As far as I know she is human and like all of us either makes or mistake or is just in a situation where a simple apoligy is polite.But she never apoligizes for anything. She will argue the point endlessly or silent for as long as possible, or even acts likes nothing is wrong. but never comes back with one......She will apoligize very strongly to other people for the most trivial things like not putting on the outdoor lights when they show up unexpectly or not getting to the phone on time. 15 years and its driving me crazy.
2006-11-11 05:32:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It kind of sounds like she is taking you for granted. I have to say, though, that I know exactly how you feel. When my mom was alive, she verbally abused me over anything and everything, but never once apologized for it. I admit, it hurt then, and still does. I'm going to counseling now, partly to try to work through that. Have you let your wife know how her not apologizing makes you feel?
2006-11-11 05:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resh is right when he suggests that you speak with her regarding this behaviour. I'd be willing to gamble though that after 15 years you have already done so and there has probably been many an argument over it also. You most certainly must have realized this quality (or lack of) in your wife before you married her and accepted it then so actually there is nobody to blame but you. At the time of your marriage you accepted these qualities and so how can you change this after 15 years. Well only suggestion that I could come up with for you both would be to attend some relationship type of counselling and both of you speak your mind and be honest about what it is that is bothering you about the other, you'd have to keep an open mind also as I'm pretty certain that after that length of marriage you may have things that she finds annoying also. If and when she refuses to apologize to you rather then fight or argue over it accept the fact that is who you married and that inside you know your correct. Best of luck to you and I hope that you and your lady have another 15 years together where apologies go both ways when needed.
2006-11-11 13:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look inside yourself, maybe you are not very nice to her, maybe you criticise everything she does. So it's possible you are not telling the truth. If she is a nice person to everyone else but you it's most likely you are just seeing what you want or in this case don't want to see.
Try being nice to her, treat her with the respect you haven't given her for the past 23 years.
Good luck, let everyone know what happens when you start to treat her with respect.
2006-11-11 18:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by M B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that there is some kind of power struggle going on between you both....she dosent want to apologize to you and it's driving you nuts! not getting one....i think you should seriously bring it to her attention, not in an aggressive way, but really let her know how this is making you feel...you don't want this to escalate or jeopardize your relationship so nip it in the bud now.
2006-11-11 13:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is afraid if she does she will seem weak to you. Trivial things, they don't really mean anything. Some women are actually brought up and told don't appoligize to your man for anything. Even if you're wrong! You could ask her about it, but I don't suggest doing it when it is actually happening. She will only become more stubborn.
2006-11-11 13:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right. Everyone has to apologize at one time or another. Although sometimes when my husband doesn't apologize and he's wrong, I just let it go because it's not worth it. But to never apologize, geesh. You both need to go to marriage counseling to work out your differences. Good luck
2006-11-11 14:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she subscribes to the old adage. Love means never having to say sorry. Or maybe she takes it out on you because she can't seem to be more aggressive with others.
2006-11-11 21:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know since this is bothering you so much, you need to address it, remember communications is the key to a good marriage, so talk to her about it. and ask her how we can work on, solving this problem?
2006-11-11 13:40:15 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years? forgive and change your ways
2006-11-11 13:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is self centered and only cares about her feelings not yours make your own decision
2006-11-11 13:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by ken j 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋