how to help someone harming themselves?

Question

i've realised that self harming is not the answer to the pain it just creates more, but wen your frustrated and you feel like your on your own you feel like maybe just maybe people would help if they saw...but even though u kno u need help u odnt listen to who u need to, u think ur right, u think these scars are goodbye to whatever made u cry, but no everytime u look there the memories hurt more than ever..im hurting so ****** much right now cos my best friend she started cutting a few months after she saw my scars and now my brother as really deep scars and is wrist he could of cut to deep, im scared and i think its my fault, im such a bad influence i dont deserve life, but this isnt about me, i want to help my brother stop im scared for him i love him and forgive him for everything and it hurts to see in his eyes hes lost and i need to help find him, before its too late..i really need advice :'(

Answer 1

You need to tell someone what is going on with your brother...your parents would be first. If you feel that you can't tell them, then tell a relative or a counselor at school, or someone that you trust that has the power to do something about it.
There are different agencies that you can call also. Check them out.
You need to get help for yourself also. Your life is just as important as his is. How do you think your family and friends will feel if you kill yourself? Do you know what kind of pain they will go through for the rest of their lives? Your pain will be over when your heart stops...but theirs continues for the rest of their lives. I know this because my father committed suicide the day after Christmas 200, and we still miss him and wonder why he did it, as he left no note and there wasn't anything that major going on in his life that we can see that would have warranted that kind of action. I'm sure he felt he had a good reason, but we are the ones left to have to deal with the aftermath of his tragedy.
Don't do this to your family and friends. Get some help before it is too late.

Answer 2

I used to have two friends with this problem. In both cases situations were really different, as well as the root of it. In the first one, my friend was only trying to get her parent's attention. However, the only way of her to get over it was realizing it was not OK. She needed a lots of love from the people surrounding her, so the first thing to do is tell them what your problem is.
Obviously is a self-esteem problem, and you shouldn't feel bad about it. It's completely normal to have these kind of issues.
My other friend had a more serious problem. In this case she needed medication because she has a mental disease. Nothing to worry about, she can have a normal life. The only thing she has to do is take some pills everyday. In that way, her brain receives a substance she can't produce on her own.
Don't worry, there tons of people with these kind of disorders. The most important thing is that now that you recognize you have a problem take some actions. By that I mean, talk to your parents, your couple or your best friend. Explain what is going on and go to a doctor. They know better than any one how to help.
This may not be usual, but if you got any more questions, or just want to speak about it, mail me. [e-mail]

Answer 3

Sounds to me that there is another cause for why you and your brother are doing this! How can you help him if you do the same thing, but I wouldn't blame yourself! There is another reason. You need to get some real professional help for yourself and if you can get him to go too that would be great. Instead of cutting yourself, can you get a punching bag to release this anger that you have? Then all 3 of you can have an alternate way of letting out your anger. Just keep reminder yourself that all of us are beautiful. That you should not hate yourself. There must be things in your life that you can't grasp or control and it is hurting you. But what is the point of hurting yourself more? Go and talk to someone. This is not an uncommon problem, I bet they even have help lines for this. Good luck to you and them!

Answer 4

Okay you say you started all this, then it is up to you to have a
long talk with them. Tell them how you regret doing it and that it hurts you to see them hurt them self. Tell them that all of you
can help each other with your problem. Maybe there's something he can help you out with your problem and you can help them
with their problem. Instead of hurting yourself for what ever reason you all might have, why don't you all get together and go have some fun. Spend some quality time with one another. If
all else fails tell your Parents how you feel. Getting to the heart of the problem can help solve the problem or a least make it a
little better. All of you are so young an there is so much out there
for all of you to do. Make an effort to do something for yourselves.
So for what ever reason you three might have try to change
them to positive things. All of you need to keep your selves busy
so you wont think about negative things. Remember your parents
are there to help you out and if they aren't then tell someone else
like an Adult relative.

Answer 5

Obviously, self mutilation is not normal by any stretch of the imagination and cutting is epidemic in young people right now. Cutting is a cry for help.

You and your brother and your entire family need professional help. Cutting is dangerous. You may cut too deeply and then there is not way to get back or you can get infections and, of course, be scarred for life.

The cutting is a response to something you feel helpless against. You both probably also have issues with self worth.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20050127-000001.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self_mutilation
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=38018

Answer 6

Dear Olly,,,,,,
Don't beat yourself up too bad...I can understand that you are sorry for what you did and your influence. But just as you influenced them to cut you can influence them for better things. You have to respect yourself. Remember thoughts are things so think positive focus on your good attributes and help them focus on theirs. You are here for reason. Pray,,,try,,God helps. Please forgive yourself. & be who you want to be you have to live with her forever! Love and all the best to you and your friends...

Answer 7

have him committed

Answer 8

please, all of you seek professional help now.