderful hubby for 20+ years.
He's my friend, lover, companion and confidant.
We are there for each other through good times and bad times.
Marriages aren't always easy, they are a work in progress.
Respect each other.
Wishing you all the best.
2006-11-11 13:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by kitt_kattkitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I have been married for 4 years now but lived with my husband for 8 prior to that, we stay happy by not having any secrets, talking and never going to bed without resolving any upset or disagreement. We also surpise each othe with small gifts ( flowers, chocolate, favourite meal etc) from time to time and have our own space and hobbies.
2006-11-11 13:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married for over 10 years. As long as we laughed and joked around and flirted things were fine. When the laughter dies so does the relationship.
2006-11-11 13:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋