Opinions about child support?

Question

I think child support, in most cases, is BS. I am speaking as a mother of one and do not get child support.My sons father has him half the time and provides everything he needs when he is with him. My husband on the other hand has a son and the mother took him and moved away because he didn't want to be with her.My husband has ALWAYS taken care of his son.He gave her money voluntarily and still paid for stuff on the side for him. Now she filed child support and has been awarded $400 a month for one child! how rediculous is that. If child support is suppose to be fair then they are telling us it takes $800 a month to take care of this child? Thats BS! Unless your childhas special needs or is ill it does not take even 400 a month to take care of one child. She has no rent cause she lives with her dad and my husband paid for both cars she has. Why do they have these men solely paying for these kids? What is the mothers responsibility? What does she pay for?

Why do they make good men pay for these kids by themsleves. They pay enough to where the mother has to buy nothing. Women like this make good women look bad and make it hard for good men to be fathers. These laws need to be changed for men that WANT to be good dads and prevent money hungry women from taking advantage of them. Why do some women feel because they gave birth to a child that entitles them to a paycheck for the next 18 years? The worst part about my husbands situation is that this woman stopped taking birth control, unknown to him, after they agreed that was the method they would use. She tricked him and thought it was her choice to do so. She has sense then used his son to get whatever she wants and make him feel guilty if he doesn't do it. What do you guys think about child support and situations like this? They happen a lot these days. Some women need the help but some are just being greedy and vengeful.

In response to Freakzill, my husband WOULD be with his son helping with homework and teaching values and other things had she not taken him and moved because she was pissed at him. When she lived in the same state she left his son with him ALL the time while she went out. She never even has him now. She openly admitted she only has him about 3 hours a day and she leaves him with her dad while she goes out every night. So she is a good mother? No she is not and she does not deserve $400 a month. She is an over paid babysitter. My husband has asked her to send him to him sevaral times and she refuses to. He is not with his son by force NOT by choice.

And another thing, child support is not to pay the womans rent. She needs to work and provide a roof over the childs head just like the father needs to do the same. He shouldn't be giving her money to pay for utilities and rent. It is called CHILD SUPPORT, not HOUSEHOLD support. It should go to food and clothes for the child, daycare expenses and college education. And she needs to contribute something to those needs also. My husband not only pays the 400 to her but we put 400 away every month for his college fund in which she has not put a cent in the account. That child has 30k dollars at the age of 8. And she didn't help save it at all.

One more thing, you guys are saying it's based off both parents income. No I don't think so. My husband was laid off and got unemployment. He only got 1440 a month and still gave her money before she filed the papers. She of course was making more then him at that point and they still ordered 400 a month based on him only making 1440 a month and she pulls in about 40k a year with no household expenses of her own.

Answer 1

child support is not a magical number that the judge pulls out of his butt. child support is based on the income of the mother, the income of the father etc. the state has a chart and depending on what the father makes a figure is computed. in other words x+y=z. unfortunately i see alot of cases come through my court where the father is the one 99% of the time paying child support. and even worse the state does not factor in if the father has a mortgage, utilities, food expenses etc. it sucks big! i get so angry sometimes in court, but we have to maintain our proffessionalism. and as soon as these women find out that the father has obtained a second job, they petition the court for more money because he has more income. I had a case last week that was just absolutely insane. the man was a capt. in the army and he was ordered to pay alimony, child support, and maintain the mortgage on the house that she got during the divorce and he no longer resides in. in the end with all the money he was paying out to her, she ended up receiving more of his income than he did. I have even had many men blatently tell the judge that they would rather go to jail than to pay. I think in regards to reaching what amount he or she should pay, the state should take into considering what he/she pays out in living expenses and then factor child support. unfortunately the state feels that if you have to live under a bridge they don't care as long as they pay. you can always repetition the court and present your case and see if they will lower his support amount.

Answer 2

Why do they have these men solely paying for these kids?

to make the own it to their responsibility

What is the mothers responsibility?

to teach morals , spend time , help with homework , ect... if you are a mother you would know the man paying 400 a month has a much easier time than the mother raising the child

What does she pay for?

she should just pay for her stuff , most of the child's expenses should be paid the one not living with the child . you can't expect for 2 people to split the bills and 1 of them to do all the work can you? that would not be fair at all .

Answer 3

Yes, child support is necessary. There are way too many parents who leave the family, or were never a part of the family, and then ignore the children. I think it should cut both ways. A mother is just as culpable as a father if she leaves the kids to to the dad and doesn't contribute to the support.

In some cases this has caused unjust situations for individual parents but on the whole it has helped single parents to provide for needy children.

Answer 4

In 1980, my mother received $450 a month to take care of me. The rent on a 2 bedroom apt. in a middle class area was $300. My father was an absent father. My mother probably would have been fine with $200. She rarely spent that on me. It's basically a gift to the primary caretaker which is tax free. Does anyone monitor this to see if child eats? Why do rich parents have to pay $10k or more. Some children have travel expenses I guess.

Answer 5

I agree with you that sometimes child support seems unfair. You can probably find a child support calculator for your state on the internet. Punch in the numbers and see if $400 is the correct amount. Child support is supposedly based on both parent's income. The parent who makes the most money is, unfortunately for your husband (and mine), responsible for a larger percentage of the child's needs. The calculator also allows for child care expense and health insurance costs. It doesn't always seem fair and lots of times it looks like the kids don't benefit from the support. Eighteen years is a lonnnngggg time, I know.

Answer 6

now you know why a lot of men refuse to pay child support. when the courts count both the mothers and fathers income to figure child support then it will be more even.

and talk about bs. when my son dumped his girl friend, the state made him pay for all of the hospital bill for their child's birth.

Answer 7

True joint custody(where each parent has the child 1/2 the time) is completely different from one where one parent has 100% custody. It's awfully sad you support your husband's irresponsible behavior but I wonder how you'd feel as a single Mom with custody and no child support when he moves on again.

Answer 8

What planet are you living on? $400 a month doesn't cover housing, utilities, clothes, food, insurance, entertainment, school supplies, lunches, snacks- and the list goes on. Stop whining and let your husband accept his responsibilities

Answer 9

lady.....u shoud gather supporters of which id b the first and b an advicot for the good divorced dads of america.u women do have power in these matters.i say this respectally,but i love u.thanks